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I’ve never been in a relationship and no girl has ever showed interest in me. I’m a really shy guy. This one girl for the past few months has kinda been flirty with me and then distant so I didn’t think anything of it. I honestly was just being myself most of the time but somehow she interpreted it as flirting, I mean I have flirted with her but she didn’t seem to return it so I backed off. Anyways, she asked to talk to me after work on Friday so I agreed to it but then I left early. So today she wanted to talk to me after work and I asked her about what and she said stuff but wouldn’t really say what. So I rolled with it. I actually distanced myself from her today on purpose. she straight out asked me if I’ve been flirting with her and I said no I’m just being myself and she’s like oh I thought you were and was wondering if you wanted to hang out and I said I’m not interested and I know your probably hurt that’s the last thing I want but yeah sorry. And she said oh ok. Her twitter is full of - “who cares about my feelings? This guy played me for months - leading me on, and tries to play me off like a fool. I have feelings you know. I don’t like being played. He’s probably thrilled with himself over the fact that I’m upset. It’s exactly what he wanted.” And my personal favorite straight to me - “hey jake sorry for putting you in an awkward situation tonight... I guess I thought you were flirting with me and kinda got feelings.. and I guess it’s probably my inner desire for wanting a boyfriend or something... anyways I guess that’s what I get for being stupid so yeah sorry” like how am I supposed to respond to that? I do feel bad and I honestly didn’t mean to say that. I do like her however I am super busy with school and barely have time to work. I honestly didn’t want to tell her that and I feel terrible. Now she’s tearing herself down.

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I'm just wondering since I was going through my 23andMe DNA Relatives (after doing a DNA Test on myself) and discovered a couple of 3rd and 4th cousins who I'd never expect to be somewhat related to me (sharing a very small portion of same DNA as me). I'm Mexican-American, with Spanish/Iberian and Broadly Southern European being the most predominant ancestry (64.8% European) and American Indian being my 2nd most predominant (25.4% Native American and East Asian), which is expected of most Mexicans considering the colonial history. However, I found one young woman on my DNA Relatives list who is about 98% European (with British & Irish being her most predominant ancestry) so I'm assuming she's mainly more Irish judging by her last name (which I censored for privacy sake) and Non-Hispanic (despite having around 7% Iberian ancestry in her results).

She is predicted to be my 4th cousin so I was thinking of messaging her to say hello but it would feel kind of awkward.

Do you think 4th cousins can be considered your "family" despite being far apart in sharing the same DNA and never knowing each other personally?