How can I get over him?

[MindToHelpMe]

I liked this guy for 7months and I just wanted to show my feeling and confessed. He rejected me in front of everyone and now, I’m kind of embarrassed. We cannot return to original relationship which is more sad about it.

I want to get over him but every time I see him, my feeling starts all over again. I feel like I’m stupid.. how can I possibly get over him? Any comments for me is fine. I just wanted someone to talk to.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Oh, wow. I'm so sorry that happened to you. That was really unkind of him to do that to you publicly. As an adult, if a guy did that to me, I'd pull him aside privately and say "Look, I get that you don't feel the same and I can respect that, but how you handled it was unnecessarily public and embarrassing, and I didn't appreciate that". He might mouth off, or he might apologize and say he overreacted. But it conveys self-respect and dignity when we gracefully stand up for ourselves.

But since you are pretty young, I don't think that would work very well in this situation. Keep in mind that he actually is the one who looks bad here, not you. But also keep in mind that he was embarrassed as well, and probably has zero experience in rejecting someone tactfully. He probably needed to make it a big deal for himself and his perceived image, not because of who you are or because you aren't worthy.

It's hard when you don't have a ton of control over your life and can't just go travel or start a new hobby. I'd start with where you are, and what you have, to start working through how you feel. You aren't stupid for having feelings; you are dealing with multiple feelings right now and that is a lot to cope with. Feelings are like the sense of touch for our hearts; they can feel really good, or they can tell us something is wrong and/or hurt. You can journal about it, draw pictures about it, let yourself cry. It's OK.

If you can find a really great book series to read or listen to, that a good way to give yourself a break from the hurt. Try and get outside if you can. Take extra good care of yourself, and just make sure you do the basics right now (sleep, eat, drink water, etc.) Watch some movies you like. If you have any loving adults in your life who will listen to you process this (and not take advantage or dismiss you), that would help, too.

[sheikalana]

Dear, you need to give it some time. You don’t forget someone in a matter of days. You’ll be fine tho.

[TakingitEasy15243]

Sad when things like this happen but I can assure you it happens to everyone. Kudos for you as a girl to approach the guy you liked. Normally guys are the one's approaching. I'd have to recommend next time not asking someone you like out in front of everyone, tbh that's on you.

Time heals all wounds so if you want to be friends with him again just give it a few weeks. Then approach him again saying you understand if he doesn't like you and that's okay but that you'd love to remain friends.

[AviatorTom]

Best way to get over someone is to find someone new.

[dean53AU]

Just try your best to ignore him, dont talk to him or look at him.
Your young so there will be plenty of nicer boys wanting to get to know you, he is an asshole for doing that to embarrass you in front of your friends

[DishLady]

You want to return to ANYTHING with a jerk like that? SMH… move on.

[Anonymous]

Time.

The good news is you're a girl. While this won't be the last time you get rejected, take solace in the fact that guys on the average experience 10 times more rejection than any girl. Yes, even this guy who rejected you.

[LaurenM1997]

Block and delete his number delete him off of social media and go on dating apps

[LaurenM1997]

Ok maybe not dating apps you are too young for that

[laly520]

its fine
u r too young n u will get over it in no time

[scott04sa22]

Move on

[In_Trance]

Meet someone else