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In his email the next day, he said he really loves me and cares about me, and wants to work it out. He feels that I treat him like a king most of the time. Sometimes, we get into arguments about little things, but they spiral out of control (which leads to me not letting go of an issue, and him swearing at me or punching a wall.) I walk away or sometimes he does, and later we would talk when things cool down. However, frequency of our fighting is taking a toll on both of us. I have not responded to any of his calls, texts, messages, or emails. He has also contacted my family to ask if I'm okay. I didn't want to respond because I was so hurt that he broke up with me, and I'm still hurt. He sent me another message saying to take my time, and then contact him when I'm healed. He's really a wonderful person (e. g. my flip flops broke, and he would give me his sandals so I would not have to walk barefoot, he takes me on fun vacation trips, he makes me laugh when I'm having a bad day at work). I'm taking my time because I don't know if he's going through the grieving process of losing me or if he truly thinks I'm the one he wants to be with in a long-term relationship if we can work out and stop the fighting. I'm also fearful because it really hurt when he broke up with me; I practically felt sick and could not work. Is it possible to lessen the frequency of the fighting? Should I go back to him? How should I even respond? I'm 28, and he's 33.