Search Results: guys being clueless

I've known this girl for 2 years since starting university, a simple description would be a gleeful -- odd but outgoing -- focused person aspiring to go to medical school. Me on the other hand, A former anxiety-ridden guy who likes molecular genetics, top of the class but my social life does not exist (2 hour cummute to uni everday).

I saw just another uni friend, yet, I think through her being occasionally with my vicinity (e. g. at meeting events or elsewhere) we both got to know each other on a casual friends level. I knew she was getting comfortable around me; conversations ranged from random mundane stuff to deeper family issues on both sides. I began thinking "maybe, just maybe this person is a tad bit interested in me".

She had invited me to a Korean restaurant with 2 other uni friends we both knew (a homosexual and a guy already with a girlfriend, both similar age). Due to uni work, she cancelled -- which was understandable.

She calls out of the blue and we have plans to go to so the movie "Glass". in short, we were going alone together but I stupidly invite another friend who's 30 and the day involved me not really engaging much (it sucked). We both could tell she was uncomfortable and her excuse to not see the movie after we ate were because she could tell that I was tired and pretty much not enjoying this (which was true). life goes on.

She agrees to go to another restaurant with me (I initiated) and because I have slowly lost interest I cancel this a day before with the excuse -- I have a meeting (that I had no intentions of going to).

The next day I sit next to her in a lounge and things are normal, she had new earrings and dress and the conversation is fine albeit she seems to always try and get me talking despite me not initiating at all.

The signs?
Responds quickly whenever I text
gives me the same nicknames she calls her girlfriends
very touchy during conversations
Leaning in when we talk?
asks me what I think of the things she wears.

How many times do you come across a post and it's some girl explaining why nice guys are bad, bad boys are good, blah, blah, blah and you'll see the male equivalent bashing some arch typal traditional man as a toxic male epitome and that the good male puts ladies first blah blah blah. It's everywhere. It's as prevelant as the sloganeering, you know when some clueless jerk picks up some culty mantra cliche off a pop culture forum "men suicide rates blah blah blah" completely disingenuous, just a layer to throw over some BS feelings. The two are just two sides of the same coin really. It's the person trying to artificially construct a false pretense to justify themselves. Notice the bottom line usually says it all people. "Nice guys, you aren't man enough!" = "You are not even" = "I want more" It's a justification and it's achieved by rationalization. The "not man enough" bit is nothing more than an illusion to trick your mind into missing whats actually being said, hypergamy. You'll see this all the time, when people start to crumble when they are trying to create false reasoning, you'll see logic go out the window, giant leaps in thought and articulation, you'll be looking at a picture that looks like it was shot by a tommy gun.

Not saying you should hate anybody. Its a natural mechanism to the human. No one likes it but its there to protect people from their own innate realizations. They don't want to be hypergamous, they just really feel tempted by it. So much that they say "nice guys blah blah blah" its obviously stupid. Women in their best state of mind dont want "a bad boy" a bad boy is somebody who is either deeply traumatized or is a sociopath. They are everything a man isn't.

You think so?