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Hello, I
would like to know your opinion on one minor problem. My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago. (Yes, a week before Valentine's Day!). In fact, he broke up with me. However, I do not understand the reason... You know, the relationship was very nice for me, and I'm afraid I won't have a match like that anymore. To describe it to you, this guy fought for me for 3 months until we finally got together. I think it was all honest on his part that he liked me. The strangest thing is that we are from one city, and when we were were we did the same activities. We trained together at the same sport club, but I don't remember him, only he remembers me. However, after 10 years, we met again and even found that we were studying the same thing and had the same ambitions. He was my best friend, support, lover and we just complemented each other. After half a year of relationship, he told me from day to day that he didn't want a relationship. He told me that he wanted to be alone, to focus on himself. I'm sure he doesn't have anyone else because we were together every day and it was always great until that day. It was a huge shock to me because the day before he called me from work saying that he missed me and that he loved me. I don't know what happened. It hurts me and I don't want it to end like this because it was too muchIt hurts me and I don't want it to end like this because it was too perfect.. He told me that there was no mistake in me, that he still liked me, but that he didn't know how to change his feelings. I would like to ask you what would you do in my place? Will I start to miss him? I don't want this to be our end.

SO, I’d like to preface this by saying my boyfriend has always known about all of this. Everything has been communicated to the best of my ability. I just can’t shake the guilt.

i used to post a lot on here about my ex, who I thought I loved. Truth be told, he manipulated me, gaslit me and made me feel less than human. Even once told me to k*ll myself. During our relationship, there came a point where the only way he’d want me around was for sex. In an abusive relationship, you obviously feel the need to keep them, so I did what I needed to do. Usually out of fear that he would’ve left. That lasted for 1 year, and then for 2.5 additional after we broke up, because he never left me alone.
March 2020, I meet my current boyfriend, I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and my ex has apologized and we’re semi-okay just because we have mutual friends and I still carried a lot of trauma — was 18 when I met him, am 23 now.
about 4 or so months into my relationship my ex starts to send me sexual texts, to which I would either respond “haha yeah we can’t do that anymore” or ignore that entirely. But he was persistent. And I would see him on occasion because of our friends. He’d always ask to touch me, and it would take a lot of goading and a lot of me saying no, so there were times I said yes, only for him to put a hand on me and then for me to run away. then he would text me about it, say how much he missed me and my body, and I was afraid that if I didn’t say it back, we wouldn’t be friends anymore. So I answered, very vaguely, never sexting in return. But after much therapy, I had the strength to cut him off. Because he was making me uncomfortable. My boyfriend always knew about all of this, and he always said that he saw me as a victim of abuse by my ex who had developed a trauma bond, and I never engaged too heavily (that I can remember — I’ve shut most of this time out). But I still feel like my boyfriend should be mad. Am I a terrible person for allowing this?