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Which attributes do you care for in a relationship?

Care and Trust
Sex and Fun
Promise
Soulmate
The Middle Ground

Ironically, the middle ground, I think, is one of the hardest to have, since having just enough of everything is pretty much, well, ideal. :p

Anyway, I'm facing a tough issue. I have a nice, likeable girlfriend who ticks all the boxes for "Care and Trust" and "Soulmate". But I've a slight nagging regret that I had been too eager to commit, so I'm now tied down by my "Promise" to her.

So now when I see other prettier, more outgoing/adventurous/fun, more capable girls out there, my feelings get a bit complicated. Especially when I manage to get along quite well with them.

Thus far though, I've kept my distance with other girls as good friends, and occasionally name-drop my girlfriend in conversations. I sometimes also egg the other girls to get hitched too, which I privately thought will help me to not get distracted by all the eligible single ladies. :p

I know I know. I wish there were 10 poll options, but alas, there are only 7. So, if you prefer and even more concentrated gender-personality, then. But, I think it works out, because no one is really 100% masculine or feminine. Everyone has a mix of the two sets of traits.

I mean this relative to who you prefer to date or be in a relationship with. Your ideal partner's trait makeup.

Perhaps you can think of other masculine traits or other feminine traits or don't agree with this list. That's okay. Use your own perception of the traits in your poll choice. And yes, I know, some of them are repeated. Shush.

Remember everyone. Everyone has a mixture of all of these traits.

Feminine traits--------------------------Masculine Traits
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Surrender==================Freedom
Receptivity=================Direction
Empathy===================Logic
Radiance==================Focus
Flow =====================Integrity
Sensuality=================Stability
Nurturing==================Passion
Dependence================Independence
Sharing====================Dicipline
Tenderness=================Confidence
Patience===================Aware
Loving=====================Strength
Soft=======================Hard
Sexually Submissive==========Sexually Dominant
Affectionate ================Aggressive
Emotional==================Unemotional
Passive====================... Aggressive
Graceful===================Clumsy
Sensitive===================Tough-Skinned
Cooperative=================Competitive
Nurturing ===================Protective
Self-critical==================Self-confidence
Accepting===================Rebellious

Again. You don't have to agree with these. You don't have to understand them. You can think they're entirely incorrect. You can think masculinity and femininity are "social constructs". Whatever. Just use your own perception of what is masculine and feminine to you in your answer. This list is just a guideline.

It baffles me that there seems to be a disconnect with a lot of girls in their interpretation on the importance of attraction with the opposite gender.

My view:
Body + Personality = Ideal

A Lot of Girls View:
Personality + At least average looking

To girls, they would feel insecure and not feel very confident if they are in a relationship with a guy that said to her "I don't find you very attractive but I love your personality". Girls WANT guys to be physically attracted to her and mentally.

But... why is it that it seems girls can't grasp that the same is true in reverse. I have noticed many girls not compliment their boyfriends physically or make them feel confident about their looks. But would complement their personality and they expect them to feel confident

I personally lose attraction to a girl that would only lack 1. just my personality or just my looks.