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My boyfriend of nearly two years said to me this week whilst we were lying in the bed that I had “wide hips”. Well I’m only a UK10/US6 so I don’t consider myself like a kardashian and that is really not what I aspire to be. I just ignored that comment…

The comment that really upset me though was last night. I was in between shaving days for my lady parts (I do a full shave every 2-3 days) and my boyfriend commented how one time having sex he noticed it felt different and I said “what like sandpaper” joking and he said yes!

I go to great lengths to keep myself hair free everywhere and I’m always in the gym trying to look my best. I feel really offended by these two insensitive comments. I asked a male friend and he said that he never would have made either of these comments. I told my boyfriend I was upset immediately after and that he needs to think about what he says before he says it sometimes. He was all apologies but I feel really hurt and unattractive to him

This guy friend of mine and I used to be pretty close in college/HS, back then he was very good looking, and we both really liked each other, hooked up did oral but didn't have sex.
Went our own ways as uni started, lost contact, then he found me and started talking to me again and recently we started sexting. His uni isn't too far away from mine so I thought there could be a chance between us. I do really like his personality, but then I saw the recent pictures of him, he doesn't post much on social media so I assumed he still looked the same way as he did before. But he's been putting on the pounds, not shaving his face, and honestly he just looks homeless and just not attractive anymore like he doesn't take care of himself at all.
In the meanwhile I spend the time at the gym, take care of my body and my appearance.

I was just invited to a party that he's also going to attend, he thinks that something is going to happen between us there but now I don't know because I've just lost the attraction. I don't know what to tell him that won't hurt his feelings, and I don't want the party to turn awkward because I told him I'm not attracted to him anymore, so what do I tell him?