Should I buy just you or you and your friend a drink?

[Ratpack60]

Ladies if you were sitting in a bar with a female friend and I was interested in you. Should I offer to only buy you a drink? Or would that be rude? If I offered to buy both of you a drink would you think I’m trying to see which of you I had a shot with? I don’t want to be rude to your friend but I want to meet you.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think it’s rude to buy somebody a drink when you do not like them because you are giving me the idea your willing to lie to them for social reasons - pretend to like you to attract your friend etc… But to be polite, you could buy their friends a bottle of sprite and then buy the girl you like a bottle of wine, that way everyone gets a gift but it’s obvious who your main target is.

[Anonymous]

It is an odd situation to hit on someone.. you want to talk with me, but you'd think I just leave my friend hanging?
I'd say don't buy any drinks at first and try to talk with both of us. If we strike up a nice conversation then you can buy us a round of drink, if you like.. and flirt with the one you like the best.

[TrueConfection]

There is nothing wrong with only buying for one of the women. I would get the impression you were trying for a shot with either/both if you bought for both and that would just seem like desperation instead of interest.

[Guccigabbana18]

This

[Bside]

I'm buying the guy I like a drink. I am also very direct like I think your hot and I will buy you a drink. I don't like to be unproductive. A guy buys me and my friend a drink then which one is he trying to impress. I really don't drink but you get my point.

[Jessica405]

Don't bother. A polite (?) rack off tends to offend. Two girls in a bar might well be having a private meeting and do not want to be interrupted. Personally, I loathe guys who think they have a chance. I have a long time live-in boyfriend.

[Ratpack60]

They may be there to have a private conversation. Or they be out to have fun and meet people. To loathe someone that doesn’t know you and just being friendly is strong. But I respect your opinion and feedback

[Jessica405]

Any girls out to attract guys will make it obvious by continually looking round to see who is eyeing them up. If looking round doesn't happen, forget trying.

As for loathing guys that trybit on with me, I work in a busy cafe. Every day I get guys trying it on. I have to be polite, otherwise I could lose my job. Thankfully, this cafe job is only temporary.

[Dojaphat456]

Usually the guy buys both of us a drink and he proceeds to talk to the girl he's interested in

[TwinkleLily5]

It’s best to buy the one he is interested in a drink only. Don’t send mixed signals because sometimes the one he’s not interested in will think she has a shot with him too. Only buy both a drink if you aren’t decided on which one you like more.

[LindsayLesling]

Definitely BOTH. Because it feels rude if a guy were to just buy 1 girl a drink. In my lifetime, the guy has always offered to buy BOTH girls the drink and then hits on whatever girl he wants. You see?

[shaysh87]

if trying to get 1 chick , only buy 1 of them a drink.

do not try to score the brown haired girl but then buy the blonde hair girl a drink too. this will send the wrong message.

[KrisPW]

I like the Anon comment below about talking first, then maybe buying a round if a conversation is started. This lets you off the hook if we aren't looking for attention, and your intentions toward one or the other will be obvious.

[Guccigabbana18]

But just the girl you are interested in a drink I would say. Some women might think (and I would think) you were interested in both of us if you tried to buy both of us one.

[Medicalbug]

Just come up and talk to us. I don't like it when people buy things to get my attention, it implies awaited reciprocation.