We’re just gonna jump right into it ☺️ I’m sorry if this is too long!
Everyone tends to have their dark periods, as it is apart of life but some people stay in this dark period longer than necessary. These people are usually bitter, pessimistic, and unfulfilled.
You could possibly be one of those people—or maybe you know someone who is like this.
I can definitely say that anything is possible and if you are struggling or know someone who is struggling, hopefully these talking points/tips will help.
Love yourself first, Always
For many, the source of their unhappiness is this gaping hole in their hearts—caused by unfortunate circumstances of whatever life decided to throw at you.
And you know what? It is so easy to fall into that hole and lose yourself and your true sense of worth. The deeper that hole gets, the more difficult it is to rise above that—because pain is addictive. The more we accept and wallow in misery, the more our previous hurt feelings are justified in our minds. It’s sad but pain is comforting. And hats exactly the problem.
When we hurt, we look for comfort in the WRONG places such as unhealthy distractions, self harm, resentment, and more. The true, positive source of comfort is yourself. Not the pain, not the past, or the worrisome future. Just you, your soul, alone and untouched. To heal, you must reflect on who you really are and nurture that person!!! Embrace who you’ve always been before life started fucking things up. A better analogy/example would be your “inner child”.
You need to strip away the life manipulation and get back to child self. Nurture it by focusing on the needs and wants of THAT person, not the bitter person you have become. That’s just straight up self love. If you prioritize yourself, your true self, you’re just one step closer to getting back that smile you lost.
The Mirror isn’t Broken...You Are
In a nutshell, stop blaming the world. Stop blaming everyone else but yourself. Acknowledge the role you played in your downfall and take action by being the change you want to see.
Yeah, it may sound cliche and you’ve probably heard it all before, but it’s true.
Are you in debt? Maybe you but off more than you could chew.
Are you being pushed around by family/friends? Maybe you lack backbone because you’re afraid to be by yourself.
Are you lonely? Maybe you are doing something to push people away...or maybe you just isolate yourself.
It is okay to be imperfect. EVERYONE has character flaws, some more than others, but it isn’t impossible to change. We tell ourselves that things are impossible when we aren’t willing to FIGHT. It’s never easy. It takes time. But it will be worth it in the long run. And don’t improve for others, improve for yourself.
A Dirty House still has a door. Just find it.
Many of us unknowingly walk into numerous situations that all turn out to be shitty. Like when you enter relationships or friendships and they all fail due to similar mistakes. Those loops can be frustrating, I know. But guess what...you have the power to end the cycle. You can and will break free if that’s what you really want.
How does one leave a tough spot in life?
Take a step back and look at things OBJECTIVELY. Not with your feelings, not with your biases, not with your pain.
Just think like a rational person and consider The Who, What, When, Where, Why.
This is mainly about your environment and your experiences. These things go hand in hand. Some people cannot help the bad loop that their in but it is totally possible to manipulate reality. Everything is a choice. Surround yourself with positive people, and place yourself in positive environments, and you’re bound to have positive experiences (eventually...IF you embrace it)
Setting yourself up for disappointment WORKS, so stop 👀
I understand that things may not go your way...OFTEN. But that doesn’t mean you should always expect to be let down. What you put in the world is what you get out of it. Setting yourself up for the worst is going to get you those exact results. There are plenty of people who hear “no” all their lives...but because of their dedication, persistence, will, and optimism they eventually get that ONE “yes” they need.
Again, like I said before, we tell ourselves that things are impossible when we don’t want to fight for what we want.
Obsession is meaningless
i have seen this with A LOT of people on G@G, particularly the men. But this scan apply to anyone.
Obsession is unhealthy. And the lot of you wouldn’t even acknowledge that you are obsessed but that’s exactly what’s going on. When you place ALL of your time and energy on the things that are not helping you—you get in your own way. Like this one person who is very obsessed with women and everything he sees wrong with them. He will not focus on anything else and he’s JUST stepped into adulthood. Poor thing has admitted to dealing with depression and anxiety and he does absolutely nothing to fix it. Instead he feeds into his own negativity, for reasons I can’t even begin to understand but I do believe if he keeps up his behavior he will become suicidal. I wish him the best. I know he is an extreme example but people like this exists.
And everyone else could learn from him. Obsession is mental, self inflicted hiderence. Either learn to let it go or get professional help.
k...I’m done, hope you enjoyed ☺️
Haven’t done a Take in a while so I’m rusty. Don’t judge too harshly. Pwease 🐶
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