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I spent some time with a longtime galpal of mine last weekend. She's a wonderful woman and probably the only true "gal pal" I have.

Anyway she just got in a divorce a month ago after a 6 year relationship. She told me that she was struggling to "forgive herself" for making the decision to leave her ex. However whenn we met up last weekend she was at probably her most attractive, most confident and most successful I have ever seen her. I found it incredible (and scary) that she was able radiate like this after only being broken up for A MONTH. She also told me she already found a fuck buddy only ONE WEEK after she broke up with her ex. Her ex knows this guy too.

She told me that her ex "was a good man" but definitely not an "alpha". She told me how his quirks eventually drove her nuts. She was is probably more of a "guy's girl" chics I know, but she hinted about some eccentric/hypocritical behavior's I really dislike in women. She tells me that I should be more comfortable and "open" with my sensitivities/emotions i. e. they are not a turnoff to women. However she also alluded to saying this one of the major reasons she dumped her ex (I've been following Corey Wayne about this). It depressed me to hear this feminine double standard.

Anyway her ex was completely taken off guard by this break up (of course). I'm almost completely sure he went on cruise control after they got married and just brushed off her emotional/bitchy moments as no big deal. However I think this was a long time coming (in her mind) and finally she snapped.

Case in point I believe most women usually break up with men LONG before they leave them. They come to a mental decision, make plans (including back up guys) and then look for ways to "justify" the split (pay more attention to a guy's quirks, mistakes, etc). This is a strategy to placate their conscious. Not saying it's completely wrong, but it's really just sad. Most guys usually don't see this coming.

I saw this interesting comment online:
Type A: Guys who feel that relationships are the result of mutual attraction, therefore to them it doesn't really matter who asks out whom. This type may approach if given a positive signal (aka a flirty smile from across a room).

Type B: Guys who appreciate confident women and does not believe that they need to abide by a convention of passivity, this category appreciate a woman even more if she takes the initiative, since this would show that the woman is confident, courageous and has the grace to risk rejection. To put it straight they like the woman approaching them.

Type C: Guys who are the most visible/vocal one, s of which is probably why all women believe that all men subscribe to this category's views. The men in this category abide by a hunter-prey mentality when it comes to relationships. They believe that relationships are initiated due to a man's constant efforts to impress a woman and the woman's eventual "giving-in". This is the type of guy who is intimidated/feels a woman is easy if she asks him out, and may lose respect for a woman if she does so.

I'm personally a mix of A/B. I would never look down upon a girl for approaching me. But considering this doesn't happen frequently enough for me to sustain a decent dating life... I look for positive signals which give me the 'Ok' for me to go chat to her (AKA her giving you a few glances and perhaps a smile). I don't like trying to 'chat up' girls that just won't be attracted/interested in me unless i somehow deploy some crazy manipulating 'game' method... I'd say i conform with type A the most.

Of course this sort of thing may be different for say if you're looking for a partner or just a one night stand so feel free to distinguish a preference for those two options in the comments.