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It's been said that 1 in 4 women will experience domestic abuse by their partner and majority of abuse in relationship are at the hands of men towards women. We also see that men often tend to mostly appreciate women being thin and dressing up pretty. When we look at relationship, many guys are controlling and expect women to submit to their wants and need. An example of this, comes from men throughout centuries expecting women to be virgins/little sexual experience and wait for him while he sticks his dicks in multiple women and then decides to marry her. This attitude is still prevalent today among guys.


Even dating seems very weird when you look at men expecting women to give affection/sex towards them just because they payed for a meal or gave them gifts.

These are the opinions of several anthropologist and sociologist on human behavior.

Expert 1
Christopher Ryan, Ph. D. and author of Sex at Dawn: How we Mate, Why we Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships adamantly tells Hopes & Fears that no, humans did not evolve to be a sexually monogamous species, which is evidenced by the fact that we rarely only have one sexual partner for our entire life. He says that having one partner at a time isn't monogamy, it actually fits into the category of serial polygyny.

Expert 2
Elisabeth Sheff, Ph. D. and author of The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families says that because monogamy takes so many social structures to exist, it can't really be naturally occurring and inherent, like blinking, breathing, or wanting to speak to our children. She says "it seems more natural for humans to want a personal harem, so each of us get to enjoy sexual variety, but insist on sexual exclusivity for our lovers, so we don't have to deal with jealousy."

Expert 3
David P. Brash, a professor at the University of Washington and author of several books on the topics of sex, evolution, and infidelity, says that we aren't naturally inclined towards monogamy and that monogamy itself is a recent societal creation. Men and women are both inclined to seek multiple sexual partners for a variety of biological reasons.

Expert 4
Dossie Easton, a psychotherapist and relationship counselor, told Hopes & Fears the she believes a lot of institutions profit by controlling the population towards monogamy by instilling lots of guilt and shame. At the end of the day, though, Easton says people are going to do what they want. She says, "I know from experience that many people learn to create the relationship and sexual lifestyles that they desire, and find a way to fit themselves into the culture while they're at it."

[There are more out there but i have no more space for words]