Did my Friend with benefits catch feelings?

[Anonymous]

I have this friend who I’ve been sleeping with for a few months now (he was my first and still currently the only guy I’ve slept with). Before we started messing around with each other, I was fully aware of his player lifestyle… and the fact that he sleeps around a lot. I expected him to treat me like one of the many girls he’s been with, but he doesn’t. He’s very gentle and passionate in bed with me. Which is strange, because when we were just friends he would tell me stories about all the crazy adventurous stuff he’s done with other girls (which he still hasn’t done with me.. but I want him to). It feels more like we’re making love than just having sex. It involves a lot of kissing and every position we’ve tried is face to face (not even doggy style) And although we keep our friends with benefits status a secret, he still shows affection in public. At first it would just be at parties or any night time events (we’d make out and get handsy) but recently it’s kinda changed. The other day, he gave me a long compassionate hug in public in broad daylight and then kissed me on the cheek. My 2 best friends (the only people that know about us) are convinced that he has feelings for me, but I’m not sure. I can’t tell if it’s because we’re actually friends…and he doesn’t usually stay friends with people he’s messed around with, or If he actually caught feelings.

[barefoot_babe]

Well he could, I mean all the signs are pointing to yes that you are special to him and he does care about you, but there is always that possibility that he just doesn't want to hurt you because you guys are friends and you were inexperienced so he just wants to take care of you. It seems more that he caught feelings but both are possible. I would ask him just why he isn't crazy with you or why he doesn't treat you like the other girls in his stories and based off of that answer you'll probably be able to figure it out. Like if he says he wasn't sure if you were ready for that or if you wanted that then he probably hasn't caught feelings. But if he seems to be making something up then he may have feelings for you.

[MarkyMark77]

@barefoot_babe hey can u follow me? i gotta question about another reply. also which one is you in profile pic haha?

[barefoot_babe]

@MarkyMark77 yeah im following you now- you can ask in PM

[MarkyMark77]

@barefoot_babe thanks! i just messaged ya

[Wise4myage]

Yep, anytime two people start having sex on a regular basis, than its really hard for one or both of them to not catch feelings.

[spartan55]

I know you really want him to, but the probability is very slim.

[spartan55]

I'm curious why you agreed to the friends with benefits arrangement to begin with? I'm fairly certain it wasn't your idea.

[Asker]

The arrangement was a mutual agreement. Tbh I’m not ready for commitment and neither is he. And why do you think the probability is slim?

[spartan55]

You're not ready for a committed relationship, but you are ready for sex without love and being used? Yeah right... You will see it's not what you think.
A relationship is unlikely because if he thought enough of you he would have wanted that all along. Free pussy never gets upgraded to a relationship. The respect isn't there.

[Iron_Man]

That’s extremely unsafe to share a guy with several people I hope you don’t get a disease

[Luckycharms12]

It happens