This is kind of response to my friend @Wowgirl30q 's article
After I wrote this, i realized how long this was, but its a captivating read (i hope).
Disclaimer: I know there is going to be some blow-back. So i'm going to state upfront to the women, that I wrote this FOR THE GUYS. The ones that actually go through the shit, this is OUR perspective, and its well known knowledge that it is a perspective most women DON'T care for or about. If, as a woman, you see some of this happen (or do it), then im glad we still have some of you with sense around, because i know this does not apply to ALL girls/women. As for those that dont understand it or want to belittle...Let me make it easy for you, cuz i already know what you are going to say. its always the same untrue bullshit because i never included my stories in this. So here goes:
Yes, im bitter, yes, someone broke my heart, yes i hate women,oooh, yes I've been rejected by every girl on the planet...and... yes i (insert whatever accusation/assumption you have here), then please happily click another link. ✌😁😒
Whoo this is long.
The requirements are sometimes overwhelming. Its fine to want an Independent person that owns their own stuff, but if you dont own your own stuff as well, take that out of your greedy requirement list. The requirements are getting outrageous, even to where height and eye color is now a factor. I once stumbled unto some girl talk where a girl wanted all these material things, he had to have his own house/place, not just a car but a NEWER nice car, and either made a lot of money or owned a business. Funny fact...i was at a burger king and she was behind the register, as the story went on, turns out, she stayed with her mom, had 2 kids her mom was helping her take care of, and she used the bus. As i walked away after getting my order, i gave her the biggest smile i could muster and said "honey, if you ever run into that man...dollars to donuts, he will not want YOU". If you ain't got it, be quiet. It may seem like im harping on the material things, that's because its true, and they forget that those things come with a Person...with feelings and emotions. Requirements first lol.
This is another HUGE problem in the dating world. and this encompasses everything. Many, if not all women dont seem to think things through when dating or about to date him. They seem (seem) to only think in the NOW...which is fine if you just want to do things now. As i mentioned earlier about requirements, I personally noticed a few things missing. For example, what is his personality like? he could be a psycho (like me 😈 ). what about his family, his friends? Is his money legit/legal? ecetera, ecetera, ecetera. Thats why in most relationships its WOMEN that try to "change" the man AFTER the fact. Because at the beginning, they didn't think it through (the men dont either lol but thats ok, at least we admit we are dumb). Women tend to ignore negatives hoping to "fix" it later. They only see what they want At That Moment and sometimes, if not most times, it comes to bite them in the butt later. So he has the requirements, but he is always verbally and sometimes physically abusive...how good are those requirements now. Women, you can see material/surface shit quickly, but personality is where you want to be at.
You were attracted to the surface shit, and when the underside showed, now you want to "change" him. Meanwhile you had a nice guy approach you, you had a nice time in the few moments you spent together, before he left but because his clothes were not designer and he took the bus, no chance, you decided to go for the one that turned out to be an abusive heroin addict/dealer lol. (not always, but true story)
Men can ALWAYS tell when a woman is just a gold digger (even if she doesn't think she is),
Gold Digger: Definition: A woman who associates with a man for material gain. (sometimes even if she has her own, them are the worst)
But what can you do if damn near all the women you meet have material "requirements". I can understand her wanting an independent man, but are YOU an independent woman?. when i heard the requirement "...must have a lot of money"..my mind went, to spend on you..right? Its one thing to want security, and another to just be a gold digger. One of the worst things i ever heard was..."i ain't dating no man that can't pay my rent"...oh another harsh one "aint dating no man that can't take care of me and my kids"...omg...i fell out laughing on that second one. And HER kids...i want to see the moron that bites this bullet.
Im not saying its bad to have some requirements or standards, im saying dont let it be some deciding factor, especially if you can't produce the same. If he doesn't have his own place, and you dont either, you can both come together and get one. Once you make it one sided only, dont get mad that you are assumed to be a gold digger.
There was a while when i heard it was men that were...what was that word...Thirsty? Well, now it seems to have changed. This is something I've been itching to say since the beginning of this article, it goes back to the "Halfway Thinking/Ignorance" part. Women, when you make that list of requirements, do you think YOU are the only one who has that list of requirements? In Diggers, i said "...when damn near all the women you meet.."...meaning its NOT just you. So if you want it, guess what? so do other women..INCLUDING people you know.
Now you just made yourself an option and in order to keep this fine gentleman that has all your requirements, you are going to have to work a Lot harder to keep that focus on you. Because one slip, and he's going on to the next one. You wondered why men leave? there you have it. He fulfilled ALL your requirements and you fulfilled what? one or two of his? sometimes none? (do women even ask? oh wait..they dont care). I believe that is Sugar Daddy status lol. Why satisfy you, and you can't do the same?, someone else may.
This is something most men can't stand and today's women tend to do it a lot. Belittling a man until when she needs a man. So he doesn't have all the requirements you want in a man, doesn't mean you should shit on him either. It first of all started with women not wanting to stroke a man's ego, now they just shit on guys. But Yet, they want things from him. A real woman builds a man up, and when he feels like a man, he acts like a man in every way. If you belittle and shit on him all the time over some requirement that he can STILL attain...well...fault is on you.
This is mostly felt on the guy side of things, most guys can attest to the fact that today's women, just want to take take take take take. At some point, we get tired of giving. Today's women attest that they give a lot as well...im yet to see what. I've heard they give love...i said, them are words. They say they give attention...I say AFTER the guy asks for it or if they want something. The list goes on. Women tend to want material stuff(oh and emotional stuff) but tend to give only emotions back... Luckily...i know very many women who spoil their men materialistically too, so thank Heavens that those exist, because its tiresome to pay for everything, just to get words back. Goes back to why i said, dont have requirements if you can't produce the same. Thought we were all equal.
During the Actual Dates : Women have harped about this so many times and absolutely hate men (like me) who refuse to pay for dates and prefer to go half and half.According Wowgirl30q 's article, makes them seem cheap right? I say it makes them smart. Goes back to my Halfway thinking topic. Do you think YOU are the only one he has gone on a date with? So when a guy says he would prefer to split...you see cheap, but he probably has had a couple of dates already and believe me, the stuff piles up because each girl wants that First date to be like spectacular, i mean why not, its not coming out of your fucking pocket. Reminds me of that one girl that said "I always say yes to dates, i get to enjoy myself and eat for free"...wow, im glad she got cussed out BY other females. To put it simply, he isn't a fucking walking bank.
Now, I've heard women say:
"if he asked her out, he should pay for it"... agreed, thats why i personally dont "ask out" anymore lol, i suggest or go somewhere money ain't involved.
"If he won't pay for me, he is not worth my time"...agreed, now go back to the street corner where you can find one that will
"I agree that she should pay her half, so she owes him nothing"... agreed, but are you admitting that if he pays she DOES owe him something? 😁😒 (i found this one especially funny, it is when you look how entitled many women act)
I dont pay for dates if there is no label. I'd pay for my gf/wife, but im not paying for some Random, i'd rather give it to the homeless. I'd be doing some good that way. After its official..i do what every man WANTS to do...pay for his woman.
Im going to say this again just to rile the women up lol..(personal pleasure 😎 ).. I once said
"All women (recent events have made me change that to 'most') most women are prostitutes, the only difference between those who are actual prostitutes and the average woman is Time."
That's when i get asked/told "why do you think that, Diesel?". Its simple, if you got this far in this boring article...all you have seen is women making demands and having requirements. To add to that, just to spend time with her, you still gotta shell out ( and over a period of time)even after satisfying ALL the previous requirements...hmm...in what other situation does that happen?
Men go through all that for sex, and this ain't news to women, so they pile on the payments, "no sex until the 10th date, but you must pay for every date" lol. And then when he disappears after the sex, she goes "oh he just wanted sex". No honey, YOU made it about sex. He wanted YOU. Then you put parameter on it. I once told women to flip the script, if you think your date wants sex, then fucking do it. maybe not on the first date, but soon. And if he keeps coming around...you are good. If not, then good riddance.
But when men hear all the requirements just to achieve 30 mins of what we want...its a fucking turn off and he either doesn't want to do it, hence the reason why he walks away or won't even ask her out, OR he'll do it, get his, then find someone else that just...isn't...like...that.
Just a little tidbit on my side, a saying i kinda questioned. They say women can tell within the first few seconds if she will have sex with a guy...that's fine and dandy. BUT their mistake is that,
you can't tell if a guy is date worthy, wants you for real, and is a good guy,etc, within the first few seconds. Even with female intuition, you still can't. Gotta get to know them first.
Guys would run after a girl with a cute face and a sexy body, but what happens when they find out she is just an assuming greedy woman? they leave. So maybe it ain't your perfect guy up front...but don't forget, looks and materials fade, but that personality and character is forever.
Now to personalize, I see things like this happen around me all the time and it makes me (and possibly other guys) very skeptical about dating. Can i just jump in anyway?...Yes (and i have, and regretted it...met pretty much all of them except that mythical "good girl" lol). But I don't think i can handle the headache of noticing all this happening to me. Women would say that maybe just because a man doesn't want to put up with it, it makes him less of a man. didn't bother me at all because SHE isn't a man, all she can do is "belittle". But a man WOULD do something about it...So I rewrote this bullshit dating requirements and system and absolutely refuse to date anyone that won't go with (or at least try) the new system because it bring equality to Both parties. Yup, equality (yes, its tested,it works fine) . I hope to write an article on it one day. So its not like Guys can't get girls...sometimes, we just dont want to. And those that do "get" girls, have made a conscientious decision to put up with all the above shit because of some agenda their devious minds have.
May God help their souls. lol.
Thanks for Reading.
Guys please point out areas where i may have been wrong or right...Ladies..as much as i'd like to say i dont give a fuck about your opinions...i actually do, because i may be misinterpreting or exaggerating some (a lot of) stuff. So if you have reasons as to why some women do these things happen, please, share with the class.
P.S. I reread this article so many times before i posted, I never went through most of this stuff..and with the DDS, i'll probably never go through it...but i see it around me, my brother, my buddies, coworkers, strangers ...and it hurts me (you know, for my fellow men that can't stick up for themselves).