Regret having sex with him. Was sex all he wanted from me in the end?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy a little over a year ago. We started talking after we remembered each other from when we were younger. Our families went to the same church and his old brother once has a crush on my sister. Point is we started talking and would talk every day non stop. Hung out a couple times just to talk. He never really tried having sex with me. It was going fine. But then a close friend of his ended up in the hospital. He would call me to update me and I tried my best being there for him. But once he passed away he sort of started becoming distant. We still spoke but not as much as before. I understand he needed space which was fine. Then as time went on it just came to the point we just stopped completely. It did hurt me a bit when we stopped. I felt like i just wasn’t good enough for him. I did end up actually liking him for he was the only guy who was kind and treated me with respect. I liked that he had priorities and values. We would still make small conversations once in awhile. When I injured my knees he reached out to me to ask what happened. It was always short small convos. Recently we started talking a slight bit. He asked how my family was and just caught up a bit. Then came one night and he came over. We were talking a bit but then kissed which lead to having sex. After we were done he kind of stayed for a bit until he had to leave and fell asleep. Once it was time for him to go to work he got up and as I walked him out he kissed me on the forehead twice as a goodbye. After we really have spoken as much again.

Now I kind of regret having sex with him. Don’t get me wrong every moment of it was great. But now I feel like that’s all he really wanted from me. He is a good looking man and honestly I always felt like I was out of his league. I know there are beautiful ass girls who probably try to talk to him. Don’t get me wrong I had built a lot of confidence in myself but after having sex with him. My anxiety just kicked back in and all went down.

[zippididooda]

People have sex with each other for any number of reasons. If you have sex with someone and the reason coincides with your expectations there'll be no regret. The regret comes when the reason for having sex doesn't meet up with the aftereffect of realizing what you've done. For example, most times people have sex when they get horny for each other. Sometimes it's because they're horny for someone else. Sometimes it's because they're hurting emotionally and they need a way to prove to themselves that they're still a good person. Sometimes they've just been dumped and they need someone to help them get their sense of worth back. Sometimes they need to prove they still "have it". I get the impression you were consoling a grieving person who still was feeling the loss of a friend. But you did have sex and it didn't do what it was supposed to for you, so you feel regretful.

[MrMister5]

This seems like it could be either way based on the information you gave. Usually dudes don't waste too much time if sex is all there looking for which one of the main reasons aside possibly from entitlement (which usually isn't one and the same) that dudes are upset about the whole friendzone phenomenon. Then again some guys would talk to multiple girls like yourself and see where it goes. The best thing I could recommend is talk to him for starters and THEN more important than that watch his actions (ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS). However you have to try to be secure in yourself as much as possible or else he could either take advantage of this or it could also chase him away.

[Royalsarcasist]

It’s okay girl, some guys are insecure and are looking for someone to use for momentary pleasure. He maybe at one point really did like you, but he became distant because of his friend. Maybe his therapy was sex, which is unfortunate because it hurts women that way. I wouldn’t worry about it. Watch a movie with friends, enjoy the people that care. Don’t waste your time on that douchebag

[Browneye57]

Another girl that thinks they can land a player by fucking him. FAIL
Yes, you were a warm place to put it.

Girls are the keepers of sex.
Guys are the keepers of commitment.
Don't be giving up yours without getting at least a little of his.

[Gedaria]

It c just of been the time. Both of you needed some love it happened and possibly both are sad that what you did , didn't really help either of you and both could well wish it hasn't happened...

[boggboss]

Have u tried to talk with him since

[Asker]

He messaged me saying he left his hat. I told him I had found it and that I would keep it with me for when ever he wanted to get it. But he didn’t say anything after that. So I just assume he probably doesn’t want it or doesn’t really want to come back. My anxiety is just killing me from this.

[boggboss]

So u are part off the reason you have not spoken

[CoffeeWC]

Don't sell yourself short.

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

Wanted you for sex only

[Anonymous]

Sex is literally all we want from any of you.

[cearlbos]

No but immaturity was all him