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In the past decade, with more awareness, we as a society (coming from a US standpoint ) are sharing more resources regarding abuse the effects of said abuse, whether physical, emotional, or mental. A few of the best ways to deal with it which if one experiences continued abuse by family despite many attempts to perform an intervention. The best solution has been to go, 'no contact, meaning to cut ties with the source of the abuse. Letting the family go as a result.

Many adults have had to do it so they can start anew, but when it comes to dating. This makes me wonder if this makes the now estranged adult look like a huge red flag or unattractive.

What are your thoughts?

It seems to me like a lot of people have so many issues that they dump on others, when they go out on dates... such as family/friend/ex/life drama, mental health issues, money issues, and so many more issues a person can have. I understand having problems you need help to solve, or needing someone to vent to. I’m not a counselor, therapist, or mental health coach. I want people I’m interested in or who are my friends to feel comfortable with talking to me, but I don’t want to feel like I’m just listening to your issues. For heaven’s sake if we’re on a date, you want to impress the person! Show them the best sides of you. I like to think of it almost like a job interview... They’re trying to see how compatible you are with their personality, likes, and dislikes.

PLEASE don’t go out on dates with people if you aren’t emotionally ready/able to and actually try to have a good time with the person. Go on dates because you are comfortable being in your own skin, and genuinely READY for a relationship, but not forcing/rushing anything.

I’m not a jerky person and I understand when you need to vent to someone. I don’t mind listening to a few minutes here and there, but please keep in mind that everyone has their own issues to solve/work out and I don’t always have the time nor the patience to listen to it.