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I've had a few casual dalliances with women who turned out to be engaged, married or otherwise taken. No, I did not know they were taken at the time, and it would have been a dealbreaker for me if I did know. Usually, the men and I find out about each other at the same time.

The whole experience has shaken my trust in women to the point that I really don't want to take any woman for my wife, because I thought the women I was messing around with were high enough integrity to not step out behind anyone's back. Clearly I'm either a bad judge of character or surrounded by skilled liars.

In any case, the thought occurred to me that I should probably just start asking women I date if they're entangled with anyone. But then I realized that any woman who was down to go behind their boyfriend/husband's back, probably wouldn't think twice about lying to the men she messes around with. All that being said, if I do ask, at least then I can say that I DID technically ask, you know... from like a personal morality standpoint. I didn't just assume anything; I asked, but she still deceived me.

I once had a woman ask me if I was married several times, and it was honestly a big turn off to me. I understood where she was coming from, but the suspicion threw me off and kind of offended me.

So, I come humbly before you, G@G, to ask for your opinions:

Is it worth taking the time to ask a woman if she's taken before we mess around and risk offending her, or would I be better off just assuming that she'd tell me she was single/available whether or not it was true?