Why Guys Can't Get a Girl Anymore

[Wowgirl30q]

Why Guys Can't Get a Girl Anymore.

This site is famous for men whining about not having sex or not being able to get a girl to date them. These guys can't seem to pinpoint the problem they are facing with females or why. Well guys, let me help you out a bit with this dilemma. Here are a few reasons that you might be struggling with getting a girl to sleep with you.

1. Growing Up

The lack of stable employment and living with your parents well past the age when men from older generations would have already gotten a place of their own. When you’re living at home it’s probably harder to bring sexual partners home and into your bedroom, no?

2. Technology = Not Effort

There are a lot more things to do at 10 o’clock at night now than there were 20 years ago. Streaming video, social media, console games, and everything else. With all these options men have stopped pursuing women as they once did. I guess that females are supposed to just pop out of the computer at them, in their parents house.

3. Being Cheap

As much as people like to be “independent” and “self-sufficient,” there’s nothing romantic about splitting a bill on the first date. You split bills with guys you don't want to sleep with. This way the girl knows she owes him nothing and doesn't worry about the guy feeling like she owes him sex because he bought her dinner. If you asked someone out, just pay. If you can't afford to pay take her on a picnic or a walk.

4. Being Weak

From cry-ins, to test cancellations, to mansplaining to hotlines for men upset over ???, the world seems to be overrun with snowflakes and weak men. The poor men/millennials who have spent their lives getting rewards and trophies, even when not deserved, who cannot handle “adulting”. Remember women are sapposed to be the more delicate and fragile gender not men, not men.

5. Mansplaining

The term used to describe behaviour by a man explaining something to a woman (who may already know what he is talking about) making the woman feel she is being spoken down to as though she is somehow less intelligent than the gentleman in question because she is a female. So, basically manners or lack there of manners I should say.

Sex for One

Masturbating to internet porn is addictive, it causes structural changes in the brain, (yikes) and is producing an epidemic of erectile dysfunction in young men. Take a break guys before it's too late. You might actually use it with someone someday if it's not destroyed from self love.

That's enough for now, but there are many more reasons why guys are struggling today with having sex and getting the girl. Thanks for reading and remember ,,,, #WowGirlRocks

[Tdieseler]

I like you honey, but im against you on this one... you know me... ima call your butt out.
Rewrite:
Why guys can't get girls anymore

first things first... feminism and the fight for an equality that will NEVER happen...
now lets branch it into the dating world... i cannot... CANNOT remember the last time I've seen a guy make a cold approach
Cold Approach: Definition; When a person is approached by another person who has absolutely no ties to them.
Try doing that shit now as a guy... you either get dumped on with a TON of expectations BEFORE the first date OR she just thinks you want to get in her pants... like there is anything valuable there.

1. Growing Up: Yes... hand in hand with "man up"... every woman wants one eh? a "grown" man... not because he's grown... but because he has access and capabilities that she wants... Also... its fucking tough out there... see the difference. I have. An uneducated woman can still make it today... but an uneducated man is SOL. If it were up to me? i'd make that gender equality shit a REAL thing... and according to my theories... WOMEN will be the FIRST ONES to hate it. so what the fuck if the guy stays with his parents still? about 60% of women who want a man who has his own place... usually Dont have their own place. and most of the shit they "expect".

2. That made no sense. We are slowly being pushed to tech. Again... because no one talks to no one face to face anymore.
3. I swore... SWORE i'd never do this because women today are waaaaay too fucking entitled/greedy. and you messed up here. this is a math equation. single guy + 4 dates in a month with each date costing an average of +/- $100 thats about 400$ lost. im a testament to this equation... spent $513 on one "whole day" date... just to be told "we dont click". i bet we would have clicked if she had to give me that 513 back... oh.. she would have given it a good try. Any fucking guy at this day and age that still pays for a woman that is NOT his woman... is fucking stupid in my book. MY book. Period. Chivalry is fucking dead and women killed it. Unless he makes that choice as a MAN to do it... then he's stupid.
4. Women ain't tender/delicate/fragile no more... they want equality, they wanna be men... i tell them to woman the fuck up when they tell me to "man up".
5. Mansplaining? I just tell her what the fuck my thoughts are. dont gotta explain SHIT.

Wowgirl... where does internet porn come in in all this lol... ugh. Hey, tell me what you think about my counters.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler hi my love.

[Wowgirl30q]

Nice to see you.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler we should talk I've been worried

[Robertcw]

Agree with this guy 100%.

[Tdieseler]

Alright Wowgirl, i'll call you either tonight or tomorrow with updates.
@Robertcw thank you sir, these girls dont know that they are fucking up the dating game completely by being super extreme choosy cunts. then when confronted, you hear "so she cannot have standards?" , thats not what i mean, i mean start focusing on the guys that ACTUALLY want your greedy ass, rather than the ones your greedy ass wants who doesn't give a flying fuck about you.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler tears on the ready these boys have. Lend them some testosterone please

[Tdieseler]

hahahahaha... shoot, they can get their own

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler appearantly not

[Wowgirl30q]

See you then

[Robertcw]

Welp. He and I are in agreement so not sure what you're talking about...

[Wowgirl30q]

50% agree
I believe in gender roles I am a flower
Guys I think should pay like I said I get expensive but there are things you can do for free
I think feminist have jacked up a lot
One part of yours was funny as hell
Was definitely your style and interesting. It's really cool you couching guys how to have confidence. I thought you could be helpful so thank you

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler

[Mr_Kapstar]

Totally agree dude. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[OlderAndWiser]

I concur with many of your criticisms of the current generation of young men. Of course, there are many criticisms that can be made of the current generation of young women, but that topic can wait to another day.

With respect to these weak "men" who live at home, need free hugs when they're upset, and don't want to pay for a date. . . almost all of them were raised primarily by women. That is when and where their personalities were formed. So, ladies, you reap what your mothers have sown. Will YOU do a better job with the next generation?

[Wowgirl30q]

Single parents are a huge part of it and I would agree about the women today but hopefully someone writes a counter to this.

[Wowgirl30q]

Lack of male role models effects anyone in any generation

[Rica_ChicaUSA]

@Wowgirl30q Exactly. When a woman is the only one raising the child, that means the man was too weak to take responsibility. Will the men ever step up and quit being weak chickens? I doubt it 😂 then they wonder why we reject them smh...

[Wowgirl30q]

@Rica_ChicaUSA did you see this cat chasing me around bitching @Exorcist_Rampage
Amazing

[Exorcist_Rampage]

@Wowgirl30q
I'm a human being, not a cat. I'm not chasing you. You show up in my notifications and you keep replying to my replies. So am I supposed to just ignore them?

[Wowgirl30q]

Free hugs😂

[Tdieseler]

@Rica_ChicaUSA that is only partly correct. but that is not the reason why women reject men. Its their greed and lack of common sense. and ironically, is why single mothers exist. women making stupid choices due to greed, choosing a man for the wrong reasons and rejecting the ones who have good intentions. then when the wrong guy bails after a couple of kids, we hear girls like you saying ALL sorts of dumb shit like he was "weak"... no... SHE was fucking stupid.
Because if she had given the good man a chance, HE would have stuck around.

[BrittBratt2416]

Women can't force a man to stay in the household and raise his children if he doesn't want to. Women wouldn't be single mothers if the men didn't leave them to take care of of the most the work.

[Tdieseler]

@BrittBratt2416 "Women can't force a man..." but they sure as hell try dont they?
Make it seem like they aren't forcing, while forcing hard as hell. Again, like i said... stupid. Because if she actually knows that she can't force a man... she would also know that she can't force a man to stay when she makes/made the decision to keep the kid and be a single mother.
But if she had let the greed out of her eyes and chosen the guy who expressed interest... HE would have done ANYTHING for her AND said child. Including becoming the man she wants.

[Rica_ChicaUSA]

@BrittBratt2416 He’s just salty because he isn’t the one they are interested in. 😂 He is talking bad about his own gender himself rn. No sense in arguing with a guy with no sense 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Plonksie]

@Rica_ChicaUSA Most men bolt because they can't stand living with the endless demands, control, manipulation and because nothing is ever good enough. Then they must deal with the "resentful ex" preventing child access, poisoning the children against them and spreading ugly stories.

[Tdieseler]

@Rica_ChicaUSA You read my mind... except its a female.. and its you. You think i give a flying crap if a girl wants me or not? Look at what what @Plonksie said... you think i want that shit around me? some negative, demanding naggy little bitch around me... im GRATEFUL when they aren't interested in me. I get breathing room. The problem is when they are...

You are just being a dumbass like the rest of these females. When a guy says some true shit, you try to belittle him and all that..."who broke your heart"..."because no girls want you"... blah blah blah... etc. You dont fucking even know the person. Just mad because you see a guy who Refuses to bend to feminine stupidity. Go back to your boy-toys that come running and wagging their tails when you just LOOK in their direction. Cuz over here? ur fucking with the wrong one.

[Cdubs27]

@Tdieseler it's not the womans fault when the man runs away. Sometimes it's the "good guy" that bolts. But the "bad guy" does what is morally right. It's not a woman's fault that a man bolts. If he didn't want her to get pregnant than he should have worn protection. You reap what you sow... literally.

[Tdieseler]

@Cdubs27 hahaha... i see what you did there. You say its not the woman's fault... i disagree, though not completely. In most cases its her fault that he leaves. I know of guys (used to be one of them) that just left, sometimes with reason, sometimes its just "on to the next one". But for most part, its usually the women. Please refer to what @Plonksie said... just greedy demanding females who have thousands of needs and wants that keep rotating and want them all satisfied before she can even satisfy one of THREE that guys need.
Lets not talk about the need to want to Change the guy and mold him into her "perfect" guy, meanwhile refuses to change nothing herself, because she should be "accepted as she is".
I know this doesn't qualify to all women, I've seen it happen in reverse, its still just as maddening.

Its not that guys can't get girls... its that they make it hard as fuck to stay with them. You either have to be a wuss that bends to all their demands, or stand strong and tell them to shut up. If she leaves because of the latter, she's only doing you a favor. Plenty fish out there.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler You just loitering around this question my man?😂

[Rica_ChicaUSA]

@Wowgirl30q He has no life and nothing better to do. He’s just salty lol

[Wowgirl30q]

@Rica_ChicaUSA Teaming up on the good girls. 103 male responses to this and it bothered 80 .50 now hate me 15 probably had a good cry..

[Wowgirl30q]

@Plonksie You gay or just bitter?

[Tdieseler]

@Wowgirl30q lol.. what? i get the notification, i respond. Plus its dead at work. Why would anyone hate you writing just an article... its probably assuming morons like RicaChica that would do something like that if they dont agree with someone's opinion/Take/article.
All i can say is that, those reasons are not all completely true but they do exist.
Another thing is, this is written by a female, so obviously its going to only see it from a female perspective and what good is the perspective of a gender that does next to NO approaching?

If a guy were to write this SAME article it may contain some of the points, but each one will also explain WHY guys dont do those things no more. Dont forget who killed chivalry and replaced it with greed.
Now im going to go back to my "no life" like that moron said lol. Its usually people with no life who say that to others, because if they had one, they won't care if someone else did or didn't... a little bit of wisdom for your ass Rica.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler I don't give a shit I'm teasing you

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler And I like her @Rica_ChicaUSA she's lippy. That one's got spirit

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler I can force a man but I'd get arrested

[Wowgirl30q]

You crack me up 😀😀

[Rica_ChicaUSA]

@Tdieseler It’s about time lol 😂 I’m not the offended one. You’re mad and cursing, and I’m just here like wow at the truth of when people get offended over stuff like this. Adios 😊

[Wowgirl30q]

@Rica_ChicaUSA Only men it applies to get offended mainly

[Rica_ChicaUSA]

“I can force a man but I’d get arrested.”

Omg 😂😂😂😂😂 you’re bad

[Wowgirl30q]

@Rica_ChicaUSA What it's true. He knows it too

[Tdieseler]

Yea... one of those. its better than being all lip. its cute she thinks im offended. Give me one reason i should be offended. I dont know you... your naive way of thinking affects me none. Im a guy, this is about guys. Im throwing in my and hopefully a lot of other guys' opinions as to why these things dont happen no more.
@Wowgirl30q ain't gotta tell you nothing though... you know enough about me lol... im worse than all this.

[Cdubs27]

@Tdieseler when I said that if the guy runs away you can't blame the girl (paraphrasing), i wasn't phrasing it in some sort of debate format. I was stating an indisputable fact. The points you're trying to make are extremely sexist, extremely biased and in general not defendable points.

[Tdieseler]

@Cdubs27 state them and watch me defend it. I think my mix with GaG and its occupants is that, along time ago, i found out that not only are women on bullshit in the dating/relationship game, i was shocked to find out that men too are on bullshit.

So when i talk about anything on here... i talk from a third and totally different perspective. One where i watch you people argue over what should and shouldn't be...
I created a system based on all this nonsense... and it took 6 years... i dont face Absolutely NONE of all of this. Thats the honest truth. when i found out that after defending men, they were on bullshit too... i went off on a tangent.
All i say on here is just shit I've observed.. its part of the reason why im a little ticked at RicaChica. because if she were to come at me directly... all This... would never apply to me. These are just questions... they dont affect me Personally. Because the ones who do affect me personally, know, this is something i solved a long time ago.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler i thought for you it was being nice honestly.🤷

[Wowgirl30q]

You're very misunderstood like myself

[HikerDude]

I love most of your takes because you are one of the best common sense voices on this site, but feeding into this sort of female whining about men verges a little close to white knighting. The reality is that young women are just as fucked up as young men. If you knew how many girls out there have destroyed their brains on X, how many are lost to social media (narcissism), and how many have no hope of ever becoming useful members of society (let alone good wives), you'd have a different point of view. That's why women are lagging behind men in productivity even though they are the vast majority of college graduates today. Drug and emotional problems keep so many of them from excelling in their careers, and it more importantly keeps them from reaching significant life milestones like marriage and motherhood.

[OlderAndWiser]

@HikerDude I was not trying to be a white knight here, because I do understand that there are many women as deficient as there are guys. I simply did not make that point because I was only responding to what was written. Also, I think that many overlooked the point that I made when I said, "With respect to these weak "men" who live at home, need free hugs when they're upset, and don't want to pay for a date. . . almost all of them were raised primarily by women. That is when and where their personalities were formed." If men are weak, it is because women (their mothers) raised them to be weak, so it is the ladies who need to take responsibility for this problem.

[HikerDude]

I agree with you about the single-parent homes. I would have been lost had I not grown up with a father and older cousins to teach me a lot of the lessons I learned about being an adult. And yes, mostly it is women raising these loser guys, which would make these women the begetters of losers. So I think you're spot-on regarding that.

I just get tired of reading these posts from (ostensibly) female posters about what losers men are, and then watching two dozen guys trip over themselves to agree with them about what losers men are. Some of them don't even realize they are in the group of guys being painted with that broad brush.

[OlderAndWiser]

@HikerDude Yes, I almost always go on the attack whenever I hear anyone putting down the entire opposite sex because of their bad experiences. If women have bad experiences with men, then they need to do a better job of attracting and selecting men as candidates for a LTR!

[startingfitness]

@BrittBratt2416 im sorry but women being single mothers is entirely your own fault.
1) 70 % of divorces are initiated by women. so its not men , its women who wanna leave the man and take the children away.

2) every woman on this site and their mother talks about women needing to be selective , defending their decisions, and saying that women don't need to have sex with or get with " undesirable men" men. ok, let me think about this in clear , scientific terms.

after deliberating about this for a couple of hours * sarcasm* I conclude that women choose men. y'all chose the guys who you got with.
that means:
y'all chose the guys who left you single mothers.
don't get mad at me, remember, YOU said it, not me.

so that leaves us with two results,
either
a) women are incredibly stupid beyond belief
or b) you just don't wanna take responsibility.

so, take responsibility because you are the reason for being single mothers.
the victim card doesn't work anymore, the only card you can play now is the im stupid card.
class dismissed.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Rica_ChicaUSA More than likely it means the crazy bitch either had shit taste in men or she drove the man away.

Either way, a woman cannot teach boys how to be men.

[Cdubs27]

@startingfitness "70 % of divorces are initiated by women. so its not men , its women who wanna leave the man and take the children away." Newtons laws of physics states that "every action has an equal and opposite reaction". In this case the action is a man doing something immoral and/or and the reaction is the woman leaving him as a result. Are their exceptions to this, absolutely.
As for your comment about children, I agree with you. But that's because of a problem with the system, not a problem perpetuated by women.

"Take responsibility because you are the reason for being single mothers." Yes, it's obviously the womans fault (blatant sarcasm). A man that walks away is a coward. Lets say it's the womans fault that the relationship ends. Fine, he has every right to end that relationship. But if he finds out she's pregnant than leaves not just the relationship but her life. He is not leaving her, he is leaving the baby. That is entirely on him, it has nothing to do with her. You don't have to be in a relationship with that woman to still be a part of that child's life.

[Tdieseler]

i know im a little late to the party but... dude... last paragraph... its fucking amazing how many of these guys ARE raised by women and it goes one of two ways... either they raise "bitch-ass" guys taught that they only exist to serve women... or are abused by the woman because she is taking out her anger of the absentee father on the boy. and many of them end up abusing women in return.
Luckily, i escaped that part...
I loved your last line though... will you do a better job? I've been saying that for years, but to teenage mothers... some girl gets pregnant at 15... and i was like "that ain't right"... and she told me something that changed me a little... she was like.."so... my mom had me at 15"... so the cycle repeats.

Lastly... it says a lot about the men... every child needs two parents.. and every parent needs support. unless there are extenuating circumstances.. I've never approved of single parenting...
you think a single mom is gonna go out to the backyard and toss a football with her son... or a single dad is going to know what to do when his daughter gets her first period...(aside from freak the fuck out lol) i'll never have my kid be raised by one parent.

[startingfitness]

@Cdubs27 newton's laws of physics do not apply here, we are talking about human behaviour, not physics. women can leave a man because of his actions, or because she is bored. The assumption that they leave a man because he did something wrong, is just that, an assumption. Anyone who observes women ( and their tactics) knows that lies and deception are a woman's primary weapons. they do it more naturally and better than men because they are not as suited with physical warfare.

and if you have seen enough of couples break up/cheat or have fight, you will see that this is what women do to justify their actions. At least in my experience, including a recent experienced that just happened to a close friend of mine, after I had written my previous comment, women just find a reason to blame the man. any reason. everyone makes mistakes, its not hard to find one , especially if you know them intimately and see them every day.
a lot of the time, their justification doesn't match their actual motivation. young women leave men all the time when they find another man. with older women and women in more invested relationships, they leave men simply because they got bored and want some changes in their life.
of course they will not admit the actual reasons, and instead find faults with their partners , so that they do not look bad. this is why , as men, its important to call women out on their bullshit, instead of defending them. to be fair, I DO know cases where men were being genuinely abusive. It is nowhere near any significant percentage of the reasons that women leave men though. a larger percent of women leave men because the men cheated. but a good percentage of women also stay with men who cheated. You would be surprised how much of that 70% is actually women leaving men for their own selfish reasons.

[startingfitness]

@Cdubs27 so its not exceptions, that's just how they roll. but none of that changes the fact that 70 % of women do leave their men.
so, who decided to be single mothers? women did. regardless of whether the man or the woman caused the woman to get a divorce, it is the woman who DECIDED to get the divorce (7 out of 10 times). everything what you and I said can happen to men too. its not like women don't cheat. its not like women can't be abusive. in fact, plenty of studies show that a larger percentage of women are abusive, and im not just talking emotionally and mentally abusive. im talking physically abusive, im talking women who slap/hit their men. I can definitely find some info on that if you want me to.
still, when we get back to the decision making only 3/10 men did decide to initiate divorce.

so women blaming men for leaving them single moms is like all the big nations blaming Iceland for global pollution. a poor excuse for a joke. that's all it is. regardless of all the other stuff that was said, women have absolutely no right to blame men for the reason that single moms exist. they would have a much better argument blaming the system if they wanted to shift the blame.

[startingfitness]

and how can you say its not a problem perpetuated by women. how did you think the laws came to be like this? it wasn't always like this. feminists and pro-women groups fought for these laws to be like this. so yes, it is their fault.

so yes , the should take responsibility instead of shifting all the blame on Iceland. you can take your sarcasm right back. women have no right to blame men for being the reason of single motherhood.
and guys like you need to stop supporting even their silliest , stupidest reasons. you can support an individual woman, who personally does not agree with the system, who personally was left by her man, instead of the norm, or who personally was in a situation with an abusive or violent man. but that is not what the issue is about. the issue is about women blaming men for what is essentially their fault, if we are talking about the whole issue.

[Cdubs27]

@startingfitness no, just no. I'm not even going to bother addressing everything you said. This isn't me conceding the point/argument as much as it is giving up on you as a decent human being.

[BrittBratt2416]

I think most men, outside the incels and the mgtows or just men who complain about women online in general, are doing pretty well with women. Of course their experiences with women and relationships differentiate, there will be some who have it a little bit harder but eventually will find someone. Most of the guys I'm around, could get girlfriends or get out there and date if wanted to but a lot of them are choosing to focus on themselves, schooling, or just remain single for the time being. I see loads of men everyday walking hand in hand with their girlfriend and wives, so i think a lot guys online make it seem like men just can't get a woman at all and i find that to be further from the truth. Hell, most guys had more girls in to them than I had guys into me growing up and even now.. so i just think it's matter of the guy, his personality, and how a lot of them are approaching women.

And I'm sorry guys, but a lot of you tend to have cringy or inappropriate ways of approaching a woman. I'm just being honest here. Some guys come on to sexually, which gives us the idea that the only thing you want from us is sex and if we feel that way, think that way then we're going to flat out reject you. Also a lot men have a hard time with communication and say the wrong thing at the wrong time or things that shouldn't of been said. Some of you need to practicing in speaking to women and know what to say and not say at time, this is also includes when to approach and not to approach and how to approach.

Long time ago, I watched a video on YouTube about some guy doing some experiment saying how hard it was to approach women and women were just being difficult. So I watched it and this guy was approaching women who 1, looked busy- like they had somewhere to go and something to do. He wasn't introducing himself or saying hello but he was walking up to these women and blocking their way. They tried to get around him but he kept blocking them until eventually one of them told him to fuck off. lol So keep in mind how you're going to introduce yourself to us. Don't do it the annoying or creepy way.

[Wowgirl30q]

Nice.

[Tdieseler]

You are the first woman (on GaG at least) that has admitted that just because a guy talks about women online doesn't mean he doesn't do well offline. You have my respect ma'am.

Now, on to business..."... practice in speaking to women". Now i want my buddy @Wowgirl30q to be in on this (even if she just beats whatever she wants out the guy lol)... I believe that particular phrase is bullshit. Women dont "practice" how to talk to men... they just blurt out whatever, but men are supposed to know how to "talk" to women?
Every man knows how to talk to a woman, its called LYING... thats the language every woman understands and likes while saying they dont like it. That moron on the YouTube vid is a moron... because for one, cold approaches dont work as much anymore, for 2, there were no lies involved in the making of that video... for 3, no predatorial instinct (he didn't wait for the right time to pounce) for 4, No reason as to why you want someone's time? i am NOT surprised he got turned down. I speak "woman" fluently and did for years, and once in a while, i test to make sure i can still lie clearly... get a number, then toss it. (thats a dick move but... oh well).

So again, i dont believe in "... how to speak to a woman"... cuz one there's no "... how to speak to a man" which should be up there as well... and two... the language is lies. I try not to do lies... and if women hate me for it.. oh well. I've had my time when i was Excellent at all that shit. Now its just boring, i think it would be nice to talk to someone without having to censor, re-calibrate, reconstruct... etc my words before i speak them because i know one thing... women for sure Dont.

[dylmoy]

@Tdieseler I highly respect this post. Honestly though, nowadays if a guy wants to genuinely "pick up" a woman they are expected to do the MOST and jump through hoops and shit, while girls (for the most part) don't do shit. However, I could easily pick up a chick by "selling them dreams" and overall just be a superficial shell of myself. I also feel like a lot of woman have a preconceived notion in their mind of who they want to be with, which really isn't healthy at all.

[Tdieseler]

@dylmoy whose post? Mine, ? or this sweet little lady

[pooper89]

These are pretty basci points.

The real reason millennial guys aren't approaching women has a lot to do with the convenience of social media and online communication plaguing society today. Think hiding behind a screen. The current generation just hasn't developed the social skills needed to talk to strangers confidently. Recently, at a protest rally, a guy asked for my number. He texted me 2 days later and said he wanted to grab a drink with me. I replied saying that I was busy that evening but I'd be available on another day (Sunday). He agree but I never heard back from him. If he had just called me instead of texting me, we probably could have set a more concrete date and stuck to it.
Feminism also has a lot to do with it. Women who think that they should be equal to men are the real problem. This has resulted in a man who now feels that a woman is not appreciative of his chivalry. Men need to step up their game and refuse to accept feminism. And you won't be won't for a date, trust me. There are plenty of women who value a man who knows how to treat a woman and who remembers his manners. Really, a lot of guys get a pass from me because they have no table manners and, early on in the dating/courting phase, insist on splitting the bill.

Additionally, I don't buy the whole feministic viewpoint of "most jobs in today's society are geared towards women." There are plenty of jobs in the trades today that are in NEED of workers. Not everyone's cut out for college and trades such as journeyman electrician, plumber, construction, etc. give you a starting salary of over 50k/year.

[Jamie05rhs]

But a lot of women don't want to marry a blue-collar man.

Also, what's wrong with feminism?

[pooper89]

@Jamie05rhs I have no qualms with marrying a blue-collar guy as long as he's smart with his money. There's a lot wrong with feminism, buddy.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay

[Wowgirl30q]

@pooper89 nice facts😃

[stephen1488]

To take only a part of your opinion " the convenience of social media and online communication plaguing society today." Social media is a huge obstacle in today's world. Especially because not only are men not going out as much but women are also not going out as much. If you can't meet any single women then it is hard to get a date.

Also anyone else had some "bad ass" try and be tough over the internet or phone and when you meet them they are super apologetic and a nobody? Maybe it's just my luck.

[Jamie05rhs]

@stephen1488 Even if people did go out they wouldn't know how to talk to each other.

[Tdieseler]

@stephen1488 hahahahahahah... this is soooo true. Well most of the times. I met someone i met here, offline... used to say that i just am a bullshitter online and talk tough... lol... then she met me offline..
True words "you are a bigger asshole in person" loool...
I am what i am.

[Tdieseler]

Someone buy this fucking woman a drink and give her a kiss... I need someone like this on my team. No bias, pinpointed and addressed the problem... i'd like to pick this brain more.
"... insist on splitting the bill..." goes back to the feminism thing hon.
Women started this war, Men let it rage on is what i say... and apparently... so do you. "Men need to step up their game and refuse..."
Been preaching this for years honey, i have Takes on this... they are too scared... afraid the women will not like them. They gotta get rid of that fear and be MEN rather than have a woman decide what level of manliness to have.
We gotta talk more. Oh i have topics i wanna run by you @pooper89

[MrNameless]

um what... so you didn't bother calling him back either? lol

[coachTanthony]

Don't you dare take away my pornhub! Ha

Good take! I can't really disagree with any of this!

[Wowgirl30q]

Thank you. I didn't realize it was harsh? People keep saying it is

[Screenwriter]

I only disagree with the coffee date issue and going Dutch. It doesn't bother me. Doesn't mean a guy's cheap. If a first date is a last date why should anyone have to pay for more than their share. I think that's unreasonable.

[Tdieseler]

looool... really? i damn near disagreed with everything. the only way you agree to this is if you are already married. the dating scene today has been drummed down to absolute SHIT these days. read my opinion.
@Screenwriter THANK YOU!!! its these greedy butted girls who can't do math. Oh i did the math in my opinion.

[coachTanthony]

@wowgirl30q Look at all the down votes! Can I get to 20? LOL

[Wowgirl30q]

Dang sorry @coachTanthony probably because I tagged you as a real man

[coachTanthony]

@wowgirl30q maybe I should move back in with my parents so these guys can relate to me better! Ha

[Wowgirl30q]

Be more relatable to them 🤣 Nawwwwwww

[Wowgirl30q]

@coachTanthony I had the record at 52 for awhile.

[coachTanthony]

@wowgirl30q I had 60 on one post but to be fair I did ask for it! LOL

[Wowgirl30q]

That's a respectable number

[ronaldo75]

It's not harsh it's stupid and self-absorbed. You sound like a 16 year old.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Agree with everything you wrote even if sex it's something we do more for her to be honest.
I never seem to be really enthusiastic about it.

[Wowgirl30q]

Give it time ☺️

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Hopefully!

[Wowgirl30q]

I'm rooting for you

[cavmanier]

If it's not there at 22, I don't see time changing that... 22 is supposed to be peak of horniness. If that's not you, that's okay though. You don't need to be into it to make other people happy.

[Tdieseler]

im with @cavmanier here to an extent, even though i think that peak for guys is more 26-27 ish. by the time you get to 28 and above, you are looking more to settle.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

After multiple experiences, I think sex is just not my thing. I prefer non-sexual physical affections.
She wants sex so I give her sex, while she gives other physical affections so everyone is happy.

[cavmanier]

The peak thing is a myth. That is based on an old Kinsey correlation study taken far out of context by many media outlets.

Make the relationship work if you can obviously. From my experience, significantly mismatched sex drives lead to big issues later one. One partner will likely be stressed. Like even if you keep up with per necessary pace, watch out for her not feeling like you aren't into it enough. Relationships are rarely perfect though. Maybe there's something so great that makes up for that.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@cavmanier I think it's a matter of different needs and being willing to meet each other to satisfy them.
I think that a big quality I have is that due to not having a whole lot of preference and investment in that, I am pretty much a blank slate for her own preferences and in the end I always have fun with the things she comes up with, ususual as they are.
I admit this became an issue with my ex, but because she started to take that for granted and would actually demand me to attend to her requests and follow them to the letter otherwise she would freak out, while ignoring or ridiculing my own needs and requests.

I think that what matters is being willing to respect and satisfy each other's needs and give and take in a balanced way.

[cavmanier]

"I think it's a matter of different needs and being willing to meet each other to satisfy them."

That's great if you can make that work. I obviously haven't experienced every relationship in the world. I know that differences in sex drives caused a problem for me and I've been happier when matched well in that area.

Okay you are a blank slate for the new girls preferences but you also have fun with her as compared with the last girl that wanted to control you and not do what you wanted.

"I think that what matters is being willing to respect and satisfy each other's needs and give and take in a balanced way."
Yeah true and what makes people happy or sad in relationships is so complex. It's really hard to know if there's a good match sometimes.

Being 22, I think it'll take you another 10+ years to really figure out what you want. What I've found is the bad thing about being in a relationship is it can cloud what a person really wants because of considering our partners needs.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@cavmanier Some people did tell me that I have to make sure she respects me on that and doesn't take advantage of how available I am, so to say. As I said I'm willing to do as she asks to make her happy, but of course I want her to respect me and not be demanding or disrespectful about it.
As of now we found an excellent balance and we are both very satisfied, and I hope for it to remain that way.

[cavmanier]

"As I said I'm willing to do as she asks to make her happy, but of course I want her to respect me and not be demanding or disrespectful about it."
Well hopefully that's the case. People usually want as much as they can get from people though from my experience. That's why it's important to find a person with very high empathy.

Hopefully things stay great but you're in the baby stages. Things are usually amazing in the start. There's low resentment, low expectations and a dopamine high so no partner appears bad in the slightest. When the high wears off in 6 to 24 months, they start seeing reality.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@cavmanier we aren't even two months in so I think it's natural we are still in the "honeymoon phase", and only time will say if it will last and be meant to go forward.
It helps that we have known each other for years (she was my senior and tutor back in high school) so we already know our quality and flaws, and expectations.
Only thing to do now is to do our best and see how it goes!

[Tdieseler]

loooool @cavmanier is a fooool... lol.. "when the high wears off..." @jean what he means is that the honeymoon phase... fades..
Jean you actually got me a little upset... what do you mean "she wants sex... i give her sex"... do you have ANY idea how many women want a guy who would do all that nonsense with them but NOT want sex back? Sex is OUR shit. And if you dont like/want it, you need to:
A. Check your sexuality again
B. Find a better bitch
or
C. Get referred to one of those girls.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Tdieseler I've had less than pleasant experiences with sex both growing up and with my ex so I'm not really into sex and sometimes I have negative feelings about it.

[Tdieseler]

Ah... you were one of those. well sir, im sorry you had it that way, if you were a female.. i would Gladly change your mind/experience, but all I've got for you is just words of wisdom... scroll up and read letters A, and B again. Cuz, its one of them two.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Tdieseler I'm not gay and it's not my current girlfriend the person who did things she shouldn't have and ruined sex for me, thank you for your concern

[cavmanier]

Yeah saying this probably won't mean much, but I had an ex girlfriend that told me--before we had sex--that she didn't think sex was that great. After we started shaving sex, she said I changed her mind and she was always interested in doing it. So it can be a partner possibly, but I think we are more often higher sexuality people or we aren't (which is still okay too). That girl I was with just happened to have lousy sexual partners.

[cavmanier]

I've heard quite a few girls also say that some guys are really bad in bed. I have no experience with that of course. From my experience with girls, some are definitely better, but us guys do most of the work so I've found sex to be enjoyable with all of my partners. I mean if you like someone enough to want sex with them, I have a hard time thinking the sex would not be good.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@cavmanier to be honest my girlfriend is very generous and I really enjoy sex with her, but I think it will take some time to shake off the negative experiences with my ex.

[Tdieseler]

Well Jean, at least we got A cleared up, and what do you mean it won't mean much @cavmanier it means a lot. you just gave another example of what im trying to prove to Jean. the shit can change. I've had girls like that... bad experiences... until they found someone who did it right.
Jean just gotta find HER. (since he ain't gay or curious or nothing :) )

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Tdieseler I think it will just take some time. As I said I do enjoy sex with my girlfriend and she's really fun and creative, so I'm pretty confident I'll get better at it and enjoy it more.

[Tdieseler]

I think i just pinpointed what the problem is. And i think im partly to blame for this.. and @cavmanier too (lol)
Jean... boo... dont wait for some girl to change your mind, the times that minds have been changed, its usually instant... if you are still waiting for said girlfriend to "change your mind"... while you try to convince yourself in the background that the sex is good... its gonna be a while.
Like Cavman said.. guys do most of the work... gotta make it enjoyable for yourself.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Tdieseler I enjoy it more or less, it's just that it takes effort and work

[Tdieseler]

so... after all this speculation and debate... the problem was ur just lazy? lol

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

No I'm not lazy, it's just that I need to work on my issues and fears among other things

[Screenwriter]

@cavmanier In every instance, your basic needs have to be met first, then you can attend to someone elses, not the other way around. Of course compromise had to be worked out. I said needs, not wants. What can each of you survive on? Then what would each of you like? Meet in the middle. However, 14 times a week will not be able to compromise with 3 times a week. Too much disparity. Have to be realistic.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Screenwriter I do my best to give her sex everytime she wants and I'm okay with it, she also understands what I need and does her best about it.

[Wowgirl30q]

@Tdieseler lol..

[cavmanier]

@Tdieseler I meant some people just naturally have a low interest in sex. It's possible that bad partners were the issue though too. I just wouldn't think that is common, but then I've heard some girls say guys can be really bad in bed.

[cavmanier]

@Screenwriter I'm not sure if I understand what you mean by needs. No one needs sex. I know I was miserable when I was with a girl with a low sex drive though. I stayed with her but I wouldn't be with a girl like that again to where I need to have an idea of their sexual drive somewhat early on in the courting process so that I don't waste our time.

[cavmanier]

For me Jean, I generally put the girls pleasure first when it come to sex. Sex is plenty pleasurable enough for me and making sure they are feeling good makes it even more enjoyable. Both partners should want to please each other though or its not a good situation.

[Screenwriter]

@cavmanier I think humans need to be touched and to share pleasure. You won't DIE without it, but it enriches your life. I'm saying what you think is your absolute minimum. Then think about what you'd like. Minimum might be mostly cuddling and sex four times a week. Maximum might be five times a week and more cuddling. What you work out it what works to please you and your partner. That's what I mean.

[cavmanier]

@Screenwriter I think you're saying the minimum a person would tolerate to be somewhat happy.

[Screenwriter]

@cavmanier Correct.

[Screenwriter]

Darlin' if you have negative feelings about the most natural, loving, fun thing in life, you need to talk to a counselor about that and find out the source, to clear your head of those cobwebs. This might boost your sex drive in the long run. Good luck with that.

[SydneySentinel]

Awesome mytake! Sexy picture

But wait... what kind of risks am I at for Sex for One (minus the porn)?

[SydneySentinel]

Rawr

[Wowgirl30q]

Lol😀

[RickPen]

Some points on your points:

1. You've reduced a man to the amount of money that he makes, which is only one facet of his person. Living with parents should not be a factor, particularly due to economic conditions in the USA (assuming this is your intended country). I've known couples who lived with family in order to save up for their extravagant wedding and house. It took years, but it makes financial sense.

2. Why are men the ones who need to pursue? Is that purely from history and tradition? Times and traditions change, and with the current women's rights claims, why not just sit back and relax? Men owe women *nothing*.

3. The first date is usually unromantic and filled with awkward fears and interactions, so why is bill-splitting bad? The two people are "feeling each other out," and that's safe. To assume that a man should pay for the women is sexist, and I have yet to meet *any* woman who feels indebted to a man for a meal. On the contrary, I have only heard of women cite men as "stupid" or "pathetic" for only getting a date by granting a free meal to the woman, and I've known women to man-hop in order to get those free meals. Let them pay their own way, especially if we want to believe the feminism view that women are equal to men. :)

4. Men are typically expected to avoid showing any feelings, have the highest suicide, drug and alcohol abuse rates in America. How many men are homeless? Women have safe-houses, means of support in society (whether government or charity based), and often it is free. Men don't have this kind of support structure, and are expected to "man up," and just ignore the pain of a situation. They are not snowflakes, as you so put it, but they are people expressing your feelings, just as you have. Let them have their moment, and if you feel so vehemently about their emotional musings, why not try to lend a hand and help them see a better perspective or way out of their mess? That's far more helpful than condemning them as you have here.

5. A man explained something to a woman, and she took offence. Now it's become its own term and meme. Yet when men are berated and deemed as bumbling idiots (easily seen in popular media) and require the woman to explain and resolve the issue, men are supposed to rejoice and not feel slighted? If so, that is a double-standard and has no meaning. If you personally dislike the explanation, why not communicated it to the man that you already understand? If he continues, then you know that he doesn't believe or possibly respect you, and you can move on with life. Complaining about "mansplaining," is vitriolic cowardice.

6. Guys masturbate because of fantasy, and often because women have zero clue on how to handle a penis, let alone please one. It's hard to live up to another's standard. Likewise, men are usually bad with women, because they don't know, and women rely far too much on a vibrator, or are too demanding in bed. Or, heck, they just lie there without any interaction, as though the man doesn't matter or exist. It takes two, but one has checked out in that situation.

The tables can be turned on anyone. People are terrible in general, and to each other. Thanks for your opinion, but it smacks of egocentrism as to how men can benefit *you*.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Okay, fair enough. Now ask why? You'll find real quick that a good part of this is due to women. Why are men weak? Because women demanded it, women raised them to be weak and women ridiculed them for acting masculine. Boys are far more likely to be disciplined for acting like boys (one boy was suspended because he held a pop tart like it was a gun. He was 8.). They also divorce men and this means no man in the house to raise the son, they also force men out of education so they cannot get a male role model their either meaning that these boys only have women to look up to and thus begin to behave like women.

Why are they at home? Well its well estabilished that schools are dedicated to women not men, that curriculum and teaching method is designed specifically to benefit women (again, this has been well established) and boys are descriminated against (they score higher but get lower grades). So they become less interested in school which makes it harder for them to find better paying work (this even more so when it comes to college where women get far more preferential treatment (4x the scholarships and grants, not to mention specialized programs that are women only to get them into various fields (like STEM for instance) which is why only 37% of college graduates are now male (something that was not the case in the past).

So women are pushing men out of schools and they are taking the high earning work which would be fine because according to women we are equal EXCEPT they want to be the high earner but also have the man make more then them as well. In previous generations the man worked and the woman didn't so it was real easy to earn more then some one who wasn't earning anything, now society is pushing women into ever higher paid careers (and thanks to quotas even passing up men who are better qualified) and now are complaining that men aren't earning more. So men are stuck at home or not in a high paying field because women have actively campaigned to push the out through quotas or special privileges (whether that be getting preferential treatment in school (like how I believe it was Princeton gave women an extra hour to take a test), or in demanding preferential treatment when it comes to highering (like how women in science for instance have to have their papers cited only twice vs. a mans four times in order to be given positions and tenure or how they get higher starting pay despite being less likely to work the hours a man would and are less likely to persue a higher degree or specialization)). So men are forced out of career opportunities both at the start and end of their career process, thanks to women in a large part (as this was not an issue prior to these campaigns (obviously their will always be those who are "dead beats" but when its so rampant and pervasive we can presume that this is not currently the case.).

Being cheap, well why? Because women keep saying that we are equals and we should split the bills then turn around and bitch and moan that a man would dare to take a woman at her word. I'm sorry but tough shit. If you don't like it don't demand it. Don't ask a man if he wants to split the bill if your unwilling to do so. Yet women do this all the time because they want to pretend like we are equals but still have all their female privileges (which are many). Its one or the other, are you a woman with all the privileges and responsibilities that come with it OR are you an equal with all the privileges and responsibilities that come with it? You have to choose one. That is entirely women's fault, you wanted this and you got it so suck it up, because its your fault.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Technology, well sure but that also applies to women. Also you have to ask yourself WHY a man would choose technology over a woman. The answer should be pretty obvious, if you have the choice between being with a woman and watching youtube and men are choosing youtube, guess what? Its probably you. Women are not women, they do not behave in a feminine manner, they do not respect men and they pretty much disregard and treat men like shit. So between being accused of sexual harassment/rape because you bumped into a girl or you where awkward when you hit on her because she is convinced that all men are evil and out to get her (factually incorrect on so many levels) or being at home watching tv and playing video games, which one is more appealing? Exactly, women have made themselves inaccessible. Your not allowed to hit on a woman because if you screw up you don't just get rejected, your reputation is destroyed, you get to be humiliated and treated like shit. Women have made it as unpleasant as possible to approach them (and many have made it so that they are just undesirable to begin with (turns out riding the proverbial "cock carousel" makes you undesirable. It also turns out that when you act like a man men don't find that all to appealing (hence so many just turning to women purely for casual sex instead of relationships)).

[hellionthesagereborn]

As for mansplaining, that's just stupid. What do you mean when a man talks to a woman like a woman talks to a man? I mean by your rational your "womansplaining". Again, I don't really need to address this because that's a non issue, its called communication, its a part of human interaction, if your so pathetically weak that you can't handle a man speaking his mind you don't deserve to have a man, period.

The only one of these that I can say that actually is something that can be placed at the feet of men if not solely then in its majority is the point about porn. Yes, men need to not use that as a cruch though I would say that all the other issues make porn a more promising prospect then trying to hit on a woman that will treat you like your the enemy and who will actively try and demean and disrespect you, but yeah, that's predominantly on men to not get into that (and is also why men should stop doing casual sex because it is essentially the same thing (and just hurts the few women worth having a relationship who get screwed from it and encourages and rewards the bad women who are not worth any mans time.). Men need to learn to control their dicks because its getting down right pathetic how they let it control them.

[Wowgirl30q]

Write a mytake I can't read all that.
And I already said everything is women's fault everything bad🤣 it's our fault

[hellionthesagereborn]

How can you not read all of that? Why do people act like reading is difficult? I swear to god, you want people to read your statements but you can't be bothered to read any ones in return? (I mean don't get me wrong I do tend to write a lot but still). Besides if I make a mytake of it you won't read that so what would be the point? Also I never said it was all women's fault, I damn large portion of it is women as a whole (but not individually) who are to blame, but its not entirely their fault (Just sick and tired of the constant shit talking about men despite all evidence showing otherwise).

[Wowgirl30q]

I would read a education article if I wanted to read that much and I didn't read that last one either. Shoot for a few sentences

[hellionthesagereborn]

Fine. Paraphrasing.
1. Feminist fault
2. feminist and women's fault (for the most part)
3. feminist fault
4. feminist and single mothers fault
5. utter bullshit
6. Mostly men's fault.
Happy?

[Tdieseler]

I like this guy. Broke it down... and no, not because he sounds like me, but because he actually breaks down his points. Hey Hellion, you must be hated by females (GaG females anyway) right? Love the way you break it down sir... keep it up. We need more like you.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@Tdieseler Yeah, not particularly popular with the G@G females, they tend to block me (or as you noticed dismiss everything written because apparently its to difficult to read some ones counter point).

[Tdieseler]

Yea, they like us dumb and agreeable lol. Oh and they tend to block me too... but from time to time, you'll find one that is about the topic and not taking it personally... like wowgirl...
Did you read my response to this? its on my profile.

[Tdieseler]

oh, already sent you a link

[LesterJester]

I always hated the term Mansplaining. It's just a made up term to automatically shut down a guy so there is no discussion or debate.

Can't refute an argument? "Mansplaining!"

I can't recall the last ime I ever seen or heard another guy talk or argue with a girl where their tone is somehow different than when they do the same towards other men. We argue crap at each other all the time and usually it's things we already know, and girls do this too, but in either case, it's not Mansplaining.

It's only when a guy argues with a girl or wants to correct something said. Apparently if you got a vagina, you're not supposed to do that, otherwise you're Mansplaining and being an ass?

Wait, isn't this MyTake kinda Womansplaining?

"Masturbating to internet porn is addictive, it causes structural changes in the brain"

Really? Cripes, here we go.

It's not addictive, you don't have physical or mental withdrawals if you don't masturbate to porn, certainly no more than if you don't have sex. After a while everybody gets honey enough regardless if they're in a relationship having sex or single and just have their hand. Eventually it's all you think about until you "get it out of your system."

It causes structural changes in the brain just like every single interaction our conciousness experiences through the interactions we have during our entire existence. Everything we experience and do affects our brain.

Its not an addiction, it merely becomes a sexual preference like countless other weird sexual preferences are out there. They end up preferring it over actual sex, therefore, sexual preference, NOT Addiction.

If that's addiction, then so is anal, bondage, threesomes, Furries, etc.

Masturbating to porn is wrecking young men's penises and causing erectile dysfunction?

If that were true, how could they masturbate to porn if they couldn't get it up? That's not erectile dysfunction, that's them just not being interested in having sex with the girl in front of them. Why would they not want to have real sex?

Maybe they don't like the smell. Maybe they don't like the extra mess that's made. Maybe they don't like the extra effort required. Maybe they prefer to go and do something else after getting off without having to spend more time with the girl. Maybe they don't like the risks involved with real sex like Pregnancy, STDs, getting targeted by MeToo afterwards.

Who knows? The reasons are many, but your above claim is the least logical of them all.

"Being Cheap"

You essentially described prostitution. If you want the girl to put out, buy her way through the date and she will owe you sex.

"there’s nothing romantic about splitting a bill on the first date."

There's nothing romantic about feeding the gob of a freeloader either.

Lastly, you do seem to throw out a bit of a contradiction:

At the end you go on about men's mental health and almost sound concerned for their well being, yet earlier you mock and trash men's mental health, support groups, etc. And basically tell them to suck it up and be a man, stop being weak.

So which is it?

See that's the problem men really have. For years women have been complaining that men are men, they don't open up, they don't explain what's on their mind, they don't have any emotions, you can't talk to them, we're too aggressive.

Now guys changed and now women are complaining men are too emotional, too weak, that they're not "Man" enough and should stop complaining. Only women are allowed to do that.

"Why Guys Can't Get a Girl Any more"

Maybe because they can't be fk'n bothered any more, because women don't know wtf they want.

[LesterJester]

But I do agree with the younger generation not moving out, getting a room mate and getting independence.

But consider who raised them. They were born in an era were physical punishment was heading out the door, yet nobody knew what to replace it with that works.

They would get participation trophies for just showing up and not taught the proper value of putting in effort for a reward and getting nothing for failure.

Theure a part of the generation that had mothers who didn't want their sons to be like their dad or whatever, and wanted them to be more understanding towards women and be more open to their emotions and feelings.

Now we have "This" generation and they're getting shat on for not being "Man Enough."

Who's fault is that? The guys raised to be pussies or those to raised them that way?

Whoever is to blame, now we got fk'n Incels and MGTOW, and limp dicks and guys who don't want anything to do with girls.

You noticed that this site is "famous for men whining about not having sex or not being able to get a girl to date them."

What I have noticed is that this site is filled with both women and men moaning and complaining about not being able to find anybody or they're complaining about how screwed up the other gender is.

Ya know, I think a World War is about overdue.

[LesterJester]

Theure a part... = They're a part

[sawno]

I don't fully agree but some of these are accurate.
1. I only heard this recently and i wish someone told me sooner because it makes a lot of sense that a partner without a house is less attractive. Problem is a massive housing crisis basically makes it impossible for me to get a house. So ill have to wait until the next economical crisis for that to happen.
2. I disagree that technology is the problem i see no evidence for that. But what i do see an extreme amount of evidence for is social disconnects deviding the sexes. We used to have a church we all went to and met each other. Now only schools are left and schools are extremely toxic. If you like me went to a school with 99% of the attendees being men your kinda fucked on that front. I pretty much never am in a place where it would be easy for me to meet like minded women other than the internet. But the ones i meet on the internet are never near me. So i hope that online dating will be able to fix that in the future.
3. Deal with it ladies, you asked for this one. Or are you going to finally agree with us feminism perhaps was not such a good thing? I don't mind paying if i ask her out since i am financially stable, but with women earning similar amounts to men i don't see any problem with them demanding mutual pay for the first dates.
4. Being weak how exactly? Do you mean the stereotypical soy boys or do you mean this as men in general? Because i don't think the majority of men is weak at all.
5. Left wing propeganda aimed at shutting men up. I am passionate about what i do and i want to share this with a partner. If she takes that as condescending that is her fault not mine i just love telling stuff in detail and can get carried away sometimes and would love a partner who enjoys listening to me rather than someone who'd say mansplaining. Because if she has that kind of mindset we probably won't last beyond the second date.

So the real issue is mostly in the first 2 points, men finding it increasingly more difficult to stand on their own feet because our societies are dysfunctional. And finding it increasingly more difficult to find a partner because of social disharmony. Its an effect of all the destabilization politics and managed decline we are facing. Same with women not getting children and being forced to work jobs, its not like they don't want large families its that they can not afford them.

[sawno]

Made my own version of this for women : 5 reasons you do not have a boyfriend yet! (From a geek's perspective) ↗

[lucian_lucian_123]

A lot of stupidities from a woman full of feminist stupidities. Like the term mansplaining, the most loved in the last time. The feminists don't even realize how awkward is this term in their mouth. What a idiot term. Some women are speaking to us from a high pedestal in their mind, like from Goddesses to simply stupid mortals, forgetting that almost all the current civilization was created by men and they are currently striving to learn and catch up, but they are still far. A little respect for men as gender I think would be nice. For instance, from my experience the MATURE women, over 30 years old and having a lot of sex experience, not talking about younger ones, don't even know how a man look from anatomically point of view, not telling how is functioning and what he needs. While I asked a lot, none of them were able to tell me a very simple thing, where exactly is feeling the man the sexual pleasure. I would not dare to ask more detailed questions. The man is much more complicated than that. A lot of them excused with "I don't know and I don't care". Most of them are not even curios to see some pornographic images. What if men will tell you the same and will behave the same? You don't care because it is the man that needs to take care of everything, isn't it? They, the men, the ones doing the mansplaining, need to know everything and to do everything. To know everything about themselves and also about women. But to know about women you need to see porn pictures (that is also a pleasure for men) and read medical articles, isn't it? It is the woman way in life, you know, to let everything that is needed to be done, on the rapist gender. But take care, the men have a dark side, they are mansplaining. So, the real life is completely different. To tell that the women should be on the same level with the men and being able to play a computer game with him? Ah, most of them don't know how to open a computer? Sorry, I'm a misogynist, I beg your pardon, I had a bad mind wave.

[TheFlak38]

Another dumb featured article by a woman trying to lecture men on how to get laid.
Never take advice from a woman, guys.
Let's take her stupid points one by one.

1. "The lack of stable employment and living with your parents"
Have you ever considered how hard ti can be for a man to do what you suggest? We live in a gynocentric society where women have all the options on the table from the day they have been born while men are seen as expendable, 2nd class citizens. Single motherhood is being put on a pedestal and men are being raised as weak cucks on hand while on the other hand any man who is true to his masculinity and pursues his goals and ambitions is getting attacked by feminist nutjob who try to destroy him and take everything he has earned with hard work. I was still living with my father at 25 years of age and since then I rapidly worked my self to higher positions. I had my first girlfriend much sooner than that.

2. "With all these options men have stopped pursuing women as they once did."
You d*mb b*tch, men have stopped pursuing women because of all the false rape allegations. ANd because women like YOU are addicted to your phones, your social media, the selfie culture and all these other apps that elevate your vagina to the most astronomical heights and rigged the dating game in your favor. Watching movies is a normal form of entertainment and so is playing video games. When you blame men for being addicted to video games you're like my grandparents when they say "aarrghhh the kids today stay at home all day and push these colourful buttons. Nobody goes to the park anymore."

3. "Being cheap"
This is the woman that screams "RAPIST! SEXISM" when a man offers to pay.
Every time a man offers to pay for the date women see it as a bribe for sex. If she feels no urge to get fucked rough quickly she will never respect a man paying for the date. Women hate men who treat them nice and give them freedom.

4. "Being weak"
You can thank single mothers for raising weak cucks. Weak men are the product of weak women and their gynocentric system.

5. "Mansplaining"
If I told you that this has been said by some leading feminist personality would you be able to tell a difference? This is feminist language. Yet she is lecturing men about how to get laid.

"sex for one"
Again, more and more men stick to porn because the game is rigged in your favor and because of all the false rape accusations. You feel threatened of men who stick to porn because these men will stop showering you with attention and money. And get it through your head that there are women who love to watch porn. I had a girlfriend who loved watching porn together. We even had a list of our favorite pornstars that we were following to keep up with their news.

[ManOnFire]

I don't think too many guys are doing that badly. I hear about the ones who do from time to time, and I see them on here, but I think others are doing fine enough. I also know of plenty of dudes who are pathetic and live at home but have a knack for hooking up with girls, and I find myself wondering how that is, but somehow it is. And there are guys who are getting chicks online and offline - some have even tried to coach me on how to get them online because I'm more of the type to go after a woman in reality.

But for the guys who are struggling, I think I understand why. Because many women of today want men to feel bad about not being able to get a girl. They like that guys are feeling sad or hopeless because they want dudes to be manipulated by their fake "standards" and manipulated by her rejecting him. And they want men to believe that it's difficult for them to get sex or a woman period as a way of having a hold on their minds: "this is why you're not getting any and this is how you can." So it makes a lot of those guys feel less inclined to approach women because deep down those guys really just don't like all that bullshit and want to protect themselves from women trying to manipulate them through rejection and fake standards.

[Wowgirl30q]

You should write one pertaining to this😀

[ManOnFire]

I actually already did write something similar a year ago: How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men ↗

While personally I don't have issues with going after women, I've also learned how to understand why a lot of those guys struggle with it. It is true that a lot of women really are cruddy and want men to feel bad or hopeless or like that they need to do a lot to get a woman, and guys know that and don't want to be bothered with the game.

[Wowgirl30q]

Nice I'll check it out

[Wowgirl30q]

Was good @ManOnFire

[ManOnFire]

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[Wowgirl30q]

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[why_am_i_here]

First of all I think this article would've reached the intended audience much better if it were written objectively. Clearly it wasn't and clearly y'all were some pussies about it. So, let's dive into this shall we.

1. Growing Up
I'm sorry but y'all need to ACCEPT IT. You should have a steady job and your own place by your 20s. But same goes for women which the writer failed to mention.

2. Technology = Not Effort
? Not sure what her point was here but guys there's nothing wrong with playing videogames as long as you have a life outside of them.

3. Being Cheap
If you ask a girl out on a date you are expected to pay for her. If I asked you to spend your precious time and money on me, how would that make you feel? This should also apply when a girl asks a guy out because it is simple MANNERS.

4. Being Weak
That whole section is just DEGRADING. It's also SEXIST not just to men but to women. "Men need to be strong while women are fragile." I'm sorry ma'am but that's bologna. Both men and women should be strong but we are all allowed to cry and be weak at times because we're all human.

5. Mansplaining
I think we should ALL AGREE to this. Although I would say the word gentleman is being used incorrectly.

I'm just going to ignore that last part cuz it sounds like a made up study on porn. Reminds me of how moms say videogames make people violent.

If you happen to read this just know it was written at 3AM by a 14 year old girl so have mercy on me. I would like to know how agreeable it was to you so please leave a reply and let me know~

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't necessarily agree with paying for someone else's dinner. My philosophy is that every adult human should be independent and self-sufficient if they are physically and mentally able to do so. Otherwise you get a welfare state and society collapses.

[why_am_i_here]

@Jamie05rhs I strongly agree with you on that but this is about "getting a girl". If you ask a girl out and not pay for her there is less of a chance she will want to date you. You are not obligated to pay for her but by doing so you can show her how special spending time with her is to you.

[Jamie05rhs]

@why_am_i_here I understand that, and I'm not entirely against paying. Honest question, though: if I pay for everything for her, how can I know whether or not she's an entitled spoiled brat? Because I don't want one of those. I want a mature adult woman.

[why_am_i_here]

@Jamie05rhs I was so sure I replied to this so if you see that one as well then my bad. I think you have the ability to determine whether or not a girl is dating you just so you can pay for her. If she is an entitled spoiled brat there will be plenty of red flags to show it. If a guy doesn't notice those flags he honestly deserves to be stuck in her trap for being ignorant. If a woman has some interest in you she most likely will pay for herself or even for the both of you without you having to ask her to do so. But that isn't always the case. For this situation I think being able to read people's actions is important.

[Jamie05rhs]

@why_am_i_here Okay. Thank you. But I don't want her to pay for me.

[MrNameless]

The term mansplaining is dumb and needs to go away. It really isn't a man talking down to a woman because of her sex. I've had men AND women "splain" it to me. It's not sex specific

[mattl338]

I understand what you mean, but even if I'm trying to "get a girl" I'm not paying for a whole bill because why should I be the only one making an effort? If we split the bill it makes things more equal and both parties usually would be at ease because that insists that neither of us has much to lose and it doesn't give either person power over the date. You seem to not understand that no one person should be making the effort, guy or girl, nobody should pay for someone's dinner on just the first date because that's just not realistic or reasonable, there are better ways to show her how special spending time with her is to you and if you have to pay for her whole dinner just to show her that, then I'd rather end the date before it even gets started.

As you can tell I'm not about men making all of the effort (such as paying for her dinner as well as mine) because that's not fair and gives too much power over to one person. Even if the guy asks the girl out that doesn't mean the guy needs to "win her over" because she didn't have to say yes to him asking her out, which means that they BOTH should be trying to win each other over, not just her. If she's interested then we both should be making an effort and split the bill. Me person paying for the whole dinner is unfair and makes me feel as if I have to make all the effort and she has to make none because I'm the one paying, if she wants me to pay for it instead of splitting the bill especially on the first date, then that is a red flag and I would simply walk out and not talk to her again.

[lightbulb27]

I agree, especially since it's prefaced with "these are some reasons" and tehre are many others. But I don't think these are the main issues. I sucked terribly with women, and have no girlfriend... not looking at the moment and "showed" away more than one lately, so I'm very experienced:)

One caveat is #4... I think that's right and wrong... aren't I confusing the H out of you today:)? Males have been poorly trained, but they have to be able to express themselves and grow.. somewhere. Telling them to man up is like telling a woman to suck up her childhood abuse and move on, or telling someone to "just forgive and forget". Its poison to the soul. A lot of wounded children out there that need healed, and to grow up. I could myself as I was one.

The main issues in my opinion:
He lacks confidence and experience
Projecting the wrong image of himself - e. g. he's projecting his wounded weak self (your #4) instead of healing that and projecting his brave, I've got this, cocky, male self.
F'd up emotionally.
He needs self worth
doesn't understand females
Doesnt' know where to start, keeps failing and doesn't know why - e. g. training and attitude adjustment.
His world view is crap - he doesn't understand, have a vision for life, what he wants or undersatnd. We used to have "religion... pick one...", tribes, etc.. We are very disconnected nuclear family messed up now. The cultures that stuck to some set of rules are thriving, others are collapsing.

some duplicates in that.

[Wowgirl30q]

Cool thanks

[Unit1]

1. Growing Up

Yeah, well, I live alone in my apartment studio and I agree. Living with parents isn't desirable. Relationships and sex are none of their business and some things are just meant to be private.

2. Technology = Not Effort

Ehhh... I wouldn't know how you would come up with this idea. I just wish there were women worth pursuing but the way quite a number of women are now (mostly talking about the social media addicts) makes for encouragement of what the rapper Future has said "Chase a check. Never chase a bitch".

3. Being Cheap

Well, splitting the bill IS attractive. That's a real woman - to me. Paying for leeches, who are in it for the meal is disgusting. I mean hello, I just met her :/
I prefer to invest right. That privilege a woman earns once she gets the title "girlfriend" in my contact list. And yeah, that's most likely why I won't score with women (gold diggers).

Think about it. If she suggests to split, she's independent and that's attractive. If he suggests to split, he's seen as cheap and that's unattractive. I shame double standards.
Ladies wanted equality. You take it all or none. Make it clear from the beginning.

Or you know... I can always stay single, chase a check and not get ripped off. In the end I am the winner.

4. Being Weak

Did not understand but I assume you mean men not having thick skin.

5. Mansplaining

Right on.

"Sex for One"

Ahhh. Hello propaganda! I was wondering what took you so long to resurface. What's next you'll be telling us? Abstaining from porn will magically make a woman appear to us, who wants to have sex with us? How about something original next time?

[BenHappenin]

"Sex For One" doesn't mean abstaining will magically bring women into ones life. But it speaks to the addiction effects of watching too much porn. Addiction to porn isn't just sitting in front of the computer like a maniac fapping madly. It means a man can get addicted to the easiness and availability of porn, that there becomes no desire to meet a woman irl to date.. and eventually have sex with.

Why would they bother doing the hard work asking a girl out and dating and getting to know her to eventually hopefully have sex. When all you have to do is log on a site and get right to it. I've known dudes who are exactly like that. I'm talking about dates I've been on and cool chicks I've met, and they don't have anything going on in their lives.

But they talk a whole lot about all the porn they watch and all the porn stars they know and follow. I ask them don't you want to go meet some females and go on dates and have sex with them? They are perfectly content with fapping to porn. It can lessen the desire to want to even be with a real woman. I believe that is what OP was getting at with Sex For One.

[Unit1]

@BenHappenin that is understandable. However often enough there are no women worth a date. At least in a given timeline

[BenHappenin]

That's true also. I can remember periods of time in my life, there just weren't any good women around to really date near me. It didn't seem worth going 3 or 5 cities over too just for a date. So it can fluctuate with time.

[mattl338]

Wow, the sexism in this myTake is impalpable...

So I'll just say this:

If the roles were reversed and you were a guy and said "why girls can't get a guy anymore" a lot of girls would rip him apart calling him sexist.

Alright aside from that point. These reasons apply to some men but not most, most men have legitimate reasons for not getting a girl and chose to not actively seek a relationship, which is fine, it doesn't make them lazy, cheap, weak, immature, or any of what you have claimed they are.

Also "mansplaining" is not a thing or a real word, it's a made-up word feminazis came up with just so they won't listen to a man just because he's a man and because even if he's being perfectly reasonable and offering advice or good information and not being patronizing and just trying to help, she claims he's "mansplaining" because she doesn't listen to no man. A guy who explains things in a patronizing way to you is just an asshole.

You type of women are the reason why men do not want to get married, I'm so glad there are actual good women who don't hate on men, dehumanize them, and women who understand that not all men are the same and that there are good men out there.

I'm sure you came across some assholes in your time, but it's no reason to make a myTake like this. :|

[mattl338]

Also if I'm wrong I'm perfectly willing to have a discussion about it, and if I misunderstand the myTake I'd appreciate someone helping me understand. My comment was simply what the person who made the myTake was saying and how it sounded to me, but I could be wrong and misunderstood about it of course.

[SirRexington]

I think the economy is the reason for most people staying with their parents longer. In fact I know it is. So that's a very silly thing to blame men for.

Mansplaining? Really? SJWisms like this are why men are so bitter at women nowadays.

As for being on the computer I don't know what to say about that. I'm only on the computer because I don't have anything else better to do. Also I write. But my computer tech habits are not a factor, i assure you. But I can only speak for myself.

These weak men you speak of, they usually get more pussy it seems than other men. For those who don't, maybe it's one kf those things where sexism against men is occuring. And who are these people getting trophies? We don't get them. But women giving themselves away will you nilly like the whores they are certainly is not a way to prove to men they hsve to earn anything.

Being cheap! Hahahaha. Stop demanding men have to pay for everything and do everything for you. This behavior is a way to avoid responsibility and put in effort. Us refusing to go on a date and waste money on a girl who we may never see again is not being cheap, it's being logical.

[Wowgirl30q]

Nice Rex

[Wowgirl30q]

@HornyBaby18 get bent

[startingfitness]

i'm going to set aside a number of issues with the take regarding that men have to do everything and women don't need to do shit , which is stupid and just focus on number 3.

I don't know if you have noticed, but women can have jobs now. you can make your own money. its not something new either, your mom can do it and your grandma probably could too.
there is this institution called school, where you can go to study. after school you can go to a trade school, college or university and get a degree. with that degree you can work in the appropriate fields. and if you don't wanna do any of that there are jobs which you can do without any degree.

the concept of men paying for a date, was invented back in a time where women DID NOT HAVE JOBS. how can you pay for food, when you don't have your own money? it made sense. however, now that women can have jobs and have their own money, we have no obligation to pay for you. period. and if you think that splitting the bill is not romantic , then get back in the kitchen, because that's what is romantic to men who have your logic.

[wmasters]

Very well said.

[Frankiealaplaaja]

Hmmmm... You're a little off here and there:
1 - Showing her you can have a good time doing silly things to the point where she's enjoying it more than you do because she's been so serious, she's forgotten what it's like.

2 - I've never enjoyed the 'hunt' and I never will. Plenty of opportunity though.

3 - I'm Dutch we always split bills. That's why (in part) I prefer to spoil her by cooking a dish fit for kings for her myself.

4 - Really? "Hotline for men"? I mean I'm not afraid to be weak. Everyone's weak at some point. But role conforming is something I don't give a cr*p about.

5 - Okay this one's more of a tease: You think that intelligent men who are capable of empathy still don't know what mansplaining is? Honestly, I feel kind of talked down to like I were incapable of understanding because I'm a man.

6 - Doing it myself I'm much gentler than any girl/woman has ever been.

Then again, I don't think I fall under the category the initial question would imply...
Then why do I even bother answering it. Devils advocate?

[DWD1994]

"There are a lot more things to do at 10 o’clock at night now than there were 20 years ago. Streaming video, social media, console games, and everything else. With all these options men have stopped pursuing women as they once did. I guess that females are supposed to just pop out of the computer at them, in their parents house."

Why should they pursue women when we can just go on tinder, ask out 100+ women we know are interested in dating? You can't complain about men asking out women while simultaneously demanding we pursue you.

"5. Mansplaining
The term used to describe behaviour by a man explaining something to a woman (who may already know what he is talking about) making the woman feel she is being spoken down to as though she is somehow less intelligent than the gentleman in question because she is a female. So, basically manners or lack there of manners I should say."

I don't take anyone seriously that uses the phrase 'mansplaining'. It just translates to "You just did me a massive disservice by voicing a point of view that's different from my own and bringing up the possibility I might be wrong and thus hurting my ego in the process."

"4. Being Weak
From cry-ins, to test cancellations, to mansplaining to hotlines for men upset over?, the world seems to be overrun with snowflakes and weak men. The poor men/millennials who have spent their lives getting rewards and trophies, even when not deserved, who cannot handle “adulting”. Remember women are sapposed to be the more delicate and fragile gender not men, not men."

This short paragraph right here explains the difference between men and women. Men want people. Women want robots/utilities. Emotions are what makes people human. You sound like the type of person that would probably laugh in a guy's face if he were standing on the golden gate bridge about to commit suicide.

[Daniela1982]

The thing about porn is right on. Guys who view and quickly wank off to porn only have themselves to please. They don't have a real life sex partner to worry about or be concerned with gentle and taking your time. But that is bad when they want to actually date a girl. He wants her to be a porn queen and have sex like one and then he is only good for a short time as he was with porn. Then he will leave the girl hanging and unfulfilled. She will think, the hell with this selfish prick and he will be without another date.

[chris_987]

But if girls watch porn and and use vibrators does that mean they also don’t know how to please men? Or are girls not responsible for pleasuring men in the bed room

[Daniela1982]

@chris_987 Come on! Most guys get off in less than 5 minutes, thusly satisfied. You can't say women get off that fast.

[chris_987]

Yeah but your attitude towards men doesn’t necessarily make us want to please you, you make men sound like we’re completely useless so why would anyone put in effort with a girl who thinks we’re less than her?

[Wowgirl30q]

Nice Missy😀 @Daniela1982

[Daniela1982]

@chris_987 I'm reacting to porn which turns men into useless in a loving relationship.

[chris_987]

Yeah but then you’d have agree that vibrators and sex toys are changing women to and we all know you’re not ready to blame women for anything

[Gavyn]

... I take 15 minutes minimum, sometimes as long as an hour. Not every guy is the same by any means.

[Robertcw]

Porn is because guys are often rejected. It's more of a replacement. It's a vicious circle, and in my opinion girls are partially responsible for starting it.

Lot a guys are just DOA.

[sawno]

Thats quite a generalisation, i got a ton of sexual experience from digital sexual content in all its different forms. And it actually allows me to focus on the girl's pleasure and play with that so she feels maximum intensity. I never got the idea that she should just please me or needs to be able to somehow enjoy having my dick in her throat. Instead i learned the art of foreplay and driving a girl to the point of desperation for more. Teasing to toy with her mind so she desperately needs some relief from the intensity of it all. Without having seen that erotic content i'd probably have assumed foreplay was cuddling and its just about her giving me a blowjob and us fucking since thats all i ever heard people talk about.

[SkipStop]

👎 I strongly disagree. The true reason that can be broken down is the way society discriminates against men these days. Organizations offer more opportunities for women and hire more women or else feminists / misandrists will attack the organization and sue. There is no equality of opportunity. Colleges are even worse. There are programs and certificates that are offered to women only. Only. That is gender discrimination and for some reason are being allowed to do that. Schools are corrupt with liberal ideologies rather than science and facts. All this liberal propaganda is destroying development of men because liberal propaganda is anti-male. Men are NOT the problem and are not to blame. The stem or core of the problem is how society discriminates against men. And women can't find a good guy for the same reason. It's not man's fault at all. Liberals are against family and relationships.