After dating 4 + months, I broke up with my ex back in December, he's 40+ year never been in a relationship, inexperienced and awkward. This led to a lot of frustration on my end. I hurt him badly with the sudden impulsive break up, I was mean (I regret it to this day), I was angry about a lot of things it all came out badly, we both sucked at communication prior to this point. Post break up we were more open and honest, this led to me wanting to rekindle things. We got back together once but shortly after it ended. He was still hurting and he broke up with me, said he lost the romantic feelings he had for me.
Since then we get together almost every weekend, we chat almost every day. We have emotional-lovey-dovey-kissy-cuddly sex, go on day trips, go for dinner/drinks. We are both on dating apps, we tell each other we want to find our person. I have gone on a few platonic first dates, nothing has worked out (usually I stay out of touch with ex if I am talking/meeting up with someone). He has not had any luck, says he's not found anyone he's interested in dating. He's been on apps almost 3 months. Also increasingly I end up with hickeys after I am with him, I feel like maybe he's getting possessive, he claims it's totally accidental. Hickeys were not an issue when we were officially dating.
We agreed we'd give each other a heads up if we are serious about someone else and we would cut our ties.
I told him, I want to try again, he said after I hurt him badly he's been trying to feel things for me but he is unable to let it go but he loves/cares for me as a friend, and he can't see us in a serious relationship again.
I feel very attached to him and feel like with time maybe his negative feelings will go away and we can be okay.
I also want to give up on this and move on ( if rekindling is not an option). I feel stuck in limbo, I don't feel strong enough to let go.
Any insight would be appreciated.
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Break up and rebound to get him off your mind!
You felt something band and your feeling it again.
Your mind knows the red flags and it's time to fully end it.
Your making it so much worse for him also!
Does not sound like an ex