Polls: Dating

I'm a nonsmoker, sober and basically pure due to my medication with depakote. The problem here in Los Angeles, or Pasadena, is that MANY of the "HOT" chicks here are potheads and all and some are even drug addicts/alcoholics, and I don't want to have to say "no" to a hot girl offering weed to me, only to be forced to break up with her since she's the type of girl to gossip and dress really provocatively

Or at least I was around those kind of girls at Target where I used to work

I recently broke up with my girlfriend Sandra because I had too many trust issues. I really love Sandra but I had to end it because I always thought was cheating. She seemed kinda flirtatious and inappropriate with her male friends.

Right after I dumped Sandra I went online and found a girl named Brenda. Me and Brenda were a good match. And I usually don’t do well with online dating. Only problem with Brenda is she lives in another city. I live in Seattle and she lives in Portland. So we talked online for 3 weeks until she finally drove up to Seattle to meet me. We had a great time together with the best sexual chemistry. I drove to Portland the week after. I agreed to have a long distance relationship with Brenda to keep her coming back. Brenda calls me her boyfriend. Now Brenda is talking marriage and wants me to move to Portland. I’ve told her I don’t wanna live in Portland but she’s trying to convince me. I do like Brenda and I want to keep her. But I can’t live in Portland.

As much as I like Brenda I know I’m eventually gonna have to let her go, but I’m not ready to let her go as of yet. On the other hand Sandra wants to get back together. I do love Sandra and want to be with her and try again. But I also love Brenda who I know is gonna be gone eventually. What should I do?

Money + energy + attention + time.

The richest guys I know (through my mom. They like her lol) said they were like me. They didn't want nor have a girlfriend when younger

I have met women from many nationalities in my life. Most seem to be normal and interactive. But when it comes to Americans, about 70% of them are into small talks and get annoyed easily when deep conversations take place. Also ghosting is a bigger issue about them than the rest of the world.

by the way not gonna lie, some of them I met are really nice and interesting, but very few in numbers.

I have nothing against Americans as a nationality, it's just that it makes me feel that Americans are socially very different than the rest.

That are my experiences. Feel free to share your opinions.