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So um... physical appearance first I guess. I got medium brown hair. Chin length. Medium brown eyes. Pale skin. I'm Brazilian, but look like a white American. I'm 5'9, weigh 153 pounds. I'm pretty slim, and kind of toned. Though I do have some meat on me too, especially on my legs/thighs. And my thighs kind of jiggle a lot, but they're not "FAT." I shave off all of my body hair, though I'm not hairy to begin with. I got zero facial hair, so no need to even shave. I like to wear short shorts...3-5 inch inseam. About mid-thigh, or covering half my thigh, or slightly less. Rise up half an inch when I sit. I paint my nails all sorts of pretty colors, too. Physically, I clearly look masculine, and can't pass for a girl. I look like a regular guy who just happens to paint his nails, shave his legs, and wear short shorts.

Then personality... I am very sweet, caring, kind, affectionate. I always ask people how their day is, in a very soft voice, and am willing to listen to someone's problems, always. I love affection, hugs, cuddles, and kisses... though I always ask if the person is okay with it first, obviously. I also am sensitive. I cry at beautiful movies or beautiful songs. I also am good with animals and children. "Motherly" even. Though I don't desire to have my own pets or kids, too much work. But I like playing with like my friend's younger brothers and sisters, and their pets.

Then gender identity and sexuality... bisexual for sure. Then uh... femboy, agender, trans girl, and gender-fluid all apply. I don't necessarily WANT to be a woman, but I wouldn't mind if I was.

I do not plan to ever do hormone replacement therapy or sex reassignment surgery though. Too much work, money, risk, and papers. I'd rather keep things how they are. I'm happy this way.

Recently, I've been thinking a lot of the many harmful stereotypes towards people of the LGBT spectrum, especially when it comes to women. Not only lesbians but also bisexuals, pansexuals, asexual etc. because of their physical appearance, fashion choices and gender identity. Firstly, many queer femme or "feminine-presenting" girls & women are always assumed as "straight, that they only look good to attract men or at least masculine-presenting people, even though femmes can be attracted to other femmes. Never the fact that they feel that they have to come out every day, and when they do, nobody takes them seriously, not by their family & friends, not by straight men who always try to hit on them, not even by other people of the LGBT spectrum.

This short comic is a perfect example of the importance of femme visibility femme invisibility:

On the other hand, Butch or "masculine-presenting" queer girls & women also have a problem but different, including the expectations both Lgbt and non-Lgbt people, have (being strong, no emotions, people threatened by them, accused as being either a "man" or "trans" and people telling that they're ugly because they don't fit the stereotypically feminine norm, despite the fact that there's more than one type of femininity and being butch doesn't always mean "masculine". Even women who aren't LGBT and aren't gender-conforming are always assumed, perceived or accused to be lesbians despite the evidence or proof that their not.

Not many image or comic examples but here is one:

To be honest, I'm sick and tired of humans judging certain groups or others by their looks just because of how the media, fiction, books and other forms stereotype them. Humans are supposed to be an "intelligent" species, so when will they learn?

Finally, I would love to see your answers whether or not femmes or butch have it harder.

Note: I might do one for men too.