Are bullies similar to cheaters, only sorry when caught?

[Anonymous]

Long ago, my main bully would have kept going on if I never had reported her to the office. When we almost got suspended for fighting (I hit her back), all of sudden she's in tears and apologizing.

This is the same reaction when someone cheats repeatedly until either getting caught in the act or discovered. All of the sudden they're begging, pleading or thinking of working it out like never before. Both sounds like biggest cowards to me.

[crazy8000]

Both have similar problems in their mind.

For starters and very common since there are different reasons.
Insecurity that they overcompensating in some sort like for example small dick or for female's to small or to big something like breast but pussy even some body disformation.
Doesn't like themselves.
Then it was something about sadistic.
Even personality disorder can be a reason for both.

When it comes to bullies. the correct framing is dominating technique.
Can be to make the other one feel bad because they do.
An other is to not get picked on themselves.

Here is little about it.
Recommend to Google both yourself instead of getting funny assumptions on a forum.
Rhere are a lot of material on both.

[normalice]

the insecure, in general, are always only sorry when caught. Any shunned behavior that can be traced back to an insecurity is, thus likely to follow the same pattern.

[ShebaDiamond]

Women are never sorry when caught makes you worry if we even have a moral compass. Plus society will praise you anyway. Now men on the other hand are biologically and even biblically designed for multiple wives and or concubine so in our modern gynocentric male sexuality hating society, these males are gonna sneak around bc women today hate men for how God designed them, sadly.

[SpacedCharr]

In my experience with bullies, maybe?

It's less that they're only sorry when caught and more that they're so deeply insecure that when their usual retreat (bullying/cheating) is called out or caught with consequence, all that insecurity and low self-worth bubbles to the surface.

[TayTay21]

Bullies are usually worms that try to squirm out of any situation that exposes them to the light of day. And I don't think they're ever sorry, except for being born as what they are. I've never known a bully who had a life I would want for myself.

[Asker]

At the time I was stupid enough to fall for her crocodile tears, apology and shaking my hand. She stopped her bullying and was supposedly ''my friend'' but now that I remembered, she never stood up for me when others ridiculed. She just stood there watching, said nothing but clearly liked it.

She faked a friendship for that entire school year (and had the nerves to call my house and speak with my mother as if we were buddies) and the next year, she completely ignored me and even made a hateful, disgusting expression whenever we would bumped into each other.

[Asker]

We saw each other again at a supermarket as 18 year-olds and like a coward, she turned away. Yeah bullies are worms...

[Hurlyburly]

Some of them aren't even sorry when caught. But yea there are a few similarities, like being useless human trash as one of the "requirements" ^^

[Asker]

yeah the world is full of those trashy beings
They waste our time.

[WCBD4U]

Bullies don't care if they caught in the act. Cheaters don't want to get caught.

[Asker]

All I know is that it was amazing the quick change in that girl's expression, from an arrogant, fearless, tough bully to a scared, tearful girl when getting threatened with a suspension. What a quick change... lol

[Browneye57]

So much whining... so little time.
You're 35 and still in school? WTF over.

[Asker]

I'm 32 but yeah my point was to compare those two. They are similar to cheaters, whom are only sorry when their partners catch them.

[Browneye57]

I'm not sure that makes them sorry.
I was never sorry for cheating on my ex. She was a cunt. And eventually got the boot.
Was it wrong? Sure. Was I sorry? No.
That doesn't make me strong or weak, it just is.

[Asker]

If you weren't sorry then that's much better. To be honest if anyone were to wrong me now, I'd rather deal with an unremorseful person than someone that's only sorry for getting caught.

[Browneye57]

I never got caught - she was clueless.
She sure was pissed when I dumped her ass though. LOL

[YHL6965]

Huh, at least you're lucky if they apologize...

[Asker]

It was a fake crocodile tears apology (''sorry I got caught'') because we were threatened with a suspension at the assistant principal's office. Plus she faked an entire friendship for that whole year school. If anything, to me that's worse than getting no apology at all.

[Asker]

I believe that if you wrong me then either be sincere (only if you really mean it) or say nothing at all.

[YHL6965]

You can use that opportunity to make things hard for them with sarcasm and all, making it so hard for them to fake things.

[Nadim171]

Not always, for example bullies in my school get expelled weekly and they don't give a damn

[Asker]

Then it's likely that either they never even cared about school one bit or are used to getting in trouble.

[Nadim171]

It does not matter, the only way to stop a bully is by phisically fighting back. They'll leave you alone if they see you as a threat, or if their ego makes them fight again defeat them. It would be embarrassing for them so they wouldn't do it again

[Anonymous]

I think so or when someone steps up. Like when my ex girl was caught cheating with me. Bullies I got revenge on my bully.

[ChillMatic]

Yes.

[JesseJayNeak]

Some habits are hard to get rid of

[Asker]

Purposely making people's life miserable for your own entertainment and making a conscious decision to betray someone's trust aren't just bad habits. They are major character flaws.