Guys, my ex put in so much effort in hanging out and only wants to be friends?

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm a little confused. He made so much effort to see me. Told me it was just gonna be him and I hanging out, doing whatever we wanted. Drove 2 hours away, spent 4+ hours together, he opened doors for me, pulled out my chair for me, bought me drinks, and spent money so I could play games. I offered to go half and half for our drinks (after he denied letting me buy my own) and also offered to give him back the change he spent on me but he refused. He tried to get his brother to leave several times.
When it was just us, he didn't make any sort of move on me. I was suprised. Shocked. Thought maybe this was a long shot booty call, but he was really respectful. He even made sure I got home safe. I asked if he still had feelings for me like when we were younger in high school - but he kept it vague. Didn't out right say no that he wasn't interested, just kept saying that he thinks I'm attractive, and really cool, and he doesn't know why he talked to me in high school - he just wanted to and he's happy he did. We both had a really great time, he said he didn't want it to end, when I moved closer to him he didn't react at all. So I backed off and ended the day.

He has even been messaging me and wanting to play online together. Now I don't know whether or not I should hang out with him again in person. I don't want my feelings getting in the way if he just wants to be friends. I feel like I misinterpreted everything and feel kinda stupid.

[mark000h]

That's a decision only you can make. If he is friend zoning you, you would know and most people with feelings would choose not to put themselves through such hurting. You need to ask him flat out what he feels, no bullshit, straight out what are his intentions. Then you'll know.

[Asker]

I did and he kept it vague.

[mark000h]

Then, unfortunately, you have to be the one to decide since he doesn't want to say it flat out what he wants. He could be stringing you along as some kind of backup for companionship, he could only want friendship or he might not even know what he wants. It's on you just how much you're willing to put up with.

[Honesttguy]

How many times u hanged out already? Dont say just this 1 time

[Asker]

He lives 2 hours away. We talk practically everyday though. When he came close we hung out in real life - told me i was the main reason he planned his trip. We hung out for hours, until I had to leave for work the next day. He wants to hang out again. In fact wanted to play online games yesterday. We hadn't seen each other in like 10 years.

[Honesttguy]

U said a lot of stuff but didn't answer my simple question.

[Asker]

This is the first time. But he keeps on messaging me and wanting to hang again

[Honesttguy]

U expected to have sex on first meetup?

[Asker]

I didn't know what to expect. It has been 10 years.

[spartan55]

So, you thought you were getting back together?

[Asker]

Yes and no. I thought it was hanging out like old times until he apologized about his brother being there. it wss also the way his brother seemed to think it was a date. Made comments about "he's a Young man and can do whatever he wants" and stuff.

[Asker]

And he also mentioned thinking about me a lot. Like a lot, a lot. I don't know. I guess I was reading it wrong. I don't mind being friends with him, I was just hoping for more.

[spartan55]

He misses the sex, don't fall for it.

[Asker]

It was was like 10 years ago.

[spartan55]

Yeah, so?

[Asker]

So we've never had sex.

[In_Trance]

what are you even doing? move on