Search Results: what are his real intentions

I met a guy on Bumble. We had talked about 4-5 hours, texting and he invited me to dinner on Sunday telling me that he really finds me interesting. We kinda hit it off in our conversation and he seems like a nice person.


But I had a terrible past relationship that I had met online but never asked his intentions, and dated about 8 months only to find out that he was playing with me and using me only for sex. I was a little naive at that time since it was my very first time using online dating, and he seemed nice and we had a lot in common. And another relationship again i met online we dated 3 months and I didn't have sex until the mark of third month. He was all lovey-dovey including me in his life and everything. We had sex when he told me that he was ready for commitment. But I found out after first sex when he texted me that he was only trying me how long I was going to resist him. He even congratulated me cuz the other girls had sex with him after 1.5-2 weeks, while it took him 3.5 months for me. And basically he ended things in a fuck and dump situation. I did not ask him his intentions either at the first date because I thought I would come off as scary.

Now I want to ask to make sure that we are on the same page. Because I am really not looking for casual sex. I like to invest time into something real. I don't wanna be someone's trial and error to see how long I would take to open my legs. Should I ask him what his intentions are or is it useless to ask since he may simply lie to me to have sex?

A socially awkward star football player touched me while I was intoxicated one night. Two days later I went to the coach to get the players number. The coach asked why and I told him. The coach wanted to handle it but I told him I want to deal with it myself. So I texted the player to meet somewhere so I can get my apology. While I was there, the player kept trying to hug me and kept saying sorry and asking me "are we cool" repeatedly. I assured him there was no hard feelings but he kept trying to hug me so I slapped his hands away. When I left he text me saying "you cool people and I don't want that to change. 2 months later I texted multiple people asking "when does school start and does anyone have the new coach number"? So I texted the player he said "who is this"? I said my name but he read it and didn't reply. School started and we were back to practice ( I'm a water girl). I was moving a cooler (my head was down) and someone banged on the cooler. I looked up and it was him. He said hey and smiled, then walked away. One day I offered him my Gatorade and he was happy. Next day he came to me asking for my new one playfully. The next day another player asked me for a waterfall and the star football player walked up beside me, and told the other football player to pass him MY Gatorade, I told him he could just ask for it and he smiled at me while drinking it lol. So 10 minutes later my friend asked me for a waterfall and said the kind I got was real good. The star walked slowly in front of me, listening to the convo and suddenly asked "yea what kind is it?" I said "strawberry watermelon" he said "yea it's good"