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I was talking to this girl that recently broke up with her ex and in the beginning everything was good. We were hanging out and talking all the time. Then she told me that she feels like we were going too fast and that she wants to take things slow and that she just got out of a relationship so she’s not ready. We were hanging out & talking more.
I took her out to pick pumpkins. She had never done that and was getting all touchy and what not and I was confused but at the same time I just thought she was opening up to me.
After a while things weren’t feeling the same but we were still hanging out, started talking less. Would take forever to reply. We had another talk and it was the same as the first one. We continued to hang out. Then one day I asked her why did you and your ex break up and things got serious and she broke down in front of me about him. And how she never would like to feel the way he made her feel. I thought from there things would get better but nope it continued being more confusing. i had planned a trip for the both of us.
we took the day trip and things were going well & we spent the whole day together. Came back. She was taking longer to reply or sometimes not reply at all. It went from good morning and goodnight texts with hearts, talking about meeting her friends, and buying me things to nothing. one day I was fed up. It had been a month already and I was lost.
I tried to get her to come out with me so I could tell her in person but something always came up. So I just called her and told her how I felt and she was basically telling me the same thing, and how she sees us being friends and how she likes hanging out with me too and how she’s just not ready. told her it’s best if we don’t talk for a while. we didn’t talk because I wanted to give myself time and have her know that I’m not here to play games. But I just don’t want to give up on her, because she’s honestly a pretty cool girl that I want in my life. What should I do? Help please

Dear [. ],
For about the past month and a half, I’ve done a fair amount of reflection and thought. It took quite a bit of debate whether or not to send this letter at all. I’ve thought back to that time you said you look back fondly at the time we spent together and I’ve started doing the same. I miss that, but not only just a relationship I’ve missed you.

The time I spent dating you was some of the best times of my life. There will always be a soft spot for you in my heart. However, I realize that this isn’t a situation just about me. You have your own views and opinions. My intention is not to beg or guilt you into anything. If it does come off that way I apologize now. I’ve spent a lot of time apologizing though and I’m going to own whatever this becomes. I’m going to make you (for lack of a better word) a proposal. If you desire I’m open to taking time and seeing if there is still any spark per say between us. If there is still potential, or if that well has dried up. Either way, I feel we could both get a level of closure from that. You don’t owe me anything. Not even an answer. If you don’t desire to do that you can simply forget this letter. If you do though, you know how to contact me.

As I finish off this letter I still don’t know what exactly brought me to write it. There is really no logical reasoning behind its origins. All I have is my instincts telling me to write this. And a recent friend of mine said that you should always follow your instincts even though they’ll end up getting you in trouble from time to time.