How to get over him?

[Anonymous]

i had a massive crush on this guy who gave me all the signals that he liked me (he liked me before i liked him). he always acted super nervous and weird in front of me, i always caught him staring at me, literally every day. i was SO CLOSE to getting to know him better, maybe telling him soon that i liked him. but no. i can't anymore.
his best friend is a girl he's known since middle school. he's definitely a touchy feely guy, he always holds hands with his friends (not while he's walking) but just a little bit. today i saw her wearing his hoodie and him flirting with her. and he had the audacity to stare at me still. i'm so done with him. i don't even know if he likes me anymore? i know he did at one point but regardless of whether or not he likes me, i'm mad at the fact that this girl and him clearly have a history and might even be dating, but he STILL acts like he likes me.
i was so upset when i got home. i decided i need a new crush, or just no crush for now. just one problem - every time i see him, i think i go straight back to liking him. i don't want that to happen. any advice?

[ImDusty]

Sometimes we end up with different love interests in our life, and navigating this isn't easy for either side.
I have personally had a long time crush (never really dated, it was young complicated love), and started dated another girl and realized I had kind of messed up, I didn't cheat since we weren't dating, but what I really wanted was my crush. But for some reason we never got together, even though we both knew we liked each other. Love is a difficult thing, especially when you're young.
First, find out if they are dating, because you don't want to go after him if they are, unless you want big drama.
If he's single, tell him how you feel or ask how he feels. Just communicate. Don't be afraid to open up even though you might get hurt.
Life is too short

[ImDusty]

To answer your question of "Getting over him" if it doesn't work out, the answer is always time. Don't try to replace him so soon, but eventually it will do you good to seek another

[Asker]

thanks so much for your answer :)) maybe i won't try to get someone else first. i think that he dated the girl from his middle school for a while or something like that (if they aren't still dating) so i'm gonna try and distance myself. today he acted like he still has a crush on me but i tried to ignore him a bit. i'm gonna wait this one out and see what happens. at this point, it's up to him to approach me.

[spartan55]

"the audacity to look at me"... 😂 😂 Yeah, he not allowed or something?