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When I logically lay out statistics and biology as to why promiscuous behavior is toxic to relationships and the individual, the default response is that men are insecure. My response to that is, what's wrong with having some insecurity? I don't know what guy who wouldn't be at least a little insecure dating a girl who has a huge sex history and reputation for putting out for almost anyone. Logically, it makes more sense that they have a higher chance of straying. It's only natural for those insecurities to arise at some point in the relationship, and to suggest that you're supposed to be entirely absent of this insecurity even when your girl has a strong history indicating a higher chance of infidelity seems irrational.

I think I have a unique understanding to the topic given that I've been on both sides. The thing is, I slept around a lot during my college years. I experienced first hand what it was like, and I can personally attest that it's very toxic. When I dated, and girls knew my reputation, I completely understood as to why they had trouble trusting me or if they didn't want to emotionally invest into me. I didn't shame them and force my lifestyle down people's throats expecting acceptance. That's very immature in my opinion.

But concluding, why is it a crime for a woman or man to feel insecure being with someone who statistically has the highest chance of cheating, or straying? Why would it be a crime to be insecure when you're wondering how you compare to his/her huge list? These are very natural responses to promiscuous behavior. No man or woman wants to imagine their life partner being fucked by a ton of strangers who didn't give a shit about them. No man wants to imagine his wife being used as a locker room story about her in her most intimate state. That's degrading.