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My boyfriend told me about a situation and I'm having trouble seeing it from his perspective. I'd appreciate your feedback.

He says a woman "took advantage" of him. In the past, when he was with another woman, he was friends with a woman who he admits he was attracted to. His girlfriend was on tour at the time, so out of town. He says he had one drink at a party and felt messed up. He says he may have been drugged.

He says he went to his friend's house because he was "scared". He said he doesn't remember anything else. The next morning, she said "you were so out of it, I had to drink a bunch to not feel like I was taking advantage of you". He freaks out and says she raped him. His girlfriend I guess believed him because they moved on (he went on to sleep with 2 more women during their monogamous relationship). No one else believed it was rape. Their mutual friends saw it from her perspective (she felt humped and dumped).

First of all, I believe men can be sexually assaulted by women (inappropriate touching, sexually exploited, etc). I don't think men are animals. BUT in this case, why did he show up at HER place? And she didn't feed him booze and drugs. How is she held responsible? If a guy I really liked who also flirted with me made a move on me when he was drunk, I wouldn't think he was in a vulnerable state.

He has acquainted the situation to a male friend of mine trying to penetrate me in my sleep. This man and I had no romantic history. There was no suggestion of romance. I was visiting from out of town and stayed over. When I woke up to him on top of me, I left and wandered the streets of New York in shock (and almost jumped on the subway tracks, I was in such a state).

Did this woman take advantage of him? Did we experience something similar? Am I being a dick? My emotional response is FUCK THAT! HE'S A CHEAT AND BLAMES THIS WOMAN 😡 but maybe I'm missing something... or it's not rape and I'm so pissed he would compare our experiences. Thoughts?

Every time I’ve had a friend that’s a girl, they’ve all turned out to be nuts. One said I was selfish for not going to school for a week to hang out with her because I was sitting with my dying grandfather in the hospital. Another said I was a terrible friend for buying her a cute expensive dress for her birthday. Then I was walking with my roommate and a couple pulled up next to us in their car with their 3 kids in the car and a dog, and asked us directions to the nearest dog park. She then proceeds to call her mom crying saying that she was almost kidnapped and put into sex trafficking. And now my current ex-friend said that she’s afraid my BEST FRIEND for 18 years (who’s gay) will rape her and beat the shit out of her for absolutely no reason. The only time they’ve hung out is with me. My Mom screams when anyone is sad, and has hated me ever since I dumped my ex boyfriend that raped me repeatedly.

I mean even I’ll agree that I’m a little crazy.