I am a woman in her early twenties that’s been in one short term relationship. I seem to not get much (any) attention in social scenarios. I know of women that have men flock to them and have a list of suitors. This was never my reality.
I can see how this was understandable when I was a chubbier teen in high school. I have always had a low self esteem and knowing that nobody wanted to date you while some of your peers had it going for them made you feel terrible. I automatically jump to the realization that I’m unattractive. It doesn’t help that I’m reserved too.
Yet, people (not solely family members and female friends) give me a decent amount of compliments. This includes men too. My first relationship began around a year ago and it was with a guy that didn’t even fully meet my standards from a physical standpoint. He wasn’t romantic and what kept things going were his good sense of humor.
At the time of my first relationship and even prior (post high school), I lost all of that weight that made me repulsive and hoped it would lead to more attention. Guess what? I was still in this dry spell. Family members that I no longer speak to always ask if I have a boyfriend and how I should really get one because of how “pretty I am”.
Guys, what is so wrong with me that you all want nothing to do with me? Call me a shallow bitch for placing a decent amount of my preference on physical appearance to feel attraction. Yet again, don’t we all? Not as if I can become lesbian because women don’t look at me either😂.
Oh you know what else is frustrating? When people tell you that this guy was checking you out and when you later see who it was, it ends up being someone of your type. So, why didn’t they do something about it? Coward much? Or when you only attract guys that you’re not interested in. Cmon life, must you really throw that card at me after all the shit I’ve faced with other people already?
Maybe I’m not attractive after all and guys just feel like they’re too good for me so they stay away. Fair enough. Do yourself the favor. I’m coming to terms with my bad luck in love and will continue to be content with my own company.