I haven't seen him in two+ weeks. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We're both busy with school and jobs so we normally see each other twice a week for a few hours at a time. But two weeks ago, he went on a trip that set him back a few days in his schoolwork. Totally understandable, nbd, I get it. So we didn't see each other that week despite having a moderate conversation each day (we like to stay in touch). I asked if he'd like to do something over the weekend, only for him to cancel due to a prior commitment (also understandable, just unfortunate). But he never rescheduled our date, or even mentioned a future one; I thought that was a little rude but maybe I'm just overthinking it. Anyways, I said something along the lines of "it's a busy few weeks for you, huh?", to which he replied that he'd be free Tuesday if I'd like to do something then. Well, Tuesday rolled around and I didn't hear anything from him. I know he has the time to do things (he hung out with friends yesterday for HOURS) and he knows that I don't care about how long we hang out; it's just nice to see him and catch up. So what gives? We talk everyday and still regularly flirt with each other, but for some reason, he apparently doesn't care to see me enough to make plans. We sometimes go through these periods where he's really affectionate and attentive for a few weeks, but then drops off the map for the following few. It's been so long since the last time he was like this that I can't remember how I acted. Should I just wait this out and see if he reaches out first in the next week? I don't want to be that pushy girlfriend who forces her boyfriend to hang out with her if he doesn't want to, but I just miss him. Would it be weird if I asked to see him a second (or third, depending on how you see it) time? Thanks. Sorry this is so long.

[HollyK21]

Honestly you seem like a very understanding/rational girlfriend, and it’s not pushy to want to spend some kind of time with the person you’re in a relationship with. From what you’ve said, I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, say his heart is in the right place, and that his schedule is very demanding. At the same time, it sounds like it’s always been demanding, but he made seeing you a priority, and for whatever reason he’s not doing that right now. All this to say, if you haven’t already then you should suggest a conversation with him, to talk about what’s going on and decide your next steps. It’s possible that right now, with everything going on, may not be the best time for a relationship and would be something to revisit in the future if you both are interested.

[GAGSucksBalls1]

how in the world did you meet him during a virus

if i have to work from home because of a virus, you shouldn't be dating or having sex

[Unknowinglytruful]

I found my boyfriend through work

[GAGSucksBalls1]

so you're dating a coworker too

NOT GOOD

[Anonymous]

My ex used to do the same. I just showed up to his place and talked to him about it in person. Discuss it, find out why he doesn’t want to hang out. Just remember if he wanted to, he would.