Anyway she just got in a divorce a month ago after a 6 year relationship. She told me that she was struggling to "forgive herself" for making the decision to leave her ex. However whenn we met up last weekend she was at probably her most attractive, most confident and most successful I have ever seen her. I found it incredible (and scary) that she was able radiate like this after only being broken up for A MONTH. She also told me she already found a fuck buddy only ONE WEEK after she broke up with her ex. Her ex knows this guy too.
She told me that her ex "was a good man" but definitely not an "alpha". She told me how his quirks eventually drove her nuts. She was is probably more of a "guy's girl" chics I know, but she hinted about some eccentric/hypocritical behavior's I really dislike in women. She tells me that I should be more comfortable and "open" with my sensitivities/emotions i. e. they are not a turnoff to women. However she also alluded to saying this one of the major reasons she dumped her ex (I've been following Corey Wayne about this). It depressed me to hear this feminine double standard.
Anyway her ex was completely taken off guard by this break up (of course). I'm almost completely sure he went on cruise control after they got married and just brushed off her emotional/bitchy moments as no big deal. However I think this was a long time coming (in her mind) and finally she snapped.
Case in point I believe most women usually break up with men LONG before they leave them. They come to a mental decision, make plans (including back up guys) and then look for ways to "justify" the split (pay more attention to a guy's quirks, mistakes, etc). This is a strategy to placate their conscious. Not saying it's completely wrong, but it's really just sad. Most guys usually don't see this coming.
1. Many women (but not all) have the "grass is always greener on the other side" attitude when they get into relationships 2. Being a single lady is very "cool" and "strong" in our modern society. 3. It's completely fine to bash on your ex (who did nothing fundamentally wrong) to avoid feeling guilt.
Sometimes breakups are necessary but I don't like how our society "gives power" to women with this.
Most Helpful Girl
i was in a relationship where something like this happened~ we broke up in the winter of 2012, but our relationship was over long before that.
a couple of months before we officially broke up, i was out with some friends one night and one of the guys in our group asked me, "who's your backup"?
the question caught me off-guard, esp. since i had given zero thought to dating anyone else, but he said that his most-recent ex had jumped into bed with another guy immediately after they broke up and that's what he thought all women did.
nope, not me. no thank you... although i've been blindsided by someone breaking up with me while i worked to "save" the relationship.
as for me and the guy... he did a lot of horrible things to me, and so leaving him (while not without its trials) was empowering. maybe that's the case with your friend as well~ you can't save something (or someone) that doesn't want to be saved.
Most Helpful Guy
Most women are never really satisfied with what they have, they always need everything to get better and better and better constantly or else they start looking for the door.
They're looking for a magical wizard to make them instantly and constantly happy. And as soon as they realize you're not him, they feel perfectly fine betraying you, because you already disappointed their impossible standards, which to them is a form of betrayal.
So they can justify ANYTHING they do to ANYBODY because their own personal happiness is the only thing in the universe that matters to them. I mean these women abort their OWN BABIES. They kill their own children in the womb, how much care or concern do you think they have for YOUR life, YOUR feelings?
Most women have less than zero care or concern for anybody but themselves, and men who act the same way, usually learn this behavior in response to the behavior of women around them.
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