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I want to start off by saying that i am a very independent woman. I am 23 and i have had a steady full time job since i was 18. I am putting myself through college and have never had to ask anyone for anything financially. The reason i ask is because I have never he a relationship where the guy was even close to as stable as i am financially. The majority of guys i date never have been able to hold down a full time job. That usually wasn't an issue with me, i wound encourage them, but without fail they always seem to find a good job or seem to become responsible after the relationship ends. I am a good girlfriend. I Take care of my man, i cook, i clean and i make sure he is satisfied and am very low maintenance, and it always seems like after i get fed up by them becoming too comfortable, we break up. I always hear them say something like "Losing you made me see what i was doing wrong and made me try." But by then, the damage is done and there is too much damage to really salvage the relationship. I want a good guy who is in a position to take care of me financially or even be able to take me out and spoil me occasionally. I have never had that. Is it selfish or shallow to want that?

I`ve posted here a few times about my overly flirtatious boyfriend. He was flirting around with his coworker telling his friend that she was going to get him in trouble with me, dat a** and blah blah blah, going to lunch with her (with and without other coworkers and genuinely just making her day while I was going through hell. He flirted around with other girls and it got pretty petty. I gave him several chances to just be truthful because I knew how he was. Quite honestly I wouldn`t have been pissed if he told me what kind of relationship he wanted to turn this into if he told me sooner and I let him know if he wanted to act a certain way with other women to just tell me so I could decide if I wanted to talk to other people as well because I`d rather not put all my eggs in a basket with a hole in it. Every time I got a feeling something wasn`t right he would just say she was a friend and she hugged him like she hugged everyone at most, a few months later he admitted things did get a little weird and she flirted with him and the girl asked him if he had a girlfriend which I know he gave her a dry yes through messages (which I`m sure was his first and last mention of me after she asked to see how far she could get because he acted so available) . A few more months later we decide to air things out and see if we could salvage anything, we were talking yesterday and why did this boy tell me he rubbed her feet because she said they hurt at work like he had to do it for her and she couldn`t go to a doctor if it was that bad knowing she liked him?

I`m still deciding if I want to try again or just keep him as company or whatever to pass time at this point so while I`m trying to respect him for telling me the truth even though he delayed it, I can`t figure out why he thought that it was ok to do something that intimate so casually (can I even call it casual?) while he`s with me, he hadn`t even been working there a whole year. Should I be objective about this or what?