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I changed jobs a few months ago and at the new workplace I met a gorgeous guy. He is 28 years old and he is incredibly good looking (the "spends 2 hours/day at the gym kind"), very masculine and dominant, he is super smart, also the team leader of the engineers team, he has an expensive car - the kind of guy that women fight over (our colleagues joke about it saying he is a player).

On the other hand, I am 29 years old, I'm slim and good looking but definitely not like the hot and gorgeous toned up princesses he LIKES on Social media. I consider myself rather smart than beautiful, even though I am feminine. On a scale from 1 to 10, I'd give myself a 7 and this guy a 9.

Normally, I wouldn't think this type of guy would look at a girl like me

We don't interact much. But recently I hurt my leg on a team building and the next day he showed up at my desk with pain medicine. I was surprised, and he told me he had constant problems with his knees and said I should ask for more medicine if I kept hurting. Then I started noticing little gestures like taking my defense in the reunions (2 times the same day) when he usually is combative and argumentative with other colleagues, even girls. I also noticed that his tone of voice visibly softness up when he talks to me, he smiles, but while talking to other colleagues, he is loud and sometimes a bit aggressive.

: when a colleague had a terrible idea during a meeting, he responded with "you keep on proposing that even though you know it never works!" When I had a bad idea, he said "I'm not saying your idea isn't good, but did you think of X and Y?"

Do you think it would be possible for him to like me, or am I reading too much in his nice protective behavior? Maybe he likes me as a collea

I want to clarify that when I say "feminine" and "masculine", I am referring to the behaviors society labels and associates with each. For example a "feminine" man would be someone that is more sensitive, expressive, sassy, etc.

The reason I am asking this question is because of two reasons. You don't need to read them to answer the question, but feel free to do so if you like:
1. I've been described as masculine by a lot of my friends. And it isn't because I dress differently or am a tomboy by any means, but because they claim I'm not as expressive, I don't use a lot of "feminine" gestures when I'm talking, I'm guarded, I am not the nurturing or domestic type, I'm a bit individualistic, I can sometimes put my career over other things, I don't know the right things to say to make a person feel better-- I'm more of a "fixer", I prefer to be in control and dominate, be the one to pay on dates, often have a hard time apologizing or telling someone how I really feel because of my pride, see vulnerability as a sign of weakness, etc.
2. Almost all the guys that are attracted to me (and vice versa) end up being more "feminine". The last guy I dated was overly sensitive. He would constantly need me to assure him that I cared about him. He was very expressive... hand gestures, sassy/fiesty, constantly wanted me to talk to him... all of it. When we argued, he was the one who would force me to talk it out and I was the one who would shut down. He got jealous very quickly and was very posessive. He would get very emotional and sentimental about small things, etc. He was the nurturing and domestic type. He said he preffered to cook and clean and wouldn't mind a woman who could bring in the money. He wasn't afraid to cry openly. Also, a lot of people used to tell me they thought he was gay simply because of these traits that society labels as feminine.

Is this just a coincidence or do others on here have similar experiences?

I keep seeing opinions and some questions about how it's unnatractive for a woman to curse from guys. I think the whole thing is stupid and that everyone should say what they want. You can be turned off by cursing all you like, but when it turns into you judging someone's character and intellegence just because they may say a swear word here or there is just stupid. Not everyone who curses is a bad person, or is trying to act like a macho man. Anyway enough of my ranting. What I want to know is if you ladies can go without cursing for a week especially around your guys friends? Do you think they'd notice, or view you as more or less feminine for it? Would you take note of how a guy who's a little new to you treats you when you haven't cursed in front of them yet? Do you think they'd view the change in behavior a turn off, or not treat you differently after the test is over?