Being feminine and why its treasured

[Anonymous]

Yes, i know, there are a lot of tomboys and stuff out there. I know im part tom boy myself. But today im going to talk about being femimine and why its so valued now.

Being feminine does'nt just mean liking rainbows, sunshine and unicorns, but it means life. Notice how females are the only ones able to bring life into the earth. Femininity also means to nurture and love. To be able to be vulnerable. This also doesn't mean to be weak but to let hard times be able to make you realize that we don't have to be cold hearted but to bring out the purpose of those hard times coming to pass.

You meet a lot of girls these days who are considered as "sluts" or "hoes". Those girls that push everyone away and even chase them out. You meet so much people with the moral of their life is "all for me and more for me" But just because equal rights is common now doesn't mean we should start loosing the value of being a girl.

You can be confident and feel beautiful.

What are your takes on femininity??

[SomeOtherGuy]

Feminine just seems odd to me. It's sometimes a gender role that's suppose to enforce what a woman should be, which in turn shames women who do not fit this mold.
Or it's a gender barrier, which is meant to divide men and women into some perfect binary that doesn't work with the world.
Sometimes it's an exclusionary practice that places men on top and women on bottom.
Or it's something that puts together traits that are actually just shared HUMAN traits and pretends that they're suppose to be for one person and not the other. In reality, they create a whole, healthy individual.

In truth, "Femine Traits and Masculine Traits" actually help round a person out. A person with proper "feminine traits" like compassion and empathy is less likely to be a sociopath.
A person with proper "masculine traits" like aggression and bluntness is more likely to accomplish their goals and express their desires.
These together lead to a healthy, rounded person.
The absence of either leads to issues in life.

However you define yourself and whatever part you choose to embrace doesn't need to be labeled. Just be happy being you, and try and find your balance. So far you're doing a good job I'd say. Make sure you value this balance in others as well, and keep your eyes open for the balance that compliments you best.

[siennaparker]

very true! i would consider myself half girly girl and half tomboy and I've gone through phases in my life when i embrace one side over the other which has helped me realize a lot. The past year i had that cold "push everyone away" attitude and i realized i lost my femininity and with that, a certain charm and gracefulness. Luckily, I've realized this and I've been working on embracing my femininity again.
So many people think its powerful and strong to be tough and selfish but i think true strength lies in being able to be vulnerable and loving and gentle... which all comes with femininity!
Some feminisits believe they must be strong, tough, independent and almost manly in order to be equals in society but I'm very against this. I think men and women just need to have mutual respect for the opposite gender. Its basic biology that males are the protectors and females are the nurturers... and there's nothing wrong with that as long as society doesn't degrade women for it.

Anwyays, i agree with you.. great post !

[FatherJack]

Best thing is not to give a shit what " society " expects... women have been brainwashed by man hating feminists that being feminine is weak & defective... no woman wants / respects a wussy doormat of a guy , equally we men do not want a masculine woman.

[myTake Owner]

Its like i was reading where i been so far too, where i was pushing people away for a while, embracing my one side more etc lol nice i love your take on this.

[ThisDudeHere]

"Notice how females are the only ones able to bring life into the earth."
Last time I checked, my mother didn't spontaneously give birth to me. It takes two to tango.
"we don't have to be cold hearted but to bring out the purpose of those hard times coming to pass."
Perhaps but from a practical standpoint, being coldhearted gets the job done more often than being meek.

I have my take on femininity. And it is such that femininity is simply a lack of masculinity (albeit it could work the other way around). What is masculinity? It's the idea of embracing hard work, ruggedness, discipline and other such characteristics that allow for better chances of getting further in life through effort.
Notice how some social-justice feminists complain that the only good, strong and independent female characters in video games and movies act like men. The thing here is not that women act like men, but that women and men act masculine - and in this way they actually get shit done. A meek, flamboyant, submissive or even 'nurturing' and 'delicate' man or woman is not the archetype for the leader or badass character.

My endpoint is not that femininity is bad. No. I myself like feminine women. But from a logically practical point of view - masculinity accomplishes new things. It builds and maintains civilization and invents technologies because those things require stern and solid as concrete individuals that are the leader type. Albeit, I have to admit that femininity does good as a supportive role. Where man struggles, woman helps him. It has been this way since the dawn of time.

[SomeOtherGuy]

" Femininity isn't bad. It's just the complete lack of hard work, discipline and getting further in life."
- Your logic.

[ThisDudeHere]

@SomeOtherGuy what are you getting at?

[SomeOtherGuy]

Just that these sound like they're in contradiction.

Personally I value hard work and discipline and getting further in life. I also value that desire in a woman. A disciplined woman who works hard and gets further in life is attractive. They can still maintain femininity though. Their pursuit could be women's fashion, for example.

I guess I fail to agree with your definition of feminine is all.

[ThisDudeHere]

Oh I guess I had to elaborate and state that I just thought that femininity isn't all that bad because it works as a supportive role.

[ThisDudeHere]

By the way, I have to commend you on a pretty awesome profile name. Nice choice :D

[SomeOtherGuy]

Thanks. Glad it wasn't taken when I got it.
Traditional Feminine does work best as a support roll. The same can be said of "Feminine Traits."
A number of guys exhibit these traits, and work well in nurse, clergy or administrative rolls.

[Yc2K15]

I love this!
Girls just being girls, ladies.. loving them selves because woman are seriously incredible creatures!
Some girls don't understand how beautiful they are even if they think they are fat or tall or whatever.

I personally am attracted to women in touch with nature and understanding their value despite their appearances. Your so young yet seem so wise. I hope that you understand that cosmetic surgery isn't feminine. Its actually fake and weird lol. because you are a seriously beautiful girl if that is you and please don't let nature take its place. because nature is the beauty people need to see!

[Consultant]

Being feminine is exhibiting female traits, being cute, innocent, thoughtful, sweet, adorable, sexy, and on and on.

Just like men need to exhibit masculine traits: protection, providing, being loyal and strong, being a leader etc.

It's not about which is better, it's about working together as a team.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Naw those are gender roles. They're way different.

A dude can be thoughtful and sweet and sexy.

A girl can be a loyal, strong, and a leader. Can also do plenty of protection. The term "mama bear" isn't just for shits and giggles.

[CootiesInfection]

i think femininity is a crock of overrated shit. sure, on the outside its a nice soft place to put your meat stick. but on the inside it is full of thorns, estrogen and vicious ways. resist the urge to bone, because beneath that vagina is a wretched soul with teeth that will bite your dick off

[KHaskins]

Wow. Why don't you tell us how you REALLY feel.

[SomeOtherGuy]

I kind of hope you're gay, because no one who wants to establish a relationship with a woman should view them this way.

[LilWeezey]

As a girl he's kinda right. Super feminine chicks are MAJOR bitches. So vicious.
Worse than men

[CootiesInfection]

im just saying femininity itself has become a front for all the worst most malicious aspects of women to pass them off as beautiful and pretty

[Anonymous]

I hate being feminine. I'm not some dainty little thing that needs help 24/7.
I'm a big girl I can handle my own.

Unfortunately there's some feminine traits I can't get rid of.

I guess that makes me less desirable to guys. But if so many men didn't bitch about helping thier girl out, or anything else I wouldn't feel that way.

Men say they want tough girls but when they actually get one they want some dainty flower

[StickStickity13]

Men are drawn to feminine women usually. If I wanted to be with masculine people I'd hang in with guys.

[Mesonfielde]

That actually makes sense, although I wouldn't make it female-exclusive as the name implies.

[peachblossomluck]

I love being feminine! Let's not put the selfish label on the women, though when it's an equally undesireable trait in men as well.

[genuinlysensitive]

Men do like feminine traits in women, in fact we love them! For whatever reasons feminists have taken these traits and convinced so many women that they are signs of "weakness." Nothing could be further from the truth :)

[SomeOtherGuy]

Not even close to true.
Look up "Lipstick Feminism."

[genuinlysensitive]

100% true! Look at what feminists DO not their propaganda pages.

Look up "Propaganda."

[Yc2K15]

loo up "hahahahha"

[Anonymous]

Femininity is attractive certainly but I don't think it should be 'treasured' any more than masculinity. It takes male and female to make new life.

[Anonymous]

Great take. I love the women who embrace femininity. It seems most women today have turned their backs on it, which is tragic.

[Anonymous]

Oy vey... this isn't correct. God brings life. Not females entirely. Look, without God, women would never get pregnant. Without men, women would be without a source of sperm. We all have our part.

[Zeanobia]

Except recent studies found a way for women to get pregnant without a man's help.

www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...n-claim-scientists.html

[Opinion Owner]

Science is nothing compared to God. And, the people who made the artificial sperm made it for lesbian women. And those people were idiots.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Now replace God with "Bearded Sky-Man with Magic Powers."
Now replace that with "Flying Spaghetti Monster."

If one of those sentences sounded ridiculous or crazy or dumb, then that's how you sound to me. Because they're all the same thing.

Now replace God with "Allah."
Now replace God with "Buddha."

If any of those made you want to leap up and proclaim "wrong" or "false", then you are ignorant and close-minded. You lack understanding of other faiths.

Now replace God with "Zues."

The difference? That Zeus was easily disproven. The Abrahamic faiths are fast approaching that point as well. Evolution is siding against Abrahamic faith, and so is carbon dating with proves the world is much older than the 6000 years they thought it was.
At least Buddhism is smart enough to agree with science and believe science while maintaining a solid core for their faith and philosophies.

[alb84]

@Zeanobia... that is not reproducing..., that is cloning the mother ;),

"Any babies born from the process would be female and genetically identical to their mother."

and yes, cloning can be a positive thing in extreme cases (like male infertility or such), but if this practice would be done worldwide in a massive scale we would slow or even stop the evolutionary process or our species; reproducing is not just giving birth, is about combining genetic pools, as far as I know. Different things.

[LilWeezey]

There's goes science meddling in shit it shouldn't
Did we learn nothing from Jurassic Park?
Don't play God/Mother Nature

Faux babies are going to cause and have all sorts of issues..

[Zeanobia]

My mistake @alb84 , here's the correct article based on the same principle:

www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...en-make-babies-men.html

In your credit, there's also this paragraph

"People also inherit not just genes but chemical gene switches, called imprints, that can turn some genes off.

Chromosomes taken from body cells have different patterns of imprinting to egg and sperm cells that could cause developmental abnormalities, which may be why cloning often ends in failure. "

[alb84]

@Zeanobia I hope they succeed, this could solve a lot of problems, though it seems they still have a long way to go, and problems to solve, but it looks promising... now they must figure it out how to make a kid without a female XD jejeje.. tbh, all this is interesting... and a bit scary at the same time XD jajajaja

[Zeanobia]

by the way OP, as I was trying to point out. We no longer live in the world that you were describing. While I know I better than discussing religion on the Internet (trust me, that's flamewar waiting to happen). I believe this disproves the need of men as a source of sperm.

Lesbians doesn't have men in their life soo ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Wowzers... excluded from my own comment...

[Opinion Owner]

Also, God's existence is a proven scientific fact! I did a report on it.

[COCOCHANEL]

i love being feminine and girly ♡