Furthermore, she has literally done everything in bed. Our communication is great so we talk a lot about what we have and haven't done. She's done it all whereas I have done nothing. So when we try stuff for the first time it feels special for me, but deep down I know it isn't special for her, because she's done it before.
It really bothers me. I know she likes me and on multiple occasions she's said "You're the one", but because I haven't had that many sexual partners I just want to live a little before I start to settle down. It's getting to the point now where I don't feel like I can do it anymore and put myself through it every day. I literally think about it all the time when I'm not with her, but when I'm with her I just can't bring myself to talk to her about it. We have spoken about it briefly in the past and she says it's really upset her because she feels like she's letting me down. I know people say the past is in the past but we're just at different life stages (right girl, wrong time). Thoughts?
Most Helpful Girl
If you cannot handle the fact that your best friend and girlfriend has had sex before meeting you, you should do the decent thing and break up with her.
She loves you. She wants to be with you.
You are insecure about yourself because you think you’re bad at sex and you want to take it out on her. That’s a dick move if I’ve ever heard one.
If you can’t appreciate that she loves you and wants to be with you, then let her go so she can find someone who will.2
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Most Helpful Guy
It’s 100% biological for you to concern yourself with your woman’s sexual past. It’s usually never insecurity as the sole reason for worrying about a woman’s past, but of course it’s a factor for a few men. I understand what you’re feeling when you say that she has been with your friends and every time you see them they’ll know and you’ll know that your woman has slept with them. Also, her saying “You’re the one,” is probably just something that she’s saying without putting much thought or emphasis to it. I’ve said things to women that I haven’t entirely meant but said them with a good heart. You should’ve also slept around yourself before meeting her so MAYBE you might not feel this way. Either way, your options are 1) Get over her past or 2) Break up with her