I went on a first date with a guy a few weeks ago. We get along really well. He said he deleted tinder, I felt it was a bit too early to delete apps and because I like him I deleted it too. The problem is he lives two hours away from me. I haven’t seen him in a few weeks either. Last weekend he was apparently with his brother. The only thing that was slightly weird about that was he told me he drove 2.5 hours to another city just for food? I find that very weird because I’ve never heard of any friend or anyone do that. And when I’ve drive to that same city or somewhere else for that duration it’s for a reason, e. g. when I bought a car, there’s an event or I am doing a weekend away. He apparently went just for one day just for food? He asked me to come to him on Friday night but he’s a two hour drive away and I had something pre booked (booked before I knew him) on Saturday morning.
He also asked to see me this weekend and we made plans etc. Today he’s told me he’s now working on the weekend. Then seemed annoyed when he asked if I could do during the week when he knows I’m moving house. I said he could do the afternoon and I did tell him I’m free all weekend and I haven’t heard from him since I said that. I kind of now want to go on other dates, and I don’t want to put dating on hold if he isn’t going to make an effort. We haven’t discussed exclusivity so it’s not wrong etc. Do I have to tell him or should I just do it?
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Move on, he is not worth your time. The fact you haven't heard about him when you said you are available in afternoon. He is wasting your time, he probably seeing some other people. You deserve better, you seem a nice person!
Thank you! You’re actually right. I actually asked him and he went mental at me. Said I must think he’s boring and not worth it, said he didn’t want to be with someone long term who is “like that” then said I presume things. He then blocked me. Crazy honestly, I was just trying to talk about it and said it just felt too soon
He ain't looking for something serious. I am upset that he blocked you first " I wanted you to block him first ". But seriously I am glad that you are out of this mess. I want to tell you to have your standard up high. Don't let anyone tell you to wait for them. If they want you then their actions will speak for them. Always put yourself first! Take care of yourself!
Thank you so much! I know I should have blocked him when he started getting going mental at me, thank you!
You can’t have that many cancellations and rescheduling that early in dating. I don’t think it’s meant to be.
Agreed. And he then went crazy at me when I said I was going to go back on dating apps. I only met him once. I got blocked and blamed, he showed his true colours!
Eh, he may have read into the response too much. I wouldn’t have even bothered saying you were going back to the apps, just- “hey this isn’t really working out and don’t think this is meant to be- good luck out there”
Yeah, he went on a massive rant. I was just a bit shocked to have someone ranting at me then blocking over such a small thing. I’m back on dating apps now!
Nah, it sounds like a scenario where you’d be acting reasonably to break things off.
Your right. He showed his true colours and went mental at me when I tried to talk about it. My ex was abusive and use to block me if he didn’t get his way all the time. And this guy just blocked me and said I must think he is boring etc and that I presume things when he literally just presumed