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Coping with Grief and Loss

Learning to Grieve


Personally this is one of the hardest “myTakes” and most personal ones I’d ever make. It’s not easy to know that you have to say goodbye and that one day you’ll see them again. In a way losing someone can really make a person look at life differently (it can either break you or make you become stronger). For me I remember when my grandmother passed away I was awake from 6am that day and didn’t sleep until 5am (took a one hour sleep) woke up in fear near her bed, had a discussion with my father that morning and I was the last one to be in a room with her and the only one to see her go. Maybe it was lack of sleep but for a whole month I felt tired, my childhood was officially gone (I spent a lot of my childhood with her). I never got to grieve (still haven’t) because I was too busy caring for my father during the whole process of her passing. It’s been hard but with that time I just slowly learned that it’s okay to have a moment and to reflect. So these are some ways you guys/girls can learn how to grieve if you are in a time of need.


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1. Relax


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Grieving can be stressful, however who says it must be that way? You need to relax and know that the person passing wouldn’t want to see you stressed out. When you stress your brain literally changes the amount of information it can take in and the way it will process. We learn our best when we relax. Shame is usually what triggers us to be stressed, just know you’ve done your best and that you need to identify this before your health becomes a risk.


2. Look for Help


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It’s okay to admit you are feeling weak. I never did this because I had to be strong for someone else and yet I never got the chance to ask for help (It took me months to properly grieve after my grandmother passed). In order to properly heal you need to talk, you need support and to acknowledge that you have pain. For me though I learned my therapy for this wasn’t people but going to the gym, working out (lifting weights) and running. That therapy I did really made me think and took time to let whatever pain I felt inside out and eventually that pain would go away slowly day by day.


3. Don’t Let Anyone Tell You How To Feel


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Oh please don’t! I refused to eat for a good week and had people telling me how I needed to eat, how I had to get sleep and basically what I needed to do to grieve properly, however I was going through PTSD and no one knew that (I was very traumatized when my grandmother passed). I got angry and when people told me not to get mad I just got angrier because they told me how I should be. If you want to cry, if you want to scream, if you want to draw, if you want to be silent for a few days then YOU HAVE THAT RIGHT! Everyone deals with grief differently and if you feel like hitting the gym for 2 hours a day to get your pain out then you go ahead and do that. Just know that while you are feeling how you feel to remember not to let go of the person but to let go slowly that they passed away and know they will forever be with you in spirit.


4. Look After Your Health


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During the time of grief just know while feeling how you feel to make sure you aren’t becoming sick. It’s tough but the mind and body are connected. It’s okay to be angry, feel some form of pain and some form of depression during the time of grieving but DO NOT take any drugs or alcohol to ease the pain. You need to naturally ease the pain and if it takes a month or 6 months just know you got to feel how you feel because it will help you get better.



Alright guys I hope this helped. Feel free to comment and message me telling me what you think or what topics you’d like for me to do. Thank you everyone for reading and god bless :) <3

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