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I have started working at this restaurant for almost about a year and recently I met this wonderful guy that I found out worked seasonally because of his schooling at Indiana University. Do keep in mind that I am the shy, quiet, and introverted person. He started talking to me the first day I met him. He is a friendly guy and I am honestly surprised by how much I actually opened up to him within the expand of a couple of months. I felt like he and I became really good friends on the spot. We tell each other stories, jokes, work related stuff, and have really good conversations for the most part. Now eavesdropping on a coworker talking to my crush I found out about his girlfriend. This felt like a stab in the chest because he and I get along so well and I was starting to think that it was eventually going to blossom into something more than friendship eventually. He never once mentioned his girlfriend to me no matter what we talked about at work, and I can never understand why. The other day he stopped by at my work on his day off with some of his friends including his girlfriend, I casually said hi to him and talked with him a little bit before he went to go sit down with his friends and girlfriend he told me that he was hanging out with some friends and never mentioned his girlfriend. Maybe I am over thinking things but I can’t tell if he is just being friendly or if he is just secretly attracted to me in some way. Whenever I would say hi to him his face lights up, he would look me in my eyes for a long period of time whenever I talk to him, he is always smiling at me, he complimented how smart I was the other day, he is either making me smile or laugh, he is always saying hi and bye to me before and after work, and sometimes I would feel like he would act nervous around me or avoid me even though he and I are good friends. Why would he act this way even when he has a girlfriend? Is it attraction? Is he just being friendly and I am overthinking? Please help.

I have this close guy friend who I know is attracted to me by his body language and how he acts around me. But I feel interactions over text just give me mixed messages. He’s always had this flirty air with me, a year ago I started becoming sexually attracted to him but he had this like long distance girlfriend so I left it alone. Fast forward they broke up (he didn’t seem to have any chemistry with her when they met in person at all) and a few months ago those feelings resurfaced into more.

I feel he generally has a flirty personality in general but on the flip side he’s like really shy too so idek. Plus I’m close friends with him and haven’t really seen any signs of fuckboy with him.

Last week I subtly shoot my shot and offer to see a movie with him, but he had to cancel the night before because he had a film shoot. We’re both film people, it happens, no biggie we were just gonna do it another time. So I hit him up like an hour ago asking if he wants to go again, he hits me back right away with a day and everything and I start to look for showtimes (not available yet for that day I’ll just wait a couple days).

But then he suddenly is like “Do you wanna see if anyone else in the group wants to come?” (We have a large group chat with friends for certain hangouts). This is where I get a little thrown off because it was always gonna be a one on one thing whether platonic or not. And now he’s like wanting to bring people?

I shrug it off and say people probably already saw it and won’t be available on a weekday cuz everyone had already established that they work during the week and it’s on a Tuesday. He’s still like insisting that I mention it and whoever can make it makes it. I just didn’t respond cuz I really don’t want to coordinate a simple movie hangout with 13 people, AND I just want to hangout just the two of us like initially planned. He didn’t take to the chat himself or anything he just asked me if I wanted to bring more people.