Should I be concerned about my girlfriends sexual past? We never met and never knew each other while we were dating other people?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Nubxei]

Unless you want to ruin your current relationship with her I would not go digging up in her past. If you feel so insecure that you need to do that, spare both her and yourself the turmoil and break up with her. What you're doing is not very productive or healthy for the relationship.

[Asker]

Then what is productive?

[Nubxei]

Not being insecure about something you weren't there for is an excellent start. Since you're in a relationship with her the only thing I feel she should be obligated to tell you is if she is clean (STD-free).

[Asker]

Will digging up the past make her leave?

[Nubxei]

If her answer affects you then perhaps, unless she is completely shameless with nothing to hide. Do you think that's likely?

[Asker]

Her answer will probably affect me and I may resent her more.

[Nubxei]

This is what I fail to understand, if you KNOW that you are going to hate what you hear then why are you actively seeking it out. Is her past more valuable to you than who she is today?

[Asker]

Yes the past is more important than who she is today.

[Nubxei]

Get your answers and dump her I guess. I'm not sure why you're still dating to begin with, don't you realise we all carry baggage? You'll never be content unless she is as perfect as you imagined her to be even before having met you. What a ridiculously unreachable standard. Find yourself a virgin, you're a very insecure person otherwise.

[Asker]

Focusing on who she is today is another way of saying she fucked up in her past and now carries baggage. I prefer someone who made good decisions on her past. Then I don't have to worry about her being a stupid shit in the future.

[Asker]

See, what makes me mad is that girls who want to date me fuck up in their past and then turn a new leaf and try to do things right when they date me. Why is that?

[Nubxei]

Are you perfect?

[Asker]

No I'm not. But I haven't made sexual related mistakes like girls do.

[Nubxei]

So sex is where you draw the line. Intercourse is beyond forgiveness, right? Yet it is something you would enjoy want to have with her (if I'm not mistaken) Please explain it being a mistake when she commits adultery but not a mistake when you do? I see it as the same desires

[momo770]

Lol that's what makes it the past. No

[Asker]

I just don't want a girl who's been with 10 dudes and possible STD.

[momo770]

but it's okay for you to be that way?

[Asker]

I'm not that way. I've only been with a couple of girls. One of my buddies found out the girl he was dating had over 10 dudes.

[momo770]

I'm not understanding why that would come up in conversation and why it's important question mark if you've fucked 15 women are you a whore?

[Asker]

More partners equal more STD's

[momo770]

Then leave

[Asker]

Then I won't catch anything and stay healthy.

[momo770]

I know that's what I mean if you think that she has an STD just leave her and be done with it.