Is it true that women "plan" break ups much further in advance than guys? (Page 2)

[Likes2drive]

I would say that’s true because since 80% of women filed for divorce, you know they’ve been planning that way in advance

[Nyx_85]

Men do this too. I've seen it happen countless times. It's usually because the person hasn't worked up the courage to break it off yet. Sometimes that takes some time.

[Nyx_85]

Deciding to end a marriage is not a light ordeal. Of course she would give it some thought. While she was considering the breakup of course his quirks would annoy her even more. Because she's thinking about why she wants to end things so she's noticing them more and more until they become all she sees. And as far as finding herself a fuck buddy that is probably just how she is dealing with it. It doesn't mean she had him lined up before.

[Asker]

She didn't have him "lines up" but she knew this other guy for a long time. Her ex figured out it was him.

Totally not judging her. Like I said I love her as a friend and I'm glad she's happy. But I'm just talking about female behavior in general. This has been done to me too.

[Nyx_85]

This is fairly common thing for a lot of people.

[Nyx_85]

Oh and I guess the 'men do this too' comment offended some people? Get over it you guys. You can't constantly be saying "Women do this blah blah blah" when guys do it as well. Maybe YOU wouldn't do it, but that doesn't mean you speak for every single dude out there. We all have experiences too ya know!

[Nyx_85]

Literally everything I've heard guys complain about with women I've either had done to me or seen it done to someone. But of course you don't date men so you wouldn't know that. You just think about how you are. Well it's easy to be biased when you only see one side. I'm not like a lot of women yet I would never agree or deny it when someone points out their negative behavior.

[Nyx_85]

*ARGUE not agree

[Asker]

Men do this too but not even NEARLY to the extent women do

[Nyx_85]

How would you know? You don't date men.

[Nyx_85]

Every single guy that has broken up with me has done this. And I've heard about it from countless other chicks. My friend's boyfriend moved into a place with her and lived with her for a year then when he broke it off he said he had been thinking about it for a while and never really wanted to live with her. Pretty much everyone I've ever known has had this happen to them. It's quite common for BOTH genders.

[Asker]

Because I am a man and I know what it's like to want peace, tranquility and consistency with someone. Women want this too but many (if not most) will subconsciously "test" men to keep him "on center". If he fails too many "tests" women will then put him in a dump category and strategize on how to move forward with it.

I'm not necessarily blaming the entire gender on this. But I'm more pissed of on how our modern feministic society enables and justifies women for doing this as if she is "strong". The women will get much more support and respect for doing this than the man. Sometimes it's the right thing to do but other times it's not.

[Nyx_85]

Seriously if you guys are so damn offended at me pointing out this goes BOTH WAYS then you are fucked up in the head and you need counselling.

[Nyx_85]

Lol. I could tell you stories about all the testing I've been put through by guys. Like really. You may want peace and tranquillity but it isn't just because you are a man. It's your personality. Same thing with testing. Not everyone tests.

[Asker]

I never disagreed it goes both ways. But woman get more justification for doing the "testing" then men.

[Nyx_85]

I don't test. I observe behaviour through every day normal life. I don't instigate. I let things happen naturally. If the behaviour is inappropriate or contrasts too much with what I prefer then I move on.

[Asker]

Well if that's true then great. Remember I said women "subconsciously" test. Most don't even realize they are doing it.

[Nyx_85]

Where did you hear that?

[Asker]

from my own observations. Corey Wayne also had a really good book about this. Women do this to make to test if a guy is in his "masculine". The less interested they are in the guy the more they do it.

[Nyx_85]

Corey Wayne? The guy with the dating videos on YouTube? What exactly are his credentials? Did he explain that most often when women test to see if a man is a strong and suitable partner? Not just for the 'hell of it'? And that unless she is really insecure those tests won't last forever.

[Nyx_85]

Also not everything a woman does or says is a test.

[Asker]

I'm not taking everything he says as if it's written in stone. But the guy definitely knows more about women then I do. He never said women test for the "hell of it" but they do test for a "suitable" partner.

That's fair but some women go way WAY too far with this. Our feministic society isn't helping either. How many dating articles out there do you see that are titled something along the lines "5 reasons you should end the relationship" that are written for women? It's out there for guys too but the majority of the time I see dating advice books/articles written by women FOR women that boils down to saying "follow your emotions no matter what"

[Nyx_85]

Women are generally more in tuned with their emotions then men. So while we can definitely overreact and be insecure a lot of the time if we REALLY feel something is off we are right. Not saying one should rely on emotions only but emotions are often the starting point of realizing a problem. After that it's important to weigh all the other methods of figuring it out. And once you've tried them if it still isn't going to work out then move on. I've never broken up with someone because I simply 'felt' bad. I look at it through all angles and try to fix things. If it can't be fixed then I call it quits.

[Nyx_85]

Here are some articles on reasons to leave a relationship:

love.allwomenstalk.com/.../7?lastslide

www.innerbonding.com/.../...your-relationship.html

They seem to be pretty solid. Not much about leaving just because you feel like it.

[Nyx_85]

I don't get why you guys are so offended by this lol. All I said was "Men do this too". I never said women are perfect little angels... But guess what? Neither gender is perfect. So grow the fuck up.

[Asker]

funny how the second article brought up "addictions" are a reason to leave. My 2nd to last ex didn't leave because of addictions (I do have some minor ones). However I found out through a friend she broke with the last guy she was seeing because he is an alcoholic, but he is seeking treatment. However she is also supporting him through this process where I was treated less than human after we split. I had something horrifying happen 3 weeks after the break up and when I talked to her about it she literally told me "tough luck... you're an ex". Basically her mental defense strategy to get over me was to focus on my quirks, treat me like pond scum. That way she had less guilt and regrets.

My friend who got in a divorce is literally doing the same thing. Her ex didn't do anything fundamentally wrong, but she kept talking about his aloofness, quirks and shortcomings in a effort to dehumanize him.

[Nyx_85]

Well I don't know what addictions you have and how your relationship went to it's hard to make any sort of judgement on why she did that.

[Nyx_85]

What exactly is fundamentally wrong? He didn't cheat on her? Beat her up? Gamble all their money away on sloth fights?

[Nyx_85]

Look at them go!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yhg64DWEfI

[OddBeMe]

Sounds true. Hard to tell.

Guys I’d say would do it slower. Make sure we have a backup pussy.

[Lovesoad1]

Most women plan to break up before the relationship starts

[Anonymous]

I think guys may. I didn't plan my own breakup a year ago for God had it in His own Plan.

[Pizzalover101]

If she says that it's just cuz she wants a new guy board with her ex you can tell she is a player no girl sleeps eothva new guy in a week if she loved him ever

[Staximus]

Monkeys don't let go of one tree until they are grabbing onto the next

[dudeinohio]

I'd say yes. Ex wife was plotting against me for weeks, if not months.

[Mangospacho]

Yes, and they get really mad if their plan leaks and you break up with them in advance.

[bertomania]

guys find it hard to believe that me for example could have a girl pal without getting in her pants

[Asker]

most of the time I avoid the "friends" bullshit with women because they still look for handouts as if they are dangling something. In my early 20s I was sucker for that bs, but I wised up later. However I started strictly business with this chic when I met her 12 years ago. I also wasn't ever that attracted to her (except for maybe one or two drunken moments).

But what I've noticed that since she's gotten in her 30s she's gotten smarter in all the wrong ways. She's gotten meaner, more sarcastic and feels less guilty for what she does. I'm not saint myself, but it's some women get worse when they get older. It's sad.

[krin_m]

I don't think women do that any more than men.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

Most women today are worthless sluts that will destroy your life. Avoid them like the plague.

[Anonymous]

Most women plan their divorces before even getting married. No joke they love to plan failure.

[whistlingwh0res]

there is no men nor women... all men are cross dressers

[amitkumar01]

I think girls always have backup guy ready as her best friend lol

[rairai]

not necessarely. i did it sometimes instatly

[Asker]

I think instant break ups are justifiable if someone did something fundamentally wrong (cheating, physical abuse, etc). I dumped girls for this.

[rairai]

yeah. it happens. you can t plan a breakup unless you do love that person and yiu want to find a way to break up without brraking the person... if thay makes sense to you

[lord_chilled]

yeah, but sometimes, guys do it too

[Anonymous]

i would say that's true

[Anonymous]

No, that is and always been a myth.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but some guys do the same thing.

[Anonymous]

most of the time. guys have no clue about this

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's absolutely correct

[In_Trance]

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