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This question is posed to users who are not "players" or "serial daters" or women in search of free meals. This question is directed at people who take dating seriously, who do not want to be thought of as "players," etc.

Last month, I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years and I resumed searching for a dating partner on Plenty Of Fish. Typically, if I send ten messages to POF users, I may get one reply, so I tend to scan many profiles, favorite those that look like reasonably good prospects, and then I send a number of emails at once.

In one week, I got three serious replies and have had initial meetings with two of them. They were both very nice ladies, they both had some very strong qualities, and I could envision dating either of them again. Both of them indicated that they would like to see me again. My third date is Friday night; I have spoken to her on the phone and she also seems to be a very nice lady.

My profile says that I date one woman at a time, and that is true; I want to select the lady who seems to offer the most promise for a long term relationship and then date her exclusively. However, I don't want to rush into determining which of the two or three is the one I should pursue.

I have some thoughts on how I should handle this but I want to solicit the opinions of others. How long/how many dates is a reasonable time to date both or all three before I make that decision? I don't want to mislead any of them but I also don't want to sound like some male diva auditioning contenders for the role of leading lady in my life. If anyone can suggest how to discuss with with each of them without making them feel like game show contestants, I would appreciate serious advice.

PS I do not expect to have sex this early in a relationship and I already have my own ideas on that subject. Still, I would like to hear what others think on that topic.

Alright, so I go to church with this one girl whom I always noticed that she is quite outgoing, and friendly to anyone she meets. Nobody can say a bad thing about her. She reminds me of my sister and her personality (I have a crush on the girl, not my sister.) I get along almost perfectly with my sister, and so I figure I would want to spend my time with someone who is as fantastic as she is. I chatted with her over facebook messenger for quite a bit for about a month. We go to the same high school as well but I am a senior, and she is a sophomore (I'm 17 and she is 16 both in band class, but she is in the entry band, while I am at the audition group). I never see her during the day. She invited me to join track & field and I did join a bit late. I got to talk with her quite minimally in real life during the track season.

I have a hard time talking with her in real life because it always seems like she is talking with someone else, and I don't want to pry into the conversation. I don't know if this is just coincidence, but she seems to talk with everyone else except for me (almost like intentional avoidance?).

As of late, I have talked with her (very minimal as if it were "micro"-talk) in real life, but here's the thing. I cannot make her laugh for the life of me. One of the biggest things I've got going for me, is that I have no problem being goofy and embarrassing myself for a good laugh. I can make people laugh a lot, but when ever I am around her, there isn't anything that I can do to make her laugh as it seems.

My plan to date her is to wait until she gets out of high school (I am a couple weeks away from graduating) and then see about dating her.

I haven't felt this way for a girl ever, and I do think she is very special (Also I haven't dated before so I wouldn't know how all of this works out anyways). I just would like advice on how to approach this. How can I try to improve my friendship with her?

Thanks for reading this short novel.