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This is what I want in a long term relationship with a woman:

- financially independent but can work with me synergistically.
- exercises and diets well on most days.
- attractive enough that I want to have sex with her on regular basis.
- open minded to debate, but fights fair. Can be opinionated but not judgmental to point she cares more about being right vs. what IS right.
- no serious addictions. I've had a few minor issues with this, but it doesn’t control my life. So I will give her leeway for some sins. But I dated an alcoholic one time and I will never do it again.

In my entire life I have only dated one girl who fit all of these. But tragically we met me at the wrong time in my life and I ended up screwing it up. I owned up to that when we broke up.

However over 95 percent of the women I’ve met before and after her date me for the following shitty reasons:

- financial support
- briefly date and then friendzone. They try to keep me as orbiter for their own conceited bullshit reasons
- they are broken and looking for a “savior”.

I just feel that as a man I’m at an inherent disadvantage because women have more room to be choosy thanks to differences in sex drives.

As a man am I really expected to “settle”. I know a bunch of girls will say “oh follow your heart”. But they are 100% clueless on what dating is like for guys.

So over the holiday my mother and I were talking and dating came up. I'm a virgin who never dated and not concerned about it right now because I'm focusing on myself. Since this was a private conversation and I'm close to my mother, I came out and told her that I only want to date another virgin and I'm willing to wait until marriage. She didn't go crazy or anything, but she tried to convince me otherwise, asked me even if she only had sex 1 time before you'd still wouldn't date her, and I said no I wouldn't. We ended up debating back and forth and eventually I just said "I chose to save myself for someone special and I just ask for the same in return", but what she said next very much insulted me. She said "well a woman only has sex when she's in love, and sometimes her feelings were't right, and you should be more considerate and accept it." It sounded like she was telling me to just give myself away regardless of what I want. Just give myself to whoever like a charity food stamp. I know she didn't mean it and was trying to help, but I couldn't help but to feel offended. I didn't bring this up because I still respect my mother, but this is what her dating and sex life was.

She lost her virginity at 13.
Dated a guy in his mid 20's when she was 15.
Got pregnant by said guy and had my sister at 16 then my brother at 21.
We still don't know who my biological father is because she was hooking up with random guys while living at some old guy's house, and that old guy might even be my father because she was sleeping with him too.
She's been married 3 times and didn't have children with any of the men she married.

Both my older brother and sister had their first child at 17. My sister is an overweight single mother in her mid 30s and my brother in being divorced for cheating on his wife and is running off with a girl he already got pregnant, and his child support looks like a shopping list.

If I'm going to get into a relationship, I want something that's special.