My fresh girlfriend recently let me know about her sexual past?

[john282x]

Hi,
One month ago I met a Bulgarian girl and things seem (or seemed) to go very well with her. I really like her character, appearance, behaviour to other people and so on. Sex with her is just great. We are both in our 30s. After being single for a year, I started making dreams with her. While having dinner some days ago she asked me I had ever had sex with 2 girls. The answer was no, even if I would like to do it once as an experience. Then I asked her and she told me that at uni times, she used to have foursomes (3 guys and her) and then she shifted to 4somes (2 vs. 2). She told me that she was doing this cuz she had some extra kilos and she couldn't find a boyfriend. She loves sex and for that reason she was having those mini orgies. She said that she was doing this for a period of time (probably some years) and then she realized that what was she doing was not fulfilling her with emotions and thus she stopped it. Since then she was trying to find a boyfriend, she managed to date 3 guys only for some months each. She said that everyone was treating her really badly and she couldn't feel what is love or being in love with someone and so on. Now she met me, who I had 4 long-term relationships (1-3 years each) in my past (and some shorter ones) and she nearly fell in love with me (felt kind of the same even after a month) and she wants to be my girlfriend. The thing that she explained me her past, shows that she is very honest and this is what she told me. She wants to be with one, fall in love, make family bla bla bla.. my problem is that since that day, I cannot cope with her past. I'm having pictures with her and 3 guys having sex and I am getting crazy. I don't know what to do. I like her, but just the thoughts of her past kill me and it hurts a lot cuz she is a nice girl. Please any advice? She I try delete her past in mind or try find another girl?
Thank you

[TheStaff_Sergeant]

The majority of society, in my view, tend to seek partners with somewhat similar morals, core values, and backgrounds. And, if I'm unmistaken, you've consistently lived a somewhat conservative lifestyle thus far. Which includes four long-term relationships. Thus, I assume you have avoided dating promiscuous women, knowingly, for the most part. So, it's only fitting you are at the height of your comfort zone when you date like women.

"It's in the past." Let it go." We all make mistakes." You'll hear such statements from others in regards to your situation. But, the fact is, our past is very much a part of us. Consequently, our past often influences our thoughts, feelings and actions, and reactions.

Having said that, unless your morals and your perspective on promiscuity favorably change, irrelevant of the situation you have with her, it will be difficult for you to be able to proceed with her without holding her past against her.

That, by no means, is wrong. It simply means you have different standards and expectations of your mates overall story. However, if you can look beyond her past and are willing to stay, do so. If not, let her go. Period.

[Poppykate]

This is really simple. It is her past, it has already happened. So you have two chooses. 1. You can let it destroy the relationship that you currently have with this girl, or 2. Realise that we all made silly mistakes and leave it in the past, and continue with your relationship. Simple.

[Weirdstuff]

People change, and so has she. She is not the same person as she was then. You don't have a relationship with the old her, but the present her. That being said, use condoms and get a check up on both of your SOA statuses :D