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So I've been single 2 years, we all know that sucks, but my ex wants back together, we got along great but we broke up because i had ZERO physical attraction to her. So should i get back with her to get rid of being lonely? We had a very comfortable relationship, but again the physical aspect was non-existant for passion. Otherwise she was like a best friend. Should i just settle for a comfortable relationship?

It is PC approved to say that appearance doesn't matter and OF COURSE we shouldn't "fat shame" anyone. That means that you aren't supposed to have any negative thoughts or feelings towards anyone just because they weigh as much as a baby elephant. That's a wonderfully exalted and elegant theory of the way things ought to be but it simply fails to account for the real world.

For real people, appearance is a big factor in physical attraction. I am attracted to some women and not others; I like petite, diminutive women who have a cute face. I am not attracted to significantly overweight women. You can send me to a PC re-education center and have me sit through sensitivity training classes until the cows come home

and I still won't be attracted to seriously overweight women. I have dated women who were 10-20 pounds overweight but that is the limit for me. I never told a girl that I did not want to date her because of her size, but I never dated a girl who I thought was abnormally large.

Fortunately, none of my partners in long term relationships ever gained any substantial weight while we were together. I'm not sure that I would have left them because of that. I probably would have talked to them, inquired about possible depression, medical conditions causing weight gain, offered to help them with dieting and exercise, etc. But I don't think I could stay in a relationship with a woman who was 5' 4" and 190 pounds.

Could you do it? Could you stay with a partner if they gained a significant amount of weight?

(SJW's: If you don't like what I said, I don't want to hear from you! Save you opinion for someone who actually cares about what you think.)

Understand that for the sake of brevity, I'm speaking in generalizations, so I expect answers to be generalized, too.



In talking about romantic relationships, is physical attraction to one's appearance a luxury (something that can be done without) or a necessity?