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One of the most alarming experiences you can have is a romantic partner threatening to commit suicide. When this happens, it is usually at the end of a relationship when it is apparent that the relationship is not working well and a break up can be anticipated.

Your partner may genuinely feel that their life is not worth living and have serious intentions of self-harm. But it is also possible that your partner is making this threat as a means of controlling your behavior, using guilt to coerce you into remaining in a bad relationship. The first situation requires a thoughtful response while the second is nothing more than a hostile and pathetic manipulation.

When should you take a suicidal threat seriously? Unfortunately, you may not be able to recognize the sincere suicidal threat from the manipulation and every such threat should be taken seriously. If in doubt about how to proceed, call your local suicide prevention hotline for advice on resources available in your area.

Have you ever had a partner threaten suicide? Did you think it was a serious threat? How did the situation resolve?

Since my 20-year old soulmate revealed that she has started to want humans (and they are humans, not just a 'child'), we have been breaking up due to her demand that she can only be with me if I want to have humans with her in the future. We are very much in love, and our relationship was strong and committed prior to this.

I told my father of this development. He said that all women are subconsciously programmed by evilution to want humans. But men do not have that programming. Which, as a reader of evilutionary psychology and biology books and studies, I agree with.

He told me, for the first time, that the only reason I was born is because my mother wanted a human, and he didn't. She forced him to either have a human with her at some point, or to end the relationship. Because he loved my mother, and didn't want to lose her - a feeling which I think everyone can understand - he had me. This is why I am here today.

With the example of both my parents and my girlfriend, I am experiencing this manipulation as both a son, and as a partner.

What I am certain of, is that a father is very unlikely to tell his children that he did not want them. Therefor, logically, it is entirely possible that this reality is extremely prevelant among the human population. It may even be a majority - even the vast majority - of us who are here for this very reason. Because the mother gave an ultimatum, and the father, scared to lose her, bowed down to her demands.

The thing with a poll of this nature, is that many will either not be aware enough, or strong enough, to accept their suspicions - so I am not expecting this poll to mean much, unless we find that there are many who do, secretly, realise this. Which, on a societal level, would be a wonderfully positive step in the struggle for mutual cross-gender understanding and enlightenment.