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I have seen MANY comments over the years i have been here where the commenter basically says that no matter what a woman does to a man it can never count as abuse because men are bigger and stronger.. Additionally they will say idiotic things like "you didn't fight back so you must have deserved it" What they are too stupid to understand is that when men dont fight back its because they know they will go to jail for it. In our world at least in the US, with the Duluth model (link included) If a man calls the police because he is being abused, he, not the abuser, will go to jail. He, not the abuser, will be charged. This happens more often than you might believe. If you look at some of the most recent statistics IPV/DV shows more than 40% of domestic violence cases are men, but fewer than 6% of men will actually report it for the reasons stated above, i know it happened to me.. I was not arrested, but i was told that i would have been if she was still there, when im the one bleeding from multiple spots on my face, and needing stitches.

The worst part of this is the fact that when men call DV hotlines, they are either told that they dont help men, or they are treated as the abuser. Additionally there are virtually no DV shelters for men, save for one in Arkansas. Most DV shelters take in only women, and once a boy is over the age of 12 they are turned away. Because of this men that are victims of DV tend to suffer in silence due to ridicule and the risk of going to jail.

Attached are links to the things i have talked about.

Good articles on the Duluth model
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model

http://menweb.org/battered/batdulut.htm

Articles on DV against men.

https://thecrimereport.org/2018/06/27/when-men-are-the-victims-of-domestic-violence/

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence

https://nationalparentsorganization.org/blog/3977-researcher-what-hap-3977

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