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boyfriend and I have been together 8 years. I have always gotten him a gift for Valentine’s Day, or made something requiring time and effort if I couldn’t afford it. Earlier in the week, boyfriend said he didn’t know what to get me after he noticed I had liked some gifts other people had gotten on Twitter (just thought it was nice, wasn’t trying to make a point)

Fast forward a few days. We’re in a shop and they have a big studio ghibli plush for $45. I brought him to the side away from anyone who might hear and asked if he wanted to buy the plush for my valentine. I planned to get it regardless of his answer. He agreed but his attitude changed. We got into the car, he grilled me for “putting him on the spot” and even said he thought we were past “materialism.” I was taken aback as I never ask for money/gifts and only asked because he expressed worry over it, and I led him away from people as to NOT put him on the spot. He also said I don’t know if he even has that much money (I know he has roughly $60,000, he just doesn’t keep it all directly in his checking account, he’ll withdraw however much he needs at the time and that’s what he’s referring to). However, he’s spent more than that on me even before he had money. We were both broke high schoolers when we got together, so I obviously didn’t get with him for that. He also spends more than that on himself on a regular basis, so I figured it was something he could easily afford.

Almost the day after this, he buys a $300 watch for himself. I feel worthless and unimportant. I couldn’t care less about money. I just want to feel like I matter and am thought about. I ended up having to work on Valentine’s and came home with his favorite beers (which he didn’t drink a single one) and spent 6 hours making pineapple upside down cupcakes and he still pouted that I didn’t buy him anything when I have less than $100 to my name.

Am I the asshole for being upset at him or for asking about the plush? Or is he? Thanks in advance!

He came over to our table and he said hi girls can I get you all a drink. There was four of us. My friend said aww thanks who do you really want to buy for. He started between my friend and me who didn’t speak to him and kept looking at both of us. Then my friend went it’s her (meaning me) isn’t it? And he went yeah sure and then took my number.

He then left and never paid for the drink he ordered for us and my friends said he left not long after that maybe 10 mins after. He never texted me. And a notification from another girl had came up on his phone.

When he came over to talk to us he stood next to my friend too.

Did he not text and leave cos he wanted my friend not me?

But if it was that why didn’t he just talk to her? Why stare between her and me?