Hey babybats, it's Mrs. Manson back again and this time I'm here to react to conformists on the internet! Here's a little message first:
Now, on to our first item. It's an article I found online. If you want to torture yourself by reading it, all links will be at the end. The article is in normal text and my comments are in bold. Let's start.
How to be Feminine and Be 10X More Attractive
Okay, that's... very debatable.
What your mom and grandma would have told you if they knew. As a young adult, it made me angry when someone implied that men and women are different because that showed they were prejudiced. I saw that as the old, unenlightened thinking. I smugly believed I knew the truth: everyone was the same, regardless of gender. I agree with young you, lady. I knew how to be assertive, speak up for my rights, and correct others for their backward thinking. I was charming like that. Huh, sounds like me.
But I didn’t know how to be feminine, or even recognize my own astonishing power as a female. Looking back, I feel so sad for the clueless younger version of me. Wowww... lmao "astonishing power as a female" I was so hopelessly ignorant of the valuable contributions that I bring to my relationship and to the world as a woman that I tried to avoid seeming feminine. I equated femininity with weakness. I was afraid my gifts were repulsive. They kinda are
Now that I know what it looks like to be feminine, I find there’s such ease, dignity and comfort in it—such relief! I feel such a sense of rightness when I’m my feminine self. When I say feminine, I don’t mean manipulative or overtly sexual. I’m talking about honoring my feminine spirit, which I’ll explain. Let me pause to vomit. Learning how to be feminine rocked my relationship and my world in the best way I can imagine. There’s no makeup, clothes, or plastic surgery that can come close to having the irresistible magnetism of the feminine spirit in a woman. We're in for a ride, folks.
Here’s what you need to know how to do:
Receive Graciously. Receptivity is the essence of femininity. I’m going to repeat that, just to make sure you don’t miss it. It’s the key to blowing the whole mystery of how to be feminine wide open. Receptivity is the essence of femininity. To be more feminine, be more receptive. Here’s how: Consider receiving gifts, compliments, and help graciously. Uh no. I'll receive them how I want, thank you, ma'am.
That means if your husband says you look cute when you have bed hair, you say, “Thank you,” and nothing else. No need to explain that your hair is a mess. He has eyes too, and he doesn’t seem to think that matters. Just receive. Oh god, this makes me think of that stereotypical "women are seen not heard" shit...
It means if a co-worker says, “Do you want some help moving the chairs back?” and you feel guilty because it’s your responsibility, you smile and say only, “Thank you.” Receiving graciously also means that if someone offers you a present—your man, a friend, a co-worker—you receive that too. Unless you don't want it... Hannah decided to activate her feminine gifts when her new boyfriend, Sam, offered to repair her dilapidated car at his shop. She agreed, even though she was afraid she would owe him something in return. Oh, of COURSE the man is the strong one who can repair cars. Eww... how stereotypical.
He also wanted her to drive his expensive luxury car in the meantime. To make it even more uncomfortable for Hannah, he put new tires on her car. SOMEBODY STOP THIS MADMAN. It was all Hannah could stand to let him give her so much. She was nervous because she wasn’t used to such generosity, but she was determined to experiment with being feminine by being receptive. Instead of demanding something in return, Hannah’s boyfriend was happy and proud that he had been able to help her so much. Sooo, the man feels good and the woman feels like shit, and that's the GOAL? He seemed intent to find and complete his next mission in service of bettering her life so he could make her beam with happiness again.
She got to feel special and got a road-worthy car and he got to feel like her hero. Win-win! Imagine if she had said, “Oh you don’t have to do that,” and missed the chance to receive? She would have cheated herself out of the special treatment he wanted to give her, and he would have missed out on feeling proud and heroic. Lose-lose. Women are Built to Receive Think of your body as a metaphor. When it comes to sex, you are built to receive. Okay, so I'm a sub, but femdom IS a thing, and women are not delicate little flowers. So is your spirit.
Men are fundamentally attracted to the feminine. So the more receptive you are, the more feminine you will be. The more feminine you are, the more attractive you will be. Not true. But it’s not always easy. It wasn’t for me at first. I found it nearly impossible to be receptive at times. So I rejected lots of gifts, compliments, and help. I always had my reasons. I thought I would owe a debt. But that’s not possible—by definition, gifts are free! Same with compliments, and offers to help. Sometimes I was trying to prove I could pull my own weight. Reasonable
Other times I had another agenda: I didn’t want my husband to buy me flowers because it was a waste of money. I wanted to save money. Also reasonable Often I felt undeserving, if I’m honest, and vulnerable. And each time I rejected the things that were offered to make my life easier and more pleasant, I missed a chance to feel special, to get special treatment. I missed the chance to feel intimate with the person who was trying to lighten my load or delight me, especially my husband! Poor Receiving Made Me Less Attractive When my husband discovered he couldn’t make my life sweeter and easier with his efforts because I rejected them for whatever reason, the intimacy suffered. Today, my priority is to have the intimacy—to choose to be feminine—above my other silly reasons for not receiving. I have good receiving muscles now that I’ve been practicing. You can start practicing too.
If a man offers to put your bag in the overhead compartment on a plane, say, “Thank you.”
If the bagger at the grocery store offers to help you out to the car, consider saying, “Thank you.”
If your husband offers to change the comforter cover, and you fear he’ll put it on sideways, say only, “Thank you.” If he says you’re beautiful on a day when you don’t feel beautiful, accept his point of view and honor your feminine spirit by saying only, “Thank you.” There’s nothing more feminine than knowing you deserve to be admired, helped, and adored. But I don't...
How to Nurture Your Feminine Side
We all share energy that is both female and male. Think of it as yin and yang, complementary and both necessary. Dr. Deepak Chopra refers to God and Goddess energy in speaking about the collective soul. Whichever way you look at it, we have both. So we're fucking gendering ENERGY now?!
In today’s culture, there is a push toward gender neutrality. On one hand, it’s helping to create equal rights but on the other hand, it’s denying what is hard-wired and natural. Let’s take a look at how women in particular can nurture their feminine side because it’s something that has been lost in our highly fast-paced and competitive world. Actually it's a good thing
Appreciating the Feminine Within
When I was a student in my early 20s in France, I went with a boy to see his family in the French countryside. Both of his parents were physicians. His mother, a beautiful slender woman, was dressed in a skirt and blouse with her hair and makeup perfectly done. Eww There was no special occasion as it was the weekend and this was a country home. She was ironing her husband’s shirt while all dolled up. Somehow I found myself in a conversation with her about being a working woman and still catering to her husband. I will never forget what she told me: with a twinkle in her eye, she said, “You know. All we must do as women is fix ourselves up, iron a few shirts with a smile, and our husbands will be eating out of our hands.” what the fuck? iron your own damn shirt, and I'm not smiling. At the time, it seemed like an outrageous statement. But I think the reason it has stuck with me so long is that there is a grain of truth to it.
Femininity is a special gift. It makes us softer, gentler, kinder, nurturing, more compassionate, and naturally loving. Not all of us, honey As women we are naturally more vulnerable and open. We are created to bond. We are designed for relationships. We are designed to create life. (unless you're a lesbian or just don't want kids) And yes, our soft gentle features are meant to attract males.
Self-awareness is about appreciating who you really are. It’s about looking inside to understand your gifts and talents. There is nothing shameful about being a woman and embracing your feminine side.
Relationship experts like John Gray, who wrote the Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus series, explains that the reason there is much confusion today is that we have been taught to deny who we innately are. Women have taken on more masculine roles and have pushed themselves to act, think, and talk more masculine. So when she goes home at the end of the day and wants to be a woman, she doesn’t quite know how. So? That's not bad.
While I grew up when feminism was at its peak, I learned through much work in relationships, that I need to accept and embrace my feminine side. And I love it. Like the French mom, wife, and physician, I love it when a man opens a door, gives me his jacket, or fixes my toilet. I’m proud to embrace my softer feminine side. I'd just be like, "Hon, I can open doors, which is WHY I FUCKING HAVE HANDS!/ If I wanted your coat, I would have asked for it.../ I can call a plumber, asshole."
What Embracing Your Feminine Side Won’t Mean
When you appreciate and nurture your feminine side, it will not mean you are plunging back into the Dark Ages. Just because you enjoy this natural part of you, you will not lose your rights to vote, lose your job, or become barefoot and pregnant. It won’t mean that you are politically incorrect. And it certainly doesn’t mean you need to go to extremes. Somehow I think some women are afraid of that or are ashamed so they hide their beauty under unflattering clothing or take on a more masculine demeanor when out in public. Why is this bad?
In Ayurveda, we learn our mind-body type to understand who we really are and how we can regain and maintain balance. If you are working in a masculine-dominated field or have denied the feminine part of you for some time, it’s important to rebalance.
4 Ways You Can Nurture Your Feminine Energy
Many mothers, in particular, express that after work, kids, housework, shopping, and dinner preparation there is no room to be feminine. Here’s some great news: You can do all those roles and still include femininity. "great" ahahahahahahaha
You don’t have to do it all. I used to be Super Woman. I did it all. Of course I wasn’t feeling feminine because I carried all roles by myself. Now, I watch myself. I’m raising boys who will soon be men. I do give my boys the traditional jobs of taking out the trash, scooping the cat litter, and carrying heavy water bottles. But I also give them dish duty and bathroom duty. When I’m at the grocery store, I now say “yes” to the bagger who offers to bring the bags to my car. But do you know what? For the most part, men love to help out and do these things for you because male energy is designed for carrying heavy loads, things like troubleshooting and, oh yes, gallantry.
Dress the role. Honestly, what woman wouldn’t want to go out and buy some nice clothes, makeup, and a haircut if you gave her money to do it? this woman right here who saves up her own god damn allowance and is independent I used to frequent a website called Flylady.net in which the writer, Marla Cilley, taught that women should take a shower and get dressed with shoes on every morning so that they can feel their best. Pick out pretty clothes, get a favorite lipstick color, wear your favorite jewelry, or buy a nice pair of fashionable shoes. okay that's fine Get up 15 minutes earlier so you can take care of yourself and look your best so you feel your best.
Do activities that foster feminine energy. Have a girls’ night out. Get your nails done. Engage in a creative activity. Instead of opting for extreme sports all the time, take a painting class, or learn to knit or how to dance. Feminine or yin energy is cool, creative, passive, intuitive, and compassionate. Find activities that foster these qualities. If it feels strange at first, keep at it until you feel like you’re becoming more balanced.
Feel confident and accept compliments. Beauty is a woman’s natural trait. not all of usWhen you start to allow feminine energy to flow back into your life, people will notice. In the past, I had a difficult time with compliments on my physical appearance. I would get embarrassed and brush them off. Now I smile warmly and say, “Thank you.” Feel proud to be beautiful. Enjoy the compliments. They are simply a recognition that your feminine energy is flowing more freely than before. It means you’re bringing your energies back into balance.
Finally, if you’re wrong form of your subdued feminine side is telling you that this is all nonsense, imagine this: What male would ever doubt that he should ever be more masculine? ones who don't want to be masculine? I’ve never heard a guy say, “Oh, I should dress it down, I’m looking too much like a guy.” Now if I’ve made you laugh, I’ve started the process because laughter is a feminine trait. Now go, and find your goddess within. nah thanks, I'm good
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~ Mrs Manson