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We have certification for pilots, programmers, network engineers.. so fewer people get hurt and... things work better! Certification for relationships... not so much. Let's start with men...

Our society is really messed up. Time to work on fixing it! Would you support the idea of a training program for men, to create a greater availability of quality men who are trained, healed, in a better place to have good relationships? Call it the Society of well trained awsome men (SOWTAM).

Men would attend training on differences in men/women, how to interact with women, approach, dating help, relationship training. More importantly, self development, confidence, values definition, how to find compatible women, how to deal with women, raising children, etc..

There would be different levels of attainment and have to pass classes verificable by online lookup. Can be linked to online dating profile. Should have mentors. Part of the training would be emotional development and healing and they don't pass until they demonstrate qualities.

We could not cast upon men their values, that is something they have to find in themselves and declare. Note... this is already happening, it's just that players are doing the training and making more players... maybe we can instill some better qualities?

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Kimberley Latham-Hawkesford went on a date with a man she met on Tinder in December. Three months later, the suiter allegedly sent her a very lengthy set of improvements for her to make before their next meeting.

On Facebook, the 24-year-old posted the surprising list, where it has gone viral with over 24K shares and 15K reactions

"At first I was absolutely mortified and it killed my confidence, but the more I read it the funnier it became. I couldn’t understand how a guy could say such things to a woman,” she said.

"Hello Kimberley, I know we went on a date quite a while ago now but I’d like to explain why I haven’t messaged you. I feel like you could have made the date much better, here’s a few reasons why. I apologize if I offend you."

The pages of text continue with a 15 bullet-point list, mapping out each way James allegedly feels Latham-Hawkesford could improve herself.

• If you lost some weight you would look incredible. Maybe a stone or so.

•You are very pale. I know you aren't a fan of the sun but a bit of fake tan won't hurt.

•You have quite big boobs so you should show off your cleavage more.

•I think you need to wear clothes that suit your figure and maybe update your style slightly. Just so I'm not embarrassed to be seen with you.

•You need to dye your hair a normal colour and add extensions. Longer hair is much more attractive😍

•You need to look more natural, stop wearing makeup. Just make yourself look decent but don't overkill it.

• Your lips have gone down so you should think of getting more filler. I know you said you regretted it but filler would make you sexier.

•You need so much more confidence, confidence is sexy!

•The fact you take things slow makes you look like a prude. I didn't get a kiss which messed with my ego. Be more sensitive to others feelings.

•When we had food I know you got a salad but having full fat coke is more calories you really don't need.

I feel very disappointed and angry with myself, it hurts my confidence every time, unfortunately, it happens literally multiple times every day in any way that it can. How do you feel when you come in second place?