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He’s a hopeless romantic that needs a lot of attention. My friends say they catch him staring at them when he’s supposed to be with me. His last girlfriend and only serious relationship cheated on him with his best friend apparently but he never mentions her (considering it could be the other way) always messaging girls because he only has girl friends. is he a cheater?

Met a guy we became close friends and confidants, we were open with almost everything he had a girlfriend I had a boyfriend and as a result we remained just friends for 3 of his relationships

We were friends for 3 years before we started dating.. we’ve been together 2 years now and in my head everything has been perfect and that’s what scared me

Together for 2 years and we’ve had no fights or real arguments we get along extremely well so I’ve had no idea what he’s like during argument-day
He’s the quiet responsible type who doesn’t really have a social life outside of our relationship

He got a job in another state and we’ve agreed he’d work there 1 year. Even being far away we were in constant contact, he always sent me money and we took trips together when he got time off

A female facebooked me telling me they’ve been in a relationship in that state since he went there and she had no idea about me

After being caught he’s been apologizing since and trying to make it up to me saying it was the pressure and distance, bear in mind I’m giving him such a hard time but I always need my questions answered to understand why

Besides the cheating i never felt neglected while he was there I’m so torn and don’t know what to do

Since the day the woman messaged me she hasn’t done so anymore. She approached me saying “OUR boyfriend is a cheater” and she seems hurt that he wants to make it work with me and not her. He says he’s completely cut contact with her and I believe it because I believe she would come and tell me as she seems to want to be in competition with me

Should I give him another chance or is he going to do it again? He says he will be coming home for good when he is able to travel again.

I read this morning about Whatsapp features that will be added soon – and one of them included a feature which automatically deletes messages after a certain time frame. The article even said it was perfect for cheating lovers and stated it in a way that sounded positive. I think it’s appalling? Why are Whatsapp encouraging secrecy? Everyone is obviously entitled to their privacy of course and no one’s partner should be snooping on their phones and invading privacy all the time. However, there are so many men and women who have gut feelings that their partners are cheating, suspecting something but no evidence. That last resort of checking the phone is either reassurance or confirmation of any activity. I know that if was being cheated on, I would want to know as soon as possible so I didn’t waste another breath on the loser.

People have obviously been having affairs since the dawn of time, but life nowadays makes it easier to cheat with longer work hours, more travel and of course the use of mobile phones. But I always felt that at least this was cancelled out by the fact that it was easier to get caught cheating. I also feel like the culture these days is so sexually free that it almost encourages you to get out there and experiment and go after your desires even if you are in a relationship. Many people aren’t in it for the long haul anymore, they just see people and practically assume they aren’t going to last. Why can’t we discourage cheaters? Make it easier for them to get caught? Cheating does so much damage, sometimes lasting damage on individuals and their confidence and can screw up their future relationships. Most cheaters usually regret their actions or at least aren’t proud of them.

Obviously there are exceptions with everything and feel free to disagree, just no arguments please!