Polls: Relationships

If your spouse (partner or husband/wife) cheats with your own brother or sister, who is more disgusting and more to blame?

Your spouse or your sibling?

I really do dislike people that can't be responsible. Men & women. I've seen numerous comments by guys here about not being responsible for their bastards. I've seen numerous comments by girls here about using abortion like birth control.

Are they NOT adults?

If you are not responsible at your job do you expect to keep it?

Do you expect your boss to say yeah you're a dipshit but we'll keep you anyway?

Do you expect your colleagues to say yeah you're lazy & good for little, but we'll do your work for you as well as our own?

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So why don't you TRY to GROW UP and BE an ADULT? Be a MAN. Be a WOMAN. Someone that society can look upon and say he/she is an ADULT.

Not a toddler with their diapers still on crying about unfair life & blaming everyone cause they can't do anything as an adult. Because they're an embarrassment as an adult?

You're adults. Fucking try to be one. BE RESPONSIBLE.

Or for women like this - get your tubes tied.

For men like this - get a vasectomy.

Take yourself out of the gene pool because if you don't contribute much any children are only going to contribute less to society.

It started with mutual attraction. The question came of if he's in a relationship he admitted upfront that he's in a fucked up situation of being legally married but due to immigration he can't leave until his citizenship is granted. It's already in the process. The person he is married to is on the same wavelength, they want to get divorced but they will wait until his process is over.

There is no issue in our relationship except this HUGE one. The reason I constantly feel torn on walking away is because he's the most amazing man ever, flaws and all. And I believe that what we have is irreplaceable. I walk around happy as fuck because of him but with a weight on my shoulder.

In honesty, the government system where I live is very fucked up and they literally treat immigrants like shit unless you are filthy rich. So for no logical reason other than being cruel even when you have all requirements met, they give appointments then keep rescheduling and putting it off. Realistically in my country the process of getting citizenship then residency takes 10+ years.

He doesn't want to start the process over in divorcing her and marrying me because it's been about 4/5yrs already and he finds it stressful to start over. I am telling him that makes no sense since he will therefore be chained to her for an indefinite number of years, unhappy and preventing us from having a free relationship.

It's a tough decision but when I talk about it he seems defeated. I say if he doesn't know what to do then that in itself is a choice. He says I don't understand because it's his whole life he's built here that he could lose by choosing to get a divorce before having his citizenship at least. I am concerned that we won't be able to raise a family because my biological clock is ticking. I also hate having to be okay with him living there with her and her family. We can't live together. We can't be seen. My family wants to meet him. Tell me your thoughts. It's almost been 3years.

One of my friends got back part of her money ($3000 out of $7000) after suing her ex boyfriend. Usually players say and do anything to get in our pants. He got both lust and money from her.

My friend was actually in a relationship for 3 years. He wasn't just into sex but also money. Are your surprised certain men stay to scam us with money too?

What happened was his friend came in town and they went out. My boyfriend told half a day off work and had been hanging out with them all day. This is fine and I don’t really care until he decides to come home at 12:30am on a Weekday. I got work tomorrow and so does he at 9am. He told me he left at 11:30pm but he decided to cheap out on Uber and took the bus. It took him an hour to get hime versus 20 mins by Uber.

When he came back, he had to eat and shower etc. I wasn’t able to go to bed until 2am. I honestly find it a bit unacceptable and he had history of being inconsiderate.

Is this not okay? And that he should of left earlier if he planned to take the bus instead of taking an Uber. But instead, he decided to cheap out and stay out as he wanted.

If you did stop missing him, was that near the end of your relationship, or during a rough patch?